• Why you need to CHOOSE yourself: I'm taking a break from dating for a year + announcement
    Apr 16 2025

    In this episode of 'You're Not a Bad Person,' host Erica addresses themes of self-love, acceptance, and personal growth. She expresses gratitude for her listeners and reflects on her past of sex work, highlighting the importance of sharing one's story. She underscores the necessity of choosing oneself, fostering healthy habits, and avoiding temporary distractions like dating apps or numbing activities. Erica shares her decision to focus on personal growth, including an upcoming solo trip to Europe, and promises exciting guest interviews in the next season.

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    29 mins
  • Overcoming self-doubt, indecisiveness, & my biggest fear: no one will love me
    Apr 10 2025

    In this episode of 'You Are Not a Bad Person,' host Erica delves into the topics of self-doubt, indecisiveness, and fear of vulnerability. She recounts her personal struggles with guilt and shame, particularly related to her past as a sex worker and its impact on her dating life. Erica shares her journey of self-discovery, the importance of making decisions despite fear, and the concept of the 'paper dragon' — perceived obstacles that appear daunting but are ultimately manageable. She emphasizes the value of moving forward, making choices, and trusting one's gut, urging listeners to embrace their true selves and pursue their dreams without being hindered by the fear of judgment or failure.

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    24 mins
  • Storytime: a regular client forgot who I was & why a lot of men book sex workers
    Apr 2 2025

    In this episode of 'You're Not a Bad Person,' host Erica delves into the themes of self-acceptance, emotional maturity, and destigmatizing sex work. She shares a personal story about a former client, 'Dave.' Erica also discusses the larger implications of ghosting, emotional immaturity, and the therapeutic aspects of sex work, emphasizing the importance of men expressing their emotions. She calls for breaking down the stigma around sex work and encouraging emotional transparency.

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    17 mins
  • I've been ghosted: here's how I deal with it
    Mar 26 2025

    In this episode of 'You're Not a Bad Person,' host Erica Rankin explores self-love, overcoming shame, and becoming the best version of oneself. Erica discusses her life as a nomad and the struggles of finding a good natural deodorant. She opens up about her past in the stigmatized industry of sex work and the importance of embracing one's history without shame. Erica delves deeply into the topic of ghosting, sharing her personal dating experiences, the emotional toll of being ghosted, and the importance of communication in relationships. She provides advice on regulating one's nervous system and this episode encourages listeners to stay grounded and seek partners with emotional maturity and good communication skills.

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    24 mins
  • How to let go & forgive when they don't deserve it: I used to hold grudges
    Mar 19 2025

    Erica, host of the 'You're Not a Bad Person' podcast, explores themes of self-acceptance and forgiveness in this episode. She shares a personal story about being judged harshly by a man she dated, which triggered intense feelings of resentment and anger. Erica uses this scenario to illustrate the difficulty and importance of forgiveness, not just for others but for oneself. She offers a practical visualization exercise to help release these negative emotions and emphasizes the necessity of compassion for others' struggles and imperfections. The episode also touches on how unresolved past hurts can impact current emotional well-being and relationships.

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    17 mins
  • The all or nothing mentality: how to overcome black & white thinking
    Mar 12 2025

    Erica, the host of 'You're Not a Bad Person,' discusses overcoming feelings of shame, guilt, and how to grow into one's best self. She emphasizes that the past doesn't define nor disqualify you. Erica shares her personal journey of black-or-white thinking, a trait from her upbringing that affected many areas of her life. She discusses the dangers of having extreme expectations in relationships, career, diet, and exercise, and how this all-or-nothing mindset leads to disappointment and sabotage. Erica provides examples from her experiences with body image issues, extreme dieting, and substance abuse. She highlights the importance of living in the 'gray area,' embracing imperfect situations, showing self-compassion, and letting go of rigid plans. She also touches on her therapy journey and changing her content consumption to support a balanced lifestyle. Erica concludes with actionable advice on finding sustainability in life's habits and appreciates her listeners' continued support.

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    26 mins
  • How to live life on your own terms & not feel guilty about it: I'm 30 with no house, partner, or 9-5
    Mar 5 2025

    Erica, the host of 'You're Not a Bad Person,' addresses feelings of shame, guilt, and societal expectations. She shares her journey of turning 30, embracing a nomadic lifestyle, and rejecting conventional life paths. Erica emphasizes the importance of self-acceptance, living authentically, and not conforming to external pressures. She shares personal anecdotes about travel, relationships, and career challenges, encouraging listeners to define their own terms for happiness and fulfillment. The episode aims to empower people to strip themselves of conditioned beliefs and pursue a life true to themselves.

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    23 mins
  • Storytime on KARMA: he paid me to hit on his friend
    Feb 26 2025

    Erica, the host of the podcast 'You're Not a Bad Person,' introduces an unstructured episode centered on personal growth and self-acceptance. She shares a personal story from her past as a sex worker to illustrate the importance of listening to one's intuition and the concept of karma. Erica recounts how she was paid by a longtime client to flirt with the client's friend who recently broke up and didn't know Erica's real line of work. The story takes a twist... Erica reflects on the guilt and consequences of her actions, emphasizing the need to stay true to one's integrity and morals. She concludes by reminding listeners that everyone makes mistakes and that it's essential to accept all parts of oneself.

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    21 mins