When I Say No, I Feel Guilty

Wow! What do you know...

This book actually was effective. There is a lot of repetitious "role play" that at first started to get on my nerves, but once I realized- "OH! He is ACTUALLY teaching by examples!" It started coming together! Author makes good on the Help part of this book. It actually does and it opened my mind to be less tense about "things". We each are our own captains, to naturally be a part of any process we come across. Just being a "Yes" man robs people of experience, creative control. But that is the true reason we are alive- to create OUR experiences.

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One of the most usefull books I've experienced.

I can't say enough how helpful this book has been for me. No fluff and no nonsense; just real, practical advice for dealing with yourself and others in a non-defensive and non-manipulative way.

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Culturally dated, single message, limited scope

There are some valuable tools here, however the book is limited in scope and background which makes this approach simplistic and formulaic. Many hours are spent on sample dialogue which are helpful but become repetitive. This book includes examples of how to speak in different situations from store clerks to sexual encounters with acquaintances or partners.

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Very Helpful

I'm grateful for this book. There is timeless wisdom here. This is helping me take my freedom back that I never realized I gave away.

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This book was an investment to me.

This book was very helpful. I cannot afford a therapist at this time and I wanted to improve my communication skills and this book was amazingly helpful. I have the audiobook and print version that’s how much I valued this book. I hope the advice in this book is as helpful to you as it was for me, I wish I had read it decades ago.....

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Don't buy another audiobook for assertiveness!

This is the most practical book you will find about assertiveness. As a psychology graduate student, this was the most helpful audiobook on the topic. This audiobook together with Dr. David Burn's book on anxiety have made the biggest impact in my battle with anxiety.

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not useful for me

I am sure some people will benefit from this book, but I did not. I also found it monotonous because it repetitiously repeated the same information.

Not for a stubborn person

This book gives great tips and ideas for how to handle more everyday situations with other people. What it does not do, in my opinion, is give enough examples regarding marriage and possible divorce. The reason for the headline...if you’re a person who thinks they’re already perfect, you’re mind is not open enough to look at this information objectively enough to actually learn anything from this book.

Well written..

Essentially this book teaches you how to be assertive on your needs. As well as keeping you from taking responsibilities for others needs. Highly recommend this to anyone wanting to learn how to be more assertive.

Have healthier relationships

Fantastic book on how to be assertive in our daily communication. The author outlines healthy communication in a way in which you stand up for what you believe while allowing the other person to make their own choices, thus allowing for mutual compromise if that is possible.either way we get to maintain our own power and our communication and in our lives.