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Is it ADHD or does everyone spend it like Beckham?

New episode out now on ADHD or Life – A Couple’s Perspective 🎙️ and this one is a proper funny, real-life reflection of what it’s like being a couple living with ADHD. No scripts, no pretending we’ve got it all together… just an honest chat that somehow turns into Amazon parcels, condensed milk, and a popcorn machine scandal.

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What we cover in this episode:

• We start with Adam’s strong feelings about the episode title (he hates it… which obviously makes it funnier).
• Quick catch-up on the week: Adam is still on Spacegoods, plus he’s added Lions Mane supplements and reckons he’s felt a big difference… or is it placebo? (We discuss.)
• Also: Adam’s unhealthy relationship with condensed milk. Yes, it’s a thing.

Main topic: impulsive spending

• Amazon parcels turning up like it’s Christmas every day.
• Adam’s dream car… the 15-year-old Fiat Doblo. The kids are not impressed.
• Business expenses and “dodgy dealings” to buy a popcorn machine… which Adam then broke and had to replace the night before the party. Stress levels: biblical.
• Adam’s official announcement: do not use eBay.
• Is it all the dopamine of shiny new things? Is impulsivity massive in ADHD?
• Does research lead to the right purchase… or is the final decision always impulsive anyway?
• Is it exciting or does it drive Donna mad? (Spoiler: both.)
• Temu chat, bargain dopamine hits, and flat pack drama.
• Should Adam be allowed to online shop unsupervised? Should you buy brand new? Should “future me will figure it out” be banned as a lifestyle?
• Out of sight, out of mind… especially with credit cards.
• Should Adam set up an ADHD hobby swap shop? (Because the hobby graveyard is real.)
• Obsessing over purchases: scouring Facebook Marketplace for days and weeks like it’s a second job.
• The shame cycle (massive), and the comedown after the excitement wears off.
• Does Donna feel betrayed… or is she an enabler? And will any bad purchases ever be returned? (Don’t be silly.)
• Adam and Donna make a deal. Also: does anyone want to buy a popcorn machine?
• The other side: money worries, relationship stress, and whether it’s all “fun” when the bills land.
• Is Donna the responsible one… or does she spend just as much, just on boring family stuff?
• Has one-click buying made everyone worse? Does anyone wait more than one day for delivery now?
• Does social media make impulsive spending worse? Is it emotional spending? Should Adam buy a tent? (This becomes a

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Is it ADHD or just Blue Monday?

New episode out now on ADHD or Life – A Couple’s Perspective 🎙️ We’re talking Blue Monday, why this time of year can feel heavier, and why ADHD can make it hit different (and harder).

Before we get into the doom and gloom… we start with @Spacegoods! It’s had Adam absolutely BUZZING for a week and operating at a level of energy that frankly isn’t available in standard retail.

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What we cover in this episode:
- Blue Monday: real thing, marketing thing, or “either way I feel a bit grim”?
- Why ADHD can make January feel like wading through fog.
- Adam’s hyperfixations this week: we went to see Song Sung Blue (Neil Diamond)… and now Adam is fully convinced he needs to start a Neil Diamond tribute band.
- But what’s the difference between an ADHD hyperfixation and Donna’s long-standing obsession with Ronan Keating… the one that literally got her in the newspaper? (Yes, really.)
- Is it sadness… or are we just absolutely knackered?
- Why this time of year can be so rough.
- “Overstimulated but underwhelmed” — the most ADHD sentence ever.
- Adam thinks work helps. Donna’s quietly enjoying him having a few nights off…
- What song made Donna cry on the way to the podcast? (It’s a moment.)
- The underrated power of having a day off.
- Practical stuff that helps when you’re in the mud: starting your day fresh at ANY time, the 2-minute rule, and getting out of shame spirals.
- Adam reveals his secret to avoiding New Year’s resolution shame.
- Do you stop caring with age? Should you stop worrying what people think?
- Donna’s perspective (as always: calm, neuronormal, and mildly baffled by Adam).
- And yes… Emmerdale gets a mention. Obviously.

5 Minute Moans:
- Adam’s driving… and the important question: does ADHD control the windscreen wipers? Because the wiper decisions being made are NOT neurotypical.
- Donna’s fashion choices: is it a cute co-ord… or is it giving cheap tracksuit? (We discuss. Thoroughly.)

We finish with our listeners’ good, bad and ugly stories — and we’re genuinely grateful for every one. Keep them coming, because they make this podcast what it is.

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This week on ADHD or Life – A Couple’s Perspective, we’re back on the imposter syndrome topic… but this time we’re going full ADHD with it. Because imposter syndrome on its own is rough — but add ADHD, masking, late diagnosis, and a lifetime of being misunderstood… and it turns into a whole different beast.

Episode Highlights:

• Imposter syndrome through an ADHD lens: that fear you’re “faking it”, being a fraud, and getting found out.
• The weird ADHD brain twist: when you have a good day, it can feel like “proof” you were never struggling in the first place.
• Diagnosis can actually make the imposter louder — because once ADHD has a name, you start replaying everything and doubting yourself even more.
• Years of being told you’re lazy, dramatic, too sensitive, too much… it sticks. And it makes you question your own reality.
• The “other people have it worse” trap — and how it shuts down your own needs before you’ve even admitted them.
• Masking: if you’ve hidden the struggle for long enough, you start believing the mask is the real you… and then you feel like a fraud when you finally admit you’re not coping.
• A good day doesn’t cancel a hard life. ADHD is patterns over time — not one productive afternoon where you answered emails and remembered your keys.
• Starting a podcast seriously upped the imposter syndrome ante: “Who am I to even talk about this?”
• And the reminder we keep coming back to: we’re not experts — we’re just sharing our experiences, honestly, in the hope it helps someone feel less alone.

What might actually help (without pretending it’s a magic fix):

• Naming it when it shows up (because sometimes just clocking it helps)
• Catching the “proof” thoughts and challenging them (“one good day doesn’t erase years of struggle”)
• Being kinder to yourself than you’d ever be to someone else
• Remembering ADHD is real, even when you’re functioning

We also have listener good, bad and ugly stories — and this week they’re imposter syndrome specials. They’re relatable, hilarious, painful, and basically proof that this isn’t just a “you” thing.

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