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Getting Past Your Breakup

How to Turn a Devastating Loss into the Best Thing That Ever Happened to You
Narrated by: Laural Merlington
Length: 6 hrs and 48 mins
Categories: Self-Development, How-to
4.5 out of 5 stars (2 ratings)

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Publisher's Summary

It’s over - and it really hurts. But as unbelievable as it may seem when you are in the throes of heartache, you can move past your breakup. Forget about trying to win your ex back. Forget about losing yourself and trying to make this person love you. Forget it! Starting today, this breakup is the best time to change your life for the better, inside and out.

Getting Past Your Breakup is a proven road map for overcoming the painful end of any romantic relationship, even divorce. Through her workshops and popular blog, Susan Elliott has helped thousands of clients and readers transform their love lives. Now she’ll help you put your energy back where it belongs - on you. Her plan includes:

  • The rules of disengagement: how and why to go “no contact” with your ex,
  • How to work through grief, move past fear, and take back your life,
  • The secret to breaking the pattern of failed relationships, and
  • What to do when you can’t stop thinking about your ex, texting, calling, checking social networking sites, or driving by the house.

Complete with inspiring stories from real people and strategies to jump-start the moving-on process, Getting Past Your Breakup is the most effective plan for getting permanently past a breakup, getting your confidence back, and opening yourself to true love.

©2012 Susan J Elliott (P)2012 Brilliance Audio, Inc.

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  • Shayna
  • 27-03-17

Too self-celebratory, but definitely some wise advice.

I didn't like the narrators voice nor the positive affirmations nor the end bits of other people's stories. I could get on a blog and read other people's stories. It's a little too corny and overly treasures and values oneself. It feels a little over self-involves at times

I like her advice on writing. I enjoyed how she explained grief, phases vs stages. Her no contact rule is a must. I found her explanations of not explaining yourself more than three time helpful, as well as a how manipulative people will continue to attempt to manipulate and drive you to their will.

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  • Dylan
  • 09-07-14

Good information but a patronizing tone

This book has some useful information in it, especially the emphasis on NC (no contact with your ex) and I did find parts of the text helpful. My issue is that the author tends to talk down to the reader: "Do this." "Don't do that." "Grow up." And the narrator really emphasizes this bossy tone. Also, I didn't find the narrator's voice very appealing. She sounded like Mrs. Roper from "Three's Company" (a sit-com from the 70's & 80's).

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  • 999LA
  • 10-12-17

Ugh, the voice and content...

The narrator is awful for this book... Her situation has " doormat" written all over it. The advice is remedial for breakups. Not going to waste my time listening....

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  • Kamazon
  • 28-11-12

Wow...

This book wasn’t for you, but who do you think might enjoy it more?

Depressing. Aren't these kind of books supposed to make you feel better? I, too, recommend 'its called a breakup because its broken' and 'the 30 day heartbreak cure.'

Who would you have cast as narrator instead of Laural Merlington?

Someone with a young, calm and soothing voice. Someone hipper.

If you could play editor, what scene or scenes would you have cut from Getting Past Your Breakup?

The first 3 chapters.

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  • Vram
  • 13-07-17

It's not a bad book, just wasn't applicable to me

Maybe some concepts cross platform, but this is definitely for a woman breaking up, and a man who wants to avoid their wife's feeling unhappy.

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  • Graham
  • 30-07-16

Didn't like this at all - made me feel worse!

What could have made this a 4 or 5-star listening experience for you?

A different writer ha!

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Somehow this book actually made me feel WORSE! It appears to have been written by a child. Very very patronising. I found practically nothing of any real value in this. I feel a bit conned by this :( Breakups are hard enough without this nonsense.

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  • anna
  • 28-04-19

I find it more like surface book

It’s 2 much about her life!
„I“ I do not feel this Book/ Audio helpful at all. It is very average.

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  • Her Name is Bert
  • 08-03-20

i just couldn't

it was a struggle listening to this mess. seriously. no help whatsoever. enough said. seriously

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  • Anonymous User
  • 12-02-20

There’s Practical help here

Once you get past the narrator’s 1970’s voice and the first few chapters that seem ridiculously dramatic, there are some real practical bits of advice in this book. If you’re not married or don’t have kids, a few things can be skipped. But overall, it’s really helped to put a bad breakup into perspective and will be a reference point for moving on and into better relationships. Worth the purchase and listen.

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  • Susan
  • 23-05-19

You CAN get past it!

I bought this audible book two weeks after a break up with my narcissistic boyfriend. Learning how to cope with the grief experienced during no contact is addressed by Susan in a way that breaks it down step by step. Very helpful! As well, learning to look at my past and possible future relationships was eye opening thanks to this information. This book enables one to step out of the stick grief and move on toward a brighter future focusing finally on self care and self needs. The only thing I didn’t care for was her addressing a few things that didn’t pertain to me personally, although still very interesting. The narrator was very upbeat and easy to listen to. She made the book come alive! Very expressive. I highly recommend this book to anyone going through a break up and having difficulty coping with all the emotions that go along with it. This book will assist you in a very timely manner to go through and feel your feelings, then get over the pain you’re experiencing. Life changing!

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  • Open Ears
  • 15-10-16

Frankly i was bored!

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I wanted to enjoy this but i spent most of the time BORED. It was a real chore to get thru this, but i wanted to as i didn't wanna waste money and i kept hoping it would get better and give me actual advice on how to feel better about my breakup - it didn't.

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  • Graham
  • 11-08-16

Made me feel WORSE!!!

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This book somehow made me feel even worse about my rather horrible breakup I felt totally patronised, like i was made out to be a child for feeling upset. Silly book, really did not help me.

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  • Audioaddict
  • 29-11-16

Didn't like it at all.

Would you try another book written by Susan J. Elliott or narrated by Laural Merlington?

The narration was fine, good actually, but the actual book was unfortunately of zero help to me. I wanted (/needed) help to get over my painful breakup, but unfortunately I most definitely did not find it here.

What will your next listen be?

Not sure yet.

What reaction did this book spark in you? Anger, sadness, disappointment?

Disappointed overall.

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  • W1992
  • 20-11-16

Awful book, absolutely zero help.

Would you try another book written by Susan J. Elliott or narrated by Laural Merlington?

Definitely not, never again.

What didn’t you like about Laural Merlington’s performance?

Dull.

You didn’t love this book--but did it have any redeeming qualities?

To be honest, it has a great cover - that is about it.

Any additional comments?

Heartache and breakups are hard enough without cliched patronising nonsense like this being on the market.

No help. No help at all. Avoid.

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  • L. Taylor
  • 30-05-20

Something for everyone

I think this book has something for everyone. It can be read by people at all different stages of breakup related grief. I took many elementary lessons, many intermediate lessons, and many advanced lessons from this book. I was already aware of many elementary lessons, many intermediate lessons, and many advanced lessons from this book. In other words, my knowledge and skills were (are still) uneven.

I suspect the reviews on here that are critical for reasons such as their listening of the book made them feel worse is because they did not like hearing they have to let go. If you're adamant letting go isn't necessary yet, don't read this book. If you're starting to question whether you need to start approaching your breakup differently and make the jump, read this, and you'll be given a strong push.

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  • Eros
  • 24-03-20

Great, amazing book

I loved this book and it's incredibly useful. Not only to get over your past relationship, but also to figure out what REALLY happened, why it happened and how to get better, more mature, more fulfilling relationship in the future. It teaches the importance of no-contact, journaling, affirmations, boundaries and so on.
This review is not nearly as explainatory of the usefulness and beauty of this book, which is, by the way, narrated in a marvelous way; so I just hope you gonna buy it and transform you life, and your relationships, for the better.

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  • Mrs Claire E Snooks
  • 08-01-20

Some really helpful advice

So powerful to understand the grieving process and also to recognise the importance of No Contact

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  • 30-04-19

Excellent therapy

I would recommend this book to anyone going not only through a breakup but also anxiety of any kind. More often than not, anxiety in women arises from poor relationships. This book gently guides one through a process of regaining control and confidence no matter how low one is feeling. Follow it religiously and it works!

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  • sharon saxby
  • 07-07-17

This book is the break up bible

This book is a must if your gojng throu a break up , I was going throu a terrible heartbreaking time , and if it wasn’t for this book don’t think I would be where I am today , also the blog and fb page , Susan is a amazing support , 5 stars all the way , fantastic book

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  • Anna
  • 11-10-15

Awesome book

Lots of help. Amazing point of view. Good advices. Totally recommending. Thank you Susan. Anya.

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  • Ivonne
  • 10-06-20

Excellent

This audio book is a great guide to recovery after a breakup, practical views to come back to self

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  • Anonymous User
  • 29-02-20

Only good for those breaking up with assholes

Its a really good book. But it didnt relate to my situation as my ex was not a dick like explained in this book and certain concepts didnt work for my situation

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  • Anonymous User
  • 22-01-20

AMAZING!!

I seperated from my husband 3 months ago. A friend suggested this book to me. I found this book very helful. I was able to navigate through my seperation so much easier by using the advise given in this book.

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  • Anonymous User
  • 17-12-19

Very practical, helpful book

Lots of great suggestions and exercises for reviewing relationship patterns and boundaries regardless of your relationship status.

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  • Amazon Customer
  • 24-07-19

good

Good. really helpful practical advise. I enjoyed the directness and openness about bad habbits and relationships combined. This has helped me grieve thankyoh

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  • Charlotte Gray
  • 28-01-19

Best break up book ever

I'd never heard of Susan and found this by another recommendation. Absolutely game changing! As a 40 something single woman, I wish I'd learnt these lessons in my 20'!

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  • Amazon Customer
  • 25-01-19

Thank you

I’m going through a heartbreak and this book is really helping me to cope and putting things into perspective. I will continue to come back to it as I’m working through my healing process.

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  • Anonymous User
  • 18-01-19

A defining moment in regaining control of my life

I had hoped in finding this book I would learn a few new "tricks" to easing the pain of working through a breakup and feel slightly better in the long term.

what I wasn't expecting was to read, learn and take on board both a mixture of desperately needed tough love mixed with digging deeper into me and finding my self worth.

through Susan's book and teachings I am begging to transform now only how I feel after the devastation of losing the person I love but a greater understanding about who I am and what I deserve in many "relationships" in life, including friends and family.

I truly believed I would feel broken forever but this book is helping me to feel happier and far more in control than I have in many years.

thank you Susan for helping me to understand that this hasn't ended me, it's helped me to understand I am only just getting started.

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  • Anonymous User
  • 30-11-18

This book really helped me heal through the pain .

A complete guide and great narrator with emotion while reading. It was so worth it!

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  • Amanda C.
  • 08-09-18

Best book ever!!

I've had lots of relationships end, and I recognized I had to work through grief. susan's book gave me clarity and a clear plan to do so. I recommend this book to everyone!!