What if you are not bad at selling yourself, and the real problem is the picture you have been carrying of what a salesperson is supposed to look like?I was in a session at work watching a senior sales rep talk about the traits that make someone good at this job. What stayed with me was not her list. It was that she saw herself as a salesperson. No question in it, no doubt about it. She said it the way you say your own name. I have been selling for most of my working life and I am not sure I have ever said it about myself with that kind of ease.This episode is about what happens when you let an outside picture become an inside question, and about the frame that finally got me out of it. There is more than one kind of salesperson, in exactly the way there is more than one kind of business. McDonald's and the Four Seasons both sell, both are excellent, and neither one could run on the other's model for a single day. I had been running a Four Seasons and comparing myself to a McDonald's.CONNECT WITH THE SHOW:Website: ⁠https://1800goaldigger.com⁠Instagram: @1800goaldiggerVoice messages and stories: ⁠hello@1800goaldigger.com⁠If this episode resonated with you, send it to one woman who needs to hear it. That is how this show grows.And if you have a question or story you want to share with me, leave me a private voicemail at 1800goaldigger.com. With your permission, your voice could become part of a future episode.@1800goaldigger, sharing the emotional truth underneath the glamour and celebration of success and growth.CHAPTERS:[00:00] She said it like her own name[01:07] A note on the new schedule[02:26] You become who you see yourself as[03:10] When the doubt arrives from outside[04:08] The mold I kept failing to match[05:10] The strengths I never called sales[06:43] Three questions, do not overthink them[07:02] Question one: when something goes wrong[08:12] Question two: a room full of strangers[08:57] Question three: naming your own strengths[09:33] McDonald's or the Four Seasons[10:54] I was comparing myself to the wrong business[11:36] What kind of salesperson do you want to be?[12:17] You defined selling too narrowly[13:02] What problem do I help solve? 13:42] Three lines to finish before you go[14:27] Whose picture are you holding?

What if some of the qualities you think define you, being strong, independent, ambitious, capable, always holding it together, are not simply who you are?

What if some of them are who you learned you needed to be?

In this special Season 2 highlights episode of 1-800-GOAL-DIGGER, I’m revisiting some of the conversations that stayed with me most this season, from the emotional cost of being “the strong one,” to the beliefs we inherit, the armour ambitious women learn to wear, the difference between performing confidence and building self-trust, and what it actually means to become yourself.

Listening back, I realized that these episodes were never really separate conversations.

They were all circling the same question:

How much of who we are is actually us, and how much of it is who we learned we needed to be?

In this episode, we explore:

➤ why strength can become a survival strategy

➤ the beliefs and expectations we inherit before we are old enough to question them

➤ why the inner work is part of the professional work

➤ how ambitious women can turn even healing into another performance metric

➤ the difference between packaging yourself and actually knowing yourself

➤ why becoming yourself is an ongoing process

➤ and what to do when you want to put something meaningful into the world but are afraid of being seen

I also share an important update. Beginning in September, 1-800-GOAL-DIGGER will move to an every-other-week publishing schedule so I can continue creating meaningful episodes while building a healthier balance between the podcast, my career, and my personal life.

CONNECT WITH THE SHOW:

Website: ⁠https://1800goaldigger.com

⁠Instagram: @1800goaldigger

Voice messages and stories: ⁠hello@1800goaldigger.com⁠

If this episode resonated with you, send it to one woman who needs to hear it. That is how this show grows.

And if you have a question or story you want to share with me, leave me a private voicemail at 1800goaldigger.com. With your permission, your voice could become part of a future episode.

@1800goaldigger, sharing the emotional truth underneath the glamour and celebration of success and growth.

CHAPTERS:

[00:00] Podcast Schedule Update

[00:50] Welcome to 1-800-GOAL-DIGGER

[01:45] Why This Season 2 Highlights Episode Exists

[02:33] The Hidden Cost of Being the Strong One

[06:23] Who Did You Learn to Be?

[07:39] The Inner Work Is the Professional Work

[10:39] Stop Packaging Yourself Like a Product

[12:30] I’m Still Becoming Too

[13:18] What Matters More Than Being Seen?

[14:23] Closing: Send This to One Woman Who Needs It

In this episode of 1-800-GOAL-DIGGER, I share a relationship from my younger years that looked generous from the outside.

He was 23 years older than me, financially successful, owned two businesses, bought me expensive gifts, and took me to beautiful restaurants.

But after five years together, I realized something I could not see clearly at the time:

He was generous with what was easy for him to give.

Money. Gifts. Dinners.

What he was not generous with was his time, his emotional availability, his family, or a future with me.

This episode is not really about dating a rich man. It is about the difference between being provided for and being truly chosen.

It is also about the origin of the name 1-800-GOAL-DIGGER, why I once felt the need to prove I was not a “gold digger,” and what I understand now about love, independence, and the things that actually cost us something to give.

If you have ever mistaken material generosity for emotional generosity, this episode is for you.

CONNECT WITH THE SHOW:

Website: ⁠https://1800goaldigger.com

Instagram: @1800goaldigger

Voice messages and stories: ⁠hello@1800goaldigger.com⁠

If this episode resonated with you, send it to one woman who needs to hear it. That is how this show grows.

And if you have a question or story you want to share with me, leave me a private voicemail at 1800goaldigger.com. With your permission, your voice could become part of a future episode.

@1800goaldigger, sharing the emotional truth underneath the glamour and celebration of success and growth.

CHAPTERS:

[00:00] The Purse That Made Me Feel Like a Gold Digger

[02:10] I Never Lacked Resources, I Lacked Emotional Availability

[03:34] Dating a Man 23 Years Older Than Me

[05:00] He Was Rich, But He Wasn’t Generous

[06:44] When I Realized I Had Chosen an Arrangement, Not a Relationship

[07:48] Financial Independence Wasn’t What I Needed Protection From

[08:36] What Being Truly Cared for Looks Like Now

[09:30] Why I Named the Podcast 1-800-GOAL-DIGGER

[10:01] What Are You Accepting Because It’s Cheap for Someone to Give?