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What happens when two friends with wildly similar ADHD energy try to “settle” who has it worse? We turn our habits into a game, take a few fast quizzes, and end up with two hilariously accurate archetypes: golden retriever brain and hyperfocus goblin. From paper planners and Google Calendar loyalty to object permanence fails and deadline sprints, we unpack the ways ADHD actually feels in a normal week—and where we quietly excel.

We get honest about procrastination, time blindness, and that vibe-dependent moment when a task finally clicks. One of us swears by sleep discipline for training; the other admits to revenge bedtime procrastination and wholesome late-night TV. We explore how chaotic upbringings can turn into crisis superpowers—reading a room fast, staying calm under pressure, and triaging like a pro—while still wrestling with decision fatigue, emotional intensity, and the doom pile of laundry. You’ll hear real talk about tabs, routines that die young, and why motivation follows interest more than importance.

This conversation isn’t clinical; it’s practical and personal. We share ADHD hacks that actually stick: pair boring tasks with music or podcasts, keep visual to-do lists under three items, use external reminders without shame, and treat deadlines as gentle pressure rather than panic fuel. If your brain runs on curiosity and dopamine more than strict discipline, you’ll feel seen—and you’ll leave with small systems that respect how attention really moves.

Hit play, then tell us your archetype and the one hack you actually use. If this made you laugh or helped you feel understood, follow the show, share it with a friend, and leave a quick review so more ADHD brains can find us.

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A single moment can flip chemistry into nope—and once the ick lands, it’s hard to unsee. We dive headfirst into the subtle and not-so-subtle red flags that shut attraction down: hygiene failures, bedroom misfires, manipulative “jokes,” and the social media habits that feel like betrayal in slow motion. Along the way, we unpack why certain icks hit so hard: they’re not about perfection, they’re about values—self-care, honesty, and respect for your partner’s experience.

We trade stories that are hilarious, cringe, and painfully real, from too-tight pants and curling toenails to post-hookup antics that nuke the vibe. Then we go deeper. Can an ick ever be fixed, or does the mind keep replaying the moment? We explore where change is possible—remove the trigger, rebuild trust—and where it isn’t, like lying in any form, weaponized incompetence, or turning “just joking” into a shield for cruelty. If your intimacy playbook skips foreplay, ignores consent cues, or treats sex like a solo mission, the ick isn’t prudishness—it’s self-protection.

We also navigate the modern minefield of posting, liking, and privacy. There’s a difference between staying low-key and keeping someone a secret; between a friendly double-tap and feeding a stranger’s thirst. Context matters, and consistency matters more—who you are at home should match who you are in public. Our non-negotiables round it out: clean habits, clear communication, no lies, no games, and for some of us, no smoking or active substance use. Progress over perfection becomes the quiet north star: when actions align with care, the ick radar calms and connection can grow.

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Ever feel that snap when your patience finally gives out? We call it “crashing out,” and we get honest about how it shows up: the public blowups, the quiet spirals you hide at home, the friend-only vents, and the moments you wish you could take back. We share the messy, human stories—getting run over by your own car during a fight, stealing the karaoke mic on a wave of adrenaline, shattering a car window in rage—and then break down what those moments taught us about triggers, boundaries, and repair.

We also explore the subtler crash: social media spirals that escalate post by post. You’ll hear the red flags we watch for, the rules we use to avoid late-night posting regret, and the small rituals that help us cool off fast. Relationships sit at the center of many crashes—jealousy, disrespect, being ignored—so we talk about calling out bad behavior without lighting the room on fire, and owning it when anger crosses into harm. There’s humor too, because life at home is a minefield of empty boxes in the pantry, missing scissors, and milk crimes that can tip you over the edge.

What keeps us grounded now is a mix of structure and self-awareness: labeled tools, duplicate essentials, weekly return bins, ten-minute rage room sessions, and simple de-escalation steps like breathing, a walk, or a “sleep on it” rule. Growth looks like shorter meltdowns, less fallout, faster repair—and the courage to say sorry. If you’ve ever wondered why small things trigger big reactions, or how to land the plane before it hits the ground, this one’s for you.

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