I'm not gonna sit here and tell you looks don't matter. But I am here to tell you that being "hot" is more than just what meets the eye.

This episode is about the fact that appearance and wanting to feel hot is real...and it's human. Feeling confident in your body and liking the way you look can absolutely make life better.

In this episode, I’m talking about why being “hot” goes way deeper than your face, your body, or society’s beauty standards. Because the people who feel the hottest aren’t just attractive...they’re disciplined, self-respecting, and confident in who they are inside and out.

Today we talk about:

• Why wanting to be hot doesn’t make you shallow—it makes you human
• How taking care of your appearance builds self-trust and momentum
• The difference between looking good and feeling grounded in yourself
• Why discipline, standards, and energy are just as attractive as looks
• How to define your own version of hot without letting society control it

When you put effort into yourself (physically, mentally, emotionally) you start moving differently. Your confidence becomes quieter. Your standards rise. Your life feels easier. And yes, your looks improve too....but that’s just one piece of the glow-up.

This isn’t about obsessing over how you look. It’s about respecting yourself enough to show up for yourself.

You deserve to feel attractive. You deserve to feel proud of yourself. You deserve to enjoy your life.

We only get one. Do it hot.

“Doing it for the plot” has become a defining phrase of our generation, but somewhere along the way, fun started getting confused with self-sabotage.

In today’s episode of 20s Confidential, we’re unpacking what doing it for the plot actually means, how it can become toxic when taken too far, and how to find the balance between living fully and staying aligned with your goals. From all-discipline/no-fun to all-chaos/no-structure, I’ve lived on both extremes...and neither one works long-term.

This episode is all about finding your middle ground, what I call selective chaos: allowing fun, spontaneity, and presence into your life without creating problems for your future self. We talk discipline vs. restriction, fun vs. distraction, why balance looks different for everyone, and how self-awareness is the key to building a life you actually enjoy.

If you’re ambitious, growth-oriented, and tired of feeling like you have to choose between success and having fun, this one’s for you.

Let’s do it for the plot...without ruining our lives.

Self-love is more than a feeling. It’s more than treating yourself. It’s what you do when no one’s watching.

In this episode, I’m sharing the perspective shifts that taught me how to truly love myself, and how I continue to practice it as I grow into the person I’ve always wanted to be. We’re talking about why self-love is an action, not just a mindset, and how showing up for yourself physically and mentally builds real self-respect. From health, fitness, and discipline, to boundaries, standards, and choosing long-term peace over short-term comfort, this episode is about what self-love actually looks like.

I also dive into letting go of comparison, learning not to take things personally, trusting that rejection is redirection (and protection), and forgiving past versions of yourself without identifying with your mistakes. If you’ve ever felt stuck, hard on yourself, or confused about what self-love really means, this conversation is for you.

Because loving yourself isn’t about becoming perfect...it’s about choosing yourself consistently.

Being hot isn’t just about how you look. It’s about how you treat yourself when no one is watching. In this episode, we’re talking about why high standards are the most attractive quality you can have, and why lowering them has never led to more love, respect, or fulfillment.

We break down the three pillars of real standards (self-respect, self-discipline, and emotional honesty) and how the way you show up for yourself sets the tone for how others show up for you. From learning how to enforce boundaries without over-explaining, to understanding why loud standards often signal insecurity, this episode is about raising your standards quietly and living by them consistently.

We also talk about common mistakes that keep people stuck, like confusing potential with behavior, overextending emotionally, and tolerating situations that slowly drain your peace. If you’ve ever felt disrespected, burnt out, or like you’re giving more than you’re getting, this conversation will help you reconnect with your self-worth and realign your standards with yourself, in dating, friendships, and everyday life.

Consider this your reminder: being hot isn’t about asking for more. It’s about tolerating less. Your standards don’t make you difficult; they make you magnetic. When you stop negotiating with yourself, other people stop negotiating with you too.

Welcome back to 20s Confidential.

As the new year gets closer, everyone starts talking about what they want to add. New goals. New habits. New routines. But what if the real glow up comes from what you’re willing to let go of?

In this episode of 20s Confidential, we’re talking about why your energy is actually your most attractive quality, and how anything that drains it is quietly dimming your glow from the inside out. From toxic habits and misaligned relationships to self doubt, self abandonment, and trying to control outcomes that were never meant to be controlled, it all adds up. And yes, if it’s not serving you, it’s making you ugly. Energetically, emotionally, and eventually physically too.

We get into how to tell what’s draining you by listening to your intuition, why stress and attachment keep you stuck, and how detachment is really just self love in action. We talk about choosing yourself, letting people misunderstand you, stopping the chase for clarity, and making space for things that actually want you back.

This episode is your reminder that you don’t need to add more to become your best self. You just need to release what’s weighing you down. If it doesn’t bring you peace, energy, or alignment, it doesn’t deserve a spot in your next chapter.

Here’s to cutting what drains you, protecting your energy, and walking into the new year glowing.

Our 20s are messy, and so is growth. In this episode of 20s Confidential,

Jenna McKee dives into the truth about self-growth and why it is rarely a straight line. We talk about perfectionism, all-or-nothing thinking, and how identifying with your mistakes can keep you stuck in the same patterns longer than necessary.

This episode is all about releasing the unrealistic expectation that growth means never messing up. Jenna breaks down why growth often requires learning the same lesson multiple times, how downward spirals begin when mistakes turn into identity, and why true progress comes from balancing self-compassion with self-discipline.

You will learn how to stop self-abandoning after setbacks, separate who you are from what you did, and reframe growth as a skill that takes practice, awareness, and resilience. Because real growth is not about being perfect. It is about responding with more self-awareness, correcting course, and refusing to quit on yourself.

If you are navigating your 20s, breaking old patterns, or trying to grow without burning yourself down in the process, this episode is for you.

Here’s to growing, glowing, and embracing the chaos of our 20s!

We all love a good glow up.

In this episode of 20s Confidential, we break down the two sides of a glow up: the physical and the intrinsic. There’s absolutely nothing wrong with wanting to look good, feel confident in your appearance, and enjoy the external parts of a glow up. Physical discipline, routines, and taking care of yourself can be powerful and motivating when they come from the right place.

But the truth is, a real glow up doesn’t start on the outside. It starts on the inside.

We talk about why focusing on aesthetics alone will never feel like enough, how glow ups become toxic when they’re driven by self-criticism or external validation, and why looking better doesn’t automatically mean feeling better. Because correlation doesn’t equal causation, and you can have your “dream look” and still feel misaligned.

Then we dive into the intrinsic glow up: upgrading your standards, setting boundaries, building self-discipline, and redefining self-love as action...not just a feeling. The fact is, it all comes down to self-love. You can’t hate yourself into loving yourself. The physical glow up may be visible, but the internal work is what actually sustains it.

If you’re heading into a new season craving a glow up, this episode reframes it through grounded self-respect, long-term thinking, and becoming the version of yourself that feels aligned, inside and out.

Here’s to glowing, growing, and embracing the chaos of our 20s.

In this episode, Jenna explores the theme of authenticity and the attractiveness of being 'weird.' She discusses the importance of embracing one's true self, the journey of self-discovery, and the multifaceted nature of identity. Jenna emphasizes the significance of reconnecting with one's inner child, overcoming self-judgment, and the magnetic appeal of authenticity. She shares personal anecdotes and practical steps for listeners to embrace their uniqueness and navigate the challenges of self-expression, especially in the context of content creation.

Takeaways

• Being weird makes you more attractive.
• Authenticity is key to self-love.
• We often conform without realizing it.
• Embrace all sides of yourself.
• It's okay to be multifaceted.
• Reconnecting with your inner child is essential.
• People are drawn to authenticity.
• Life is more enjoyable when you don't take it too seriously.
• Self-acceptance is a journey, not a destination.
• You can change what doesn't serve you.