When our kids melt down, snap back, or seem resistant, it's easy to think, "This is bad. I need to make this stop." But when we see our child's behavior as a threat, our nervous system gets pulled into the struggle too, and everyone stays stuck longer. The real shift that shortens hard moments doesn't come from controlling behavior. It comes from changing the meaning we give it.

In this episode, you'll hear:

• Why your child's negativity or resistance is a sign of discomfort, not defiance
• How the story you tell yourself about your child's behavior determines whether situations escalate or resolve
• What you need in order to help kids' behavior improve more quickly

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When our kids aren't listening, we often default to talking more in an attempt to be more clear...more firm...more persuasive. But as we know, our EXTRA words often don't lead to better results. Fortunately, the solution to motivating more responsibility in our kids takes less energy, not more.

In this episode, you'll hear:

• Why a child's "not listening" may not be a listening problem
• What to say and do so that your child is more likely to do things they don't feel like doing
• What YOU likely need in order to implement this strategy

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LIVE PLANNING SESSION: When Emotions Control Your Home: Build Your Plan to Calm Emotional Storms (When Nothing Seems to Work)

Free resources to support you as you're raising children with big emotions

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As parents, we want to be a steady, positive influence...someone our child trusts, listens to, and feels safe with. But in the hardest moments, that influence often slips away, not because we don't care or aren't trying, but because our child's reactions pull us into doubt, urgency, or over-accommodation. In this episode, I explain why influence breaks down under pressure, and how rebuilding it starts with balancing confidence and connection.

In this episode, you'll hear:

• Why confidence without connection can lead to shame, power struggles, and self-doubt in kids
• How connection without confidence can actually increase anxiety and resistance
• What it sounds like in real life to hold firm limits and care about your child's experience so both of you feel safer and more capable

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LIVE PLANNING SESSION: When Emotions Control Your Home: Build Your Plan to Calm Emotional Storms (When Nothing Seems to Work)

Free resources to support you as you're raising children with big emotions

Work with Rachel