A breakup should be an ending—not a new battlefield.

In this episode of 1 in 3, Ingrid sits down with Jane, an ER nurse who shares her experience with coercive control, narcissistic abuse, and the devastating reality of legal abuse after separation.

What started as charm, fast attachment, and love bombing quickly turned into gaslighting, isolation, and fear. When Jane finally said “no,” her ex escalated—not just emotionally, but legally. Through restraining order manipulation, altered documents, and relentless court filings, he used the legal system as a tool of control.

Jane shares:

• How coercive control often begins subtly through online dating and love bombing
• The hidden dangers of post-separation abuse and litigation abuse
• How abusers misuse restraining orders and legal processes
• The psychological impact of emotional abuse and invisible trauma

If you’re trying to understand abuse tactics, gaslighting, stalking, or legal system abuse, this conversation gives language to what so many survivors experience but struggle to explain.

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1 in 3 is intended for mature audiences. Episodes contain explicit content and may be triggering to some.

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If you are in the United States and need help right now, call the national domestic violence hotline at 800-799-7233 or text the word “start” to 88788.

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Music by Tim Crowe

Family court is often where survivors turn for protection—but it can also be where abuse continues in new ways.

In this episode of 1 in 3, Ingrid sits down with Attorney Meg Groff to break down what survivors are really up against when navigating the legal system. From filing a protection from abuse order to facing high-stakes custody decisions, Meg shares how the system can both protect—and fail—those most at risk.

We cover:

• What happens when you file a protective order and why temporary orders are critical
• The high-risk separation period and how abusers use the court system
• How state laws define abuse differently (and why it matters)
• The role of financial control in keeping survivors trapped
• Why free legal aid and court advocacy can change outcomes
• The reality of custody battles, including parental alienation claims
• How courts misinterpret coercive control and survivor behavior
• The impact of Kayden’s Law and why child safety must come first

Meg also shares insights from her book Not If I Can Help It, offering practical language and strategies to help survivors better prepare for court.

If you or someone you love is navigating domestic violence and family court, this conversation is essential.

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Meg’s Links:

https://www.meggroff.com/

https://x.com/MegGroffAuthor

https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61571087065596

https://www.linkedin.com/in/meg-groff-b4295891/

1 in 3 is intended for mature audiences. Episodes contain explicit content and may be triggering to some.

Support the show

If you are in the United States and need help right now, call the national domestic violence hotline at 800-799-7233 or text the word “start” to 88788.

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• Send your emails to 1in3podcast@gmail.com
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Music by Tim Crowe

When someone leaves an abusive relationship, many believe the danger is over — but for countless survivors, the fight simply moves into family court.

In Episode 114 of the 1 in 3 Podcast, Ingrid sits down with survivor and health practitioner Dr. Danielle Duperret to explore legal abuse, coercive control, and post-separation abuse inside custody litigation.

Together, they unpack how abuse can continue through the legal system, including:

• Custody battles shaped by false narratives
• Protective parents labeled unstable
• CPS records overlooked or minimized
• Supervised visitation that never materializes
• Why “just co-parent” advice fails in abusive dynamics

Dr. Danielle shares her lived experience navigating family court while protecting her children and explains what Legal Abuse Syndrome looks like when chronic litigation stress impacts mental health, identity, and physical wellbeing.

The conversation then turns toward recovery and regulation. Learn practical tools for managing court-triggered PTSD, including:

• Separating facts from emotional activation
• EFT tapping techniques
• Guided imagery and grounding exercises
• Staying present during high-stress hearings

If you are a survivor, protective parent, advocate, or professional working in domestic violence or family court systems, this episode offers validation, language, and actionable strategies.

Subscribe to the 1 in 3 Podcast for conversations on:
domestic violence awareness, coercive control, family court reform, trauma recovery, and survivor healing.

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Dr. Danielle’s Links:

https://www.1in3podcast.com/guests/danielle-j-duperret/

https://healthwisdomacademy.com/

https://x.com/thrivewithdrd

https://www.instagram.com/holisticdrdanielle

https://www.youtube.com/@thrivewithdrd

https://www.linkedin.com/in/daniellejduperret/

https://www.facebook.com/danielle.duperret/

1 in 3 is intended for mature audiences. Episodes contain explicit content and may be triggering to some.

Support the show

If you are in the United States and need help right now, call the national domestic violence hotline at 800-799-7233 or text the word “start” to 88788.

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• Send your emails to 1in3podcast@gmail.com
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Music by Tim Crowe

Many domestic violence stories end with escape and a clean “happily ever after.” Real survivor experiences are often far more complex.

In this episode of 1 in 3, Ingrid speaks with author Deanna Kay about her debut novel The Measure of Enough and the real-world survivor experiences that shaped its story. The conversation explores why emotional scars can remain long after safety is rebuilt — and why honest representation of abuse in fiction matters for awareness, education, and empathy.

Discussion includes:

• Hidden forms of domestic violence and coercive control
• Emotional, verbal, physical, and sexual abuse beyond common stereotypes
• Early warning signs like isolation, manipulation, and control
• How abuse can remain invisible inside “perfect” families
• Supporting someone experiencing abuse without accusation
• Body image, eating disorders, and vulnerability in controlling relationships
• Writing, publishing, rejection, and telling survivor-centered stories responsibly

Set against a Texas backdrop, The Measure of Enough follows Casey, a young social worker confronting family secrets and misinformation — opening a broader conversation about perception, trauma, and healing.

Subscribe, share, and leave a rating to help more listeners find conversations that expand domestic violence awareness and survivor education.

Deonna’s Links:

https://www.1in3podcast.com/guests/deonna-kay/

https://deonnakay.com/

https://www.instagram.com/deonnakaybooks

https://www.facebook.com/deonnakayauthor

https://www.amazon.com/Measure-Enough-Deonna-Kay/dp/B0F4S887TC

1 in 3 is intended for mature audiences. Episodes contain explicit content and may be triggering to some.

Support the show

If you are in the United States and need help right now, call the national domestic violence hotline at 800-799-7233 or text the word “start” to 88788.

Contact 1 in 3:

• Send your emails to 1in3podcast@gmail.com
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Music by Tim Crowe

Abuse rarely shows up as one clear event. More often, it’s a pattern of power and control that changes shape over time and can hide behind family roles, church culture, or a perfect public image. I’m Ingrid, and in this conversation Tom shares how that pattern followed him from childhood into adulthood, and what it took to finally name it, survive it, and start rebuilding a life that feels safe.

Tom takes us back to being a teenager desperate to please a distant father, experimenting with asbestos, and then carrying unbearable guilt after his mother dies of cancer. From there, the story turns darker: a medical letter burned in a fireplace, a shocking life insurance policy, and a spiral into anger, addiction, and suicidal planning. He also describes a faith-centered breakthrough that brought peace and a dramatic physical change that reshaped how he saw his future.

We then unpack years of intimate partner violence against a man: public charm versus private cruelty, constant accusations, therapy used as a weapon, and the danger that spikes when someone decides to leave. We talk about the ripple effects on kids, the confusion that keeps families stuck, and how spiritual abuse and leadership control can retraumatize someone who’s already been through too much. If you’re looking for stories and language around domestic violence, coercive control, male victims of abuse, trauma recovery, and spiritual manipulation, this one goes there with honesty and hard-earned clarity.

Subscribe so you don’t miss what’s next, and if this resonated, share it with someone who needs it and leave a rating and review to help more survivors find the show.

Tom’s Links:

https://www.1in3podcast.com/guests/tom-snow/

https://just2beclear.com/

https://just2beclear1.substack.com/t/podcasts

https://www.instagram.com/just2beclear1

https://www.facebook.com/just2beclear

https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0DX2GZ9ZZ

https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0FCJ2Z2LN

1 in 3 is intended for mature audiences. Episodes contain explicit content and may be triggering to some.

Support the show

If you are in the United States and need help right now, call the national domestic violence hotline at 800-799-7233 or text the word “start” to 88788.

Contact 1 in 3:

• Send your emails to 1in3podcast@gmail.com
• Follow on Facebook, Instagram, and TikTok @1in3podcast
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Thank you for listening!

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Music by Tim Crowe

Reporting an abuser is already difficult. For many survivors, the next terrifying question is: What happens if the abuser posts bail?

In this episode of 1 in 3, Ingrid speaks with David Stuckman, President of the Professional Bail Agents of the United States, who brings more than 35 years of experience in the bail industry—from bounty hunting to leading a national network of bail professionals.

Together we break down how the bail system actually works in domestic violence cases and what protections may be available for survivors.

You’ll learn:

• What happens after someone is arrested and posts bail
• The step-by-step bail bond process, including premiums and collateral
• How bail agents evaluate risk, family input, and criminal history
• Why many bail agents require no-contact orders, treatment, and employment conditions
• When a bail bondsman may refuse to write a bond
• The difference between algorithmic pretrial release and human judgment
• How GPS ankle monitors can alert survivors instantly if an offender gets too close
• Why prior strangulation dramatically increases homicide risk

David also shares real-world stories about refusing dangerous bonds, working with judges to place defendants into rehab, and enforcing strict bail conditions to protect communities.

For survivors and advocates, we discuss practical steps including:

• Victim notification systems
• Requesting stronger protective conditions
• Documenting violations
• Understanding your options when someone is released pretrial

This conversation sheds light on a system many people fear—but few understand.

If you’re a survivor, advocate, or simply want to understand how bail and victim safety intersect, this episode will give you clarity.

David’s Links:

https://www.1in3podcast.com/guests/david-stuckman-2/

https://www.pbus.com/

https://www.youtube.com/@BailInTheMidwest

1 in 3 is intended for mature audiences. Episodes contain explicit content and may be triggering to some.

Support the show

If you are in the United States and need help right now, call the national domestic violence hotline at 800-799-7233 or text the word “start” to 88788.

Contact 1 in 3:

• Send your emails to 1in3podcast@gmail.com
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• Check out the website https://www.1in3podcast.com/

Thank you for listening!

Cover art by Laura Swift Dahlke
Music by Tim Crowe

What if your body has been guiding you all along?

In this episode of the 1 in 3 Podcast, Ingrid sits down with Tara, a domestic violence survivor and intuitive healer, to explore how rebuilding self-trust after abuse begins in the body. We talk about nervous system regulation, energetic boundaries, and how to tell the difference between intuition and trauma-driven fear.

Tara shares her personal journey of carrying guilt and shame while helping others heal—and how the loss of her sister became a turning point in reclaiming her voice. Together, we unpack how early conditioning teaches many women to override their instincts, silence discomfort, and keep the peace at any cost.

You’ll learn:

• How to rebuild intuition after domestic violence
• The difference between ego urgency and calm inner knowing
• A simple body-lean practice to test your intuition
• Tara’s daily GCP method (ground, clear, protect) to reduce overwhelm
• Signs your energy is being drained in relationships
• How nervous system healing supports trauma recovery

Whether you’re navigating an abusive relationship, healing from long-term stress, or learning to trust yourself again, this conversation offers practical tools you can use immediately.

You are worthy of love, safety, and a life that feels like yours.

Subscribe, share with someone who needs this message, and leave a review to help more survivors find support.

Tara’s Links:

https://www.1in3podcast.com/guests/tara-wiskow/

https://tara-wiskow.com/

https://www.facebook.com/BeTheChangeYouNeedToday

https://www.instagram.com/tara.wiskow/

https://www.tiktok.com/@tara_wiskow?_t=ZP-8tpbnaXsGkR&_r=1

1 in 3 is intended for mature audiences. Episodes contain explicit content and may be triggering to some.

Support the show

If you are in the United States and need help right now, call the national domestic violence hotline at 800-799-7233 or text the word “start” to 88788.

Contact 1 in 3:

• Send your emails to 1in3podcast@gmail.com
• Follow on Facebook, Instagram, and TikTok @1in3podcast
• Check out the website https://www.1in3podcast.com/

Thank you for listening!

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Music by Tim Crowe

Power doesn’t always leave a bruise.

In Episode 109 of the 1 in 3 Podcast, negotiation professor and relationship scientist Dr. Merideth Thompson breaks down the subtle but devastating patterns of emotional abuse, financial control, and gaslighting — and how they slowly erode self-trust.

We explore:

• Early signs of emotional control
• How gaslighting creates chronic self-doubt
• The hidden impact of financial abuse
• Why accountability is a clear marker of a safe partner
• Trauma-aware documentation strategies
• Rebuilding financial independence after years of control
• The 90-day rule for safer dating after abuse

Dr. Thompson blends research and lived experience to explain how relationships slide from “something feels off” to full coercive control — and how to interrupt that pattern early.

She is the founder of Partner Lab, a research-based company that uses data from relationship psychology to help people navigate relationship decision-making. Instead of relying on guesswork, Partner Lab applies evidence-based relationship science to provide practical tools for identifying healthy and unhealthy relationship dynamics.

She also serves on the Survivor Advisory Board of Finability, a nonprofit that helps financially empower domestic abuse survivors.

Healing is possible. When control ends, life expands.

If this episode resonates, share it with someone who needs clarity, subscribe for more survivor-centered conversations, and leave a review to help others find the show.

Your story might be the lighthouse someone else is searching for.

Merideth’s Links:

https://www.1in3podcast.com/guests/merideth-thompson-co/

https://www.mypartnerlab.co/

https://www.linkedin.com/in/merideth-j-thompson/

https://www.tiktok.com/@merideththompsonphd

https://www.mypartnerlab.co/

https://www.finability.org/

1 in 3 is intended for mature audiences. Episodes contain explicit content and may be triggering to some.

Support the show

If you are in the United States and need help right now, call the national domestic violence hotline at 800-799-7233 or text the word “start” to 88788.

Contact 1 in 3:

• Send your emails to 1in3podcast@gmail.com
• Follow on Facebook, Instagram, and TikTok @1in3podcast
• Check out the website https://www.1in3podcast.com/

Thank you for listening!

Cover art by Laura Swift Dahlke
Music by Tim Crowe