In this episode of Your Southern Lesbian with host Ashley Hydrick, we’re asking: what if you’re not done with dating—you’re done with abandoning yourself to stay connected?

Ashley shares 7 things she’s no longer tolerating in lesbian relationships, including overgiving, people-pleasing, confusing anxiety for chemistry, accepting disrespect, and romanticizing delay. She also talks about emotional regulation, stopping negative thought spirals, and rebuilding self-trust through consistency.

If you’ve ever stayed silent to be “easy” or waited to be chosen—this one’s for you.

What are you done with this year?

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In this episode of Your Southern Lesbian with host Ashley Hydrick, we’re talking about intentional dating—especially during uncertain times.

Ashley shares 20 thoughtful questions to help you date with clarity, protect your mental health, and choose partners who align with your values. She explores emotional regulation, relationship readiness, and why who you date has a direct impact on your well-being.

If you’ve been feeling torn between wanting connection and protecting your peace—this episode will help you date more intentionally.

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🌈 In this episode of Your Southern Lesbian with host Ashley Hydrick, Ashley records from a London street while unpacking a question many lesbians—especially over 40—have faced: are those butterflies excitement… or anxiety?

Ashley breaks down how repeating toxic dating patterns can feel like chemistry, why love bombing and flattery can override our better judgment, and how getting clear on your non-negotiables is essential at this stage of life. This episode is about learning to say no, trusting your intuition, and choosing peace over familiar chaos.

If you’ve ever dated the same person in a different body, this one’s for you.

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🌈 In this episode of Your Southern Lesbian with host Ashley Hydrick, Ashley gives lesbians everywhere a loving push to stop waiting and start building real community.

From daytime meetups and movie nights to bookstores and activity-based gatherings, Ashley shares why the first meetup might not be your people (and why that’s okay), how to choose community over hookup spaces when that’s what you want, and simple pro tips for showing up solo—like arriving early and letting organizers help you connect.

If nothing in your area resonates, this episode might be the nudge you need to start something yourself.

The train is leaving—and you’re the train.

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🌈 Have you ever set a boundary — and immediately wondered if you were the problem?

In this episode of Your Southern Lesbian with host Ashley Hydrick, we talk about why pushback isn’t a sign you did something wrong — it’s often the clearest proof the boundary was necessary.

This episode explores:

• Why boundary resistance is information, not conflict
• How high-capacity people feel “difficult” when they stop over-functioning
• Why big personalities aren’t villains — but aren’t neutral
• The one reaction that tells you everything about compatibility

Boundaries don’t end relationships.

They end arrangements that only worked one way.

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🌈51. Are people really doing the best they can—and if they are, what do we do with the harm they still cause? And is success always growth… or is it sometimes just a distraction from unhealed trauma?

These two questions triggered the bleep out of me this week—and I’m guessing I’m not alone.

In Episode 51 of Your Southern Lesbian, I’m unpacking two ideas that pulled me in opposite directions: one rooted in compassion and boundaries, inspired by Rising Strong by Brené Brown, and another sparked by a quote from coach Brian Yang that seriously challenged how I think about success and trauma.

We talk about:

• Whether “doing your best” actually matters if harm is still happening
• How compassion without boundaries turns into resentment
• A deeply personal family story about my stepfather and what boundaries look like in real life
• Why success isn’t always healing—and when ambition might be avoidance
• What “enough” really means as we head into 2026

There’s humor, Southern rambling, British flight stories, Christmas chaos, and some real talk about trauma, growth, and choosing emotional safety without shutting your heart down.

I don’t have neat answers—but I do have lived experience, curiosity, and questions worth sitting with.

💬 I want to hear from you:

Do you think people are doing the best they can?

And how do you define success?

Drop your thoughts in the comments—and help me name my very chic Christmas gift while you’re at it. 😉

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This week, Ashley digs into the #1 holiday mistake lesbians make in relationships: expecting your partner to magically know what you need without ever saying it. Silent agreements, childhood patterns, love languages, and holiday pressure all collide this time of year — and it’s easy to project your needs instead of communicating them.

We talk about why mind-reading expectations create resentment, how to actually choose partners aligned with your energy, and what to let go of as we wrap up the final days of 2025’s Year of the Snake.

Short, sharp, and holiday-ready — this episode is your reminder to communicate clearly, give people grace, and stop expecting psychic abilities from your girlfriend.

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Episode 48 of Your Southern Lesbian with Ashley Hydrick explores why letting go of old patterns, old identities, and the wrong versions of love isn’t a loss — it’s an act of faith. Ashley breaks down how clinging to familiar but unhealthy emotional habits can block clarity, connection, and healthier love as we move into 2025–2026.

If you’ve been feeling stuck, repeating cycles, or holding space for someone who can’t meet you where you are, this episode offers grounded, compassionate guidance on releasing what no longer supports the life you want.

Tell me where you’re listening from + if this resonated. I read every message.

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