When does “being accurate” become the very thing that disconnects us from the people we love most? In this episode, Matt & Alona pull back the curtain on the subtle — and often invisible — ways our instinct to correct, fix, and fact-check can shut down our kids, silence our partners, and sabotage the connection we’re actually longing for. ❤️‍🔥

We explore why “connection before correction” isn’t just a catchy line — it’s a nervous-system shift, a mindset reset, and a relational game-changer. You’ll hear stories about kids crumpling when we try to “fix” their pain, how correcting your spouse in public creates shame and shutdown, and how our obsession with accuracy often masks our own discomfort more than it helps anyone else.

You’ll hear moments that may hit close to home, like:
• A parent tries to reassure a child saying “nobody likes me”… and accidentally makes everything worse.
• A spouse constantly jumps in to “fix” the story being told — and the other partner slowly stops talking, feeling erased.
• When we cling to accuracy, we miss the emotional truth underneath — and kids stop opening up because they don’t feel safe sharing their messy worlds.

Have a Kinectin Account? Explore these Nudges to see how they apply to your own life — in a way only Amari can.

Nudge 1:
“When someone I love expresses pain, I rush to correct or reassure because I can’t tolerate their discomfort. I want to understand why I do that, and how to stay present without trying to fix.”

Nudge 2:
“I often feel erased or dismissed when others correct me. I want help understanding what’s happening inside me in those moments — and how to ask for connection instead of shutting down.”

What is Amari?
webe Parents has partnered with Kinectin to bring you Amari, your personal AI coach. Now you can interact with the ideas from our podcasts, articles, and parenting tips — and Amari will help you apply them directly to your personal life. Don’t have a Kinectin Account? Create one here

To learn more about what Alona & Matt are up to check us out at webeparents.com, or follow us on our socials at Instagram, Facebook, TikTok, or YouTube. Be sure to subscribe to webe Pärents wherever you listen to your favorite podcasts.

What if your need to be right is actually what’s breaking your connection? In this episode, Matt & Alona unpack how “correcting” can quietly shut down your child—or partner—and how to shift from facts to feelings instead. You’ll learn a 4-step pause that replaces fixing with empathy and helps you connect before you correct.

Moments that hit home:

• ✨ When your kid says “nobody likes me” — and why “that’s not true” misses the moment.
• 💔 The “helpful” correction that made a child shut down.
• 💡 Why couples jump in to be “right,” and how waiting protects closeness.

Have a Kinectin Account?
Explore these Nudges to see how they apply to your own life — in a way only Amari can.

👉 Nudge: “When my child says ‘nobody likes me,’ I rush to fix it. Coach me to pause, reflect their feelings, and ask one curious question before responding.”

👉 Nudge: “I correct my partner’s details to be accurate. Help me practice waiting or asking consent before correcting—so I choose connection over control.”

What is Amari?
webe Parents has partnered with Kinectin to bring you Amari, your personal AI coach. Interact with ideas from our podcasts and let Amari help you apply them directly to your life. Don’t have a Kinectin Account? Create one here
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To learn more about what Alona & Matt are up to check us out at webeparents.com, or follow us on our socials at Instagram, Facebook, TikTok, or YouTube. Be sure to subscribe to webe Pärents wherever you listen to your favorite podcasts.

You’ll learn how to receive tough feedback from your kids (and partners) without spiraling into shame or defensiveness, and how to turn “you embarrassed me” into a deeper bond—not a bigger rift. We unpack “The Gift,” a simple framework to let their feelings land, repair fast, and create third-way solutions where everyone’s needs matter. You’ll also hear why empathy isn’t coddling—it’s a multi-generational superpower that shapes who our kids become. 🌱

Moments that may sting (and change you):

• “Don’t hug me at pickup.” How to translate the pain, validate belonging needs, and co-create private signals for affection (thumbs-up, car-hug, home-hug) so love and dignity both win.
• “You interrupt me.” Spot the weaponized-gift trap, then pivot to needs-language that disarms criticism and invites teamwork instead of score-keeping.
• When a child shuts down. Why silence protects dignity and regulation—and how to guess needs, give space, and build trust (even with nonverbal check-ins like 👁️ blink cues).

Have a Kinectin Account? Explore these Nudges to see how they apply to your own life — in a way only Amari can.

Nudge: When my child says I embarrassed them in front of friends, I feel hurt and rejected. Help me receive that as a Gift, reflect their needs (belonging/choice), share my need for connection, and co-create a plan (private hug, signal, or timing) that honors both of us.

What is Amari? webe Parents has partnered with Kinectin to bring you Amari, your personal AI coach. Now you can interact with the ideas from our podcasts, articles, and parenting tips — and Amari will help you apply them directly to your pesonal Life. Don't have a Kinectin Account? Create one here

To learn more about what Alona & Matt are up to check us out at webeparents.com, or follow us on our socials at Instagram, Facebook, TikTok, or YouTube. Be sure to subscribe to webe Pärents wherever you listen to your favorite podcasts.