If you've ever cleaned off a counter only to find it buried again two weeks later, this episode is for you.

We're kicking off a brand new series called Tame It — and we're starting where most people feel it first: home clutter. Not with a cleaning checklist or an organizing overhaul, but with the question nobody asks: why does it keep coming back?

In this episode, Dr. Alise walks you through a simple hot spot audit you can do in about 10 minutes — no cleaning required — and introduces the six most common reasons clutter keeps piling up in the same spots. Once you know your reason, you can actually fix it instead of just tidying up and waiting for the pile to return.

This series is specifically designed for people who have tried to get organized before and it lasted about a week. If you have ADHD, you're a creative, or you just have a full life and zero patience for complicated routines, you're in the right place. We're not going for perfect. We're going for manageable.

In this episode:

• Why clutter drains your mental energy even when you're not looking at it
• The kindergarten classroom model for designing your space around how you actually live
• How to find your personal clutter hot spots (and why they're never random)
• The six root causes of recurring clutter — listen for the one that sounds like you
• Your one action step before Part 2

Next week: Part 2 — we go through the fix for every root cause, including the one that's sneakier than it looks.

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The information contained and documents referenced in the podcast “Your Priority Centered Life” are for entertainment, educational and informational purposes only, and are not intended as, and shall not be understood or construed as, professional medical or health treatment, diagnosis, or advice. We strongly encourage listeners to consult with medical providers or qualified mental health providers with issues and questions regarding any physical and/or mental health symptoms or concerns that they may have. Furthermore, the opinions and views expressed by podcast guests, partners and/or affiliates are not necessarily those of the podcast host. Dr. Alise Murray’s opinions and views are expressed in her individual capacity and are not to be construed as those of any of her podcast guests, partners and/or affiliates.

Is what you're calling ambition actually avoidance? Executive coach Kenyada Meadows spent over 25 years in Wall Street risk and compliance before he started asking that question about himself. In this episode, he brings that same clarity to burnout, boundaries, and the cost of being everyone's go-to person.

Kenyada is the author of The New Alpha and The Passenger Seat, founder of Executive Parent, and host of The Executive Dad podcast.

Burnout rarely surprises us. The collapse can feel sudden, but the trade offs leading up to it almost never are. Kenyada shares the physical and emotional markers most of us learn to ignore, and why paying attention to them earlier changes everything.

One key question from this episode: who is asking you to do more, and why? People can genuinely like you and still not prioritize your wellbeing. Kenyada explains how to tell the difference and why it matters.

Using Jimmy Carter's protected family dinner time as an example, Kenyada makes the case that clear, consistent boundaries build respect rather than costing you opportunities. We also get into his "pass fail" principle: why the last stretch of polish on a task rarely earns its keep.

Pick one task you're treating as needing to be perfect. Ask what it would look like to get it to a genuinely good 80 percent and stop there.

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What are early signs of executive burnout? Persistent fatigue, ignoring physical health markers, and dread about returning to work after time off.

How do you tell ambition from avoidance? Ask who's asking you to do more, and why. If it only serves their agenda, that's worth examining.

Want to get a snapshot of your own life in just minutes? Take the free Prior 10 Life Assessment at www.prior10.com/assessment.

The information contained and documents referenced in the podcast “Your Priority Centered Life” are for entertainment, educational and informational purposes only, and are not intended as, and shall not be understood or construed as, professional medical or health treatment, diagnosis, or advice. We strongly encourage listeners to consult with medical providers or qualified mental health providers with issues and questions regarding any physical and/or mental health symptoms or concerns that they may have. Furthermore, the opinions and views expressed by podcast guests, partners and/or affiliates are not necessarily those of the podcast host. Dr. Alise Murray’s opinions and views are expressed in her individual capacity and are not to be construed as those of any of her podcast guests, partners and/or affiliates.

This is the final episode of the Actually Talking series, and possibly the one your chronically busy self needs most.

Dr. Alise opens with a story about her dad, a pile of stuffed animals, and a family of toys he didn't know existed. And from there: why the people who are best at getting things done are often the worst at handing things off, and what that's costing them and everyone around them.

In this episode:

• The pretend garage sale: a delegation story that works exactly the same whether you're talking to your eight-year-old, your partner, or your team
• Why high achievers resist delegation and why every reason they give is true in the short term and costly in the long term
• The hidden message micromanagement sends (and why it lands even when you don't mean it)
• What good delegation actually looks like: the questions to ask yourself before you hand anything off
• The household task exercise Dr. Alise uses with couples and what happens when they see the imbalance
• Why "good enough is good enough" isn't a lowering of standards — it's a path out of exhaustion and resentment
• The thread running through all four episodes: attunement, trust, and the relationships your life is built inside

This is the series finale of Actually Talking. We’ve covered kids, partners, problem-solving, and now delegation. If you've been listening, you've been doing the work. Keep going.

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The information contained and documents referenced in the podcast “Your Priority Centered Life” are for entertainment, educational and informational purposes only, and are not intended as, and shall not be understood or construed as, professional medical or health treatment, diagnosis, or advice. We strongly encourage listeners to consult with medical providers or qualified mental health providers with issues and questions regarding any physical and/or mental health symptoms or concerns that they may have. Furthermore, the opinions and views expressed by podcast guests, partners and/or affiliates are not necessarily those of the podcast host. Dr. Alise Murray’s opinions and views are expressed in her individual capacity and are not to be construed as those of any of her podcast guests, partners and/or affiliates.