I'm not gonna sit here and tell you looks don't matter. But I am here to tell you that being "hot" is more than just what meets the eye.

This episode is about the fact that appearance and wanting to feel hot is real...and it's human. Feeling confident in your body and liking the way you look can absolutely make life better.

In this episode, I’m talking about why being “hot” goes way deeper than your face, your body, or society’s beauty standards. Because the people who feel the hottest aren’t just attractive...they’re disciplined, self-respecting, and confident in who they are inside and out.

Today we talk about:

• Why wanting to be hot doesn’t make you shallow—it makes you human
• How taking care of your appearance builds self-trust and momentum
• The difference between looking good and feeling grounded in yourself
• Why discipline, standards, and energy are just as attractive as looks
• How to define your own version of hot without letting society control it

When you put effort into yourself (physically, mentally, emotionally) you start moving differently. Your confidence becomes quieter. Your standards rise. Your life feels easier. And yes, your looks improve too....but that’s just one piece of the glow-up.

This isn’t about obsessing over how you look. It’s about respecting yourself enough to show up for yourself.

You deserve to feel attractive. You deserve to feel proud of yourself. You deserve to enjoy your life.

We only get one. Do it hot.

“Doing it for the plot” has become a defining phrase of our generation, but somewhere along the way, fun started getting confused with self-sabotage.

In today’s episode of 20s Confidential, we’re unpacking what doing it for the plot actually means, how it can become toxic when taken too far, and how to find the balance between living fully and staying aligned with your goals. From all-discipline/no-fun to all-chaos/no-structure, I’ve lived on both extremes...and neither one works long-term.

This episode is all about finding your middle ground, what I call selective chaos: allowing fun, spontaneity, and presence into your life without creating problems for your future self. We talk discipline vs. restriction, fun vs. distraction, why balance looks different for everyone, and how self-awareness is the key to building a life you actually enjoy.

If you’re ambitious, growth-oriented, and tired of feeling like you have to choose between success and having fun, this one’s for you.

Let’s do it for the plot...without ruining our lives.

Self-love is more than a feeling. It’s more than treating yourself. It’s what you do when no one’s watching.

In this episode, I’m sharing the perspective shifts that taught me how to truly love myself, and how I continue to practice it as I grow into the person I’ve always wanted to be. We’re talking about why self-love is an action, not just a mindset, and how showing up for yourself physically and mentally builds real self-respect. From health, fitness, and discipline, to boundaries, standards, and choosing long-term peace over short-term comfort, this episode is about what self-love actually looks like.

I also dive into letting go of comparison, learning not to take things personally, trusting that rejection is redirection (and protection), and forgiving past versions of yourself without identifying with your mistakes. If you’ve ever felt stuck, hard on yourself, or confused about what self-love really means, this conversation is for you.

Because loving yourself isn’t about becoming perfect...it’s about choosing yourself consistently.