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In this episode, Julie breaks down self sabotage and why you keep pulling back right when you're close to the thing you actually want. You'll learn why this isn't a willpower problem, what's really happening in your body and subconscious in that moment, and the five step tool Julie uses with clients to interrupt the pattern. By the end you'll have a simple exercise you can try on the exact situation you keep repeating.

➡️ Why the fear holding you back usually isn't fear of failing, it's fear of getting it right

➡️ The five everyday patterns of self-sabotage (the unsent email, the watered-down comment in a meeting, downplaying a win)

➡️ The "safety loop" your body runs through before you pull back, and why it happens in seconds

➡️ A real client story of a senior leader whose subconscious kept overriding years of hard evidence that she was capable

➡️ The identity pause: a five step tool to notice, locate and change the pattern in real time

⏱️ TIMESTAMPS

00:00 Introduction

01:21 Why you pull back right before success

02:26 The patterns of self-sabotage you might recognise

05:43 The safety loop: how your body reacts

07:16 Why self-sabotage feels like proof you were right

11:12 Client story: the senior leader held back by old beliefs

14:15 The identity pause: the five steps

15:47 Live exercise: try the identity pause yourself

22:02 Your challenge for this week

The Upgrade is a weekly live show for capable people who know they're capable of more, but somehow keep talking themselves out of the next step. Julie Smith, coach, therapist and hypnotherapist, gets into why your body treats growth like a threat and how to actually change that, not just manage it. New episode every week.

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