This week we unpack the “help action”—both as a human skill and in tabletop RPGs—and use a recent road-trip disaster of AK's as a real-life example of how to win your encounters with this oft-ignored mechanic. With ADHD, asking for help can feel impossible despite being eager to help others, mostly due to the usual culprits: rejection sensitivity dysphoria, executive dysfunction, time blindness, and task paralysis. But as always, TTRPGs come to the rescue in showing us that every game has some variation on the help action: D&D has a costly one, but games like DC20 and Daggerheart usher in a new era that puts a focus on helping your fellow players.

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You finally found the thread. The document is open, the brain is online, the thought train has left the station.

And then: a “got a sec?” DM. A mysterious knock at the door. The window cleaning crew arrives. A mysterious foot crashes through the ceiling. (True story!)

For our brains, getting derailed feels especially day-ending, thanks to our fragile executive function, our sticky attention residue (as always: ew) and good ol' emotional whiplash. But it's 2026, and they're just a part of modern life. AK and Matt suggest some ways we can keep interruptions from destroying our productivity, both in and out of game.

No promises we stay on track. In fact, this episode gets derailed in real time.

But we do make it back.

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Hey y’all, it’s AK, choosing to speak to you directly instead of doing the usual podcast-description thing where I pretend I’m not the one writing this.

It started with one small decision: not following my usual pattern on the way to therapy. Then I began to wonder about how many habits have I been clinging to long after forgetting why I formed them in the first place.

Which gets us here, for an honest talk about my journey so far on a GLP-1, losing the food noise, and realizing just how much my relationship with my body and brain has been built around habit, ritual, shame, and survival.

And because this is still ADHd20, we’re also talking about the surprising bonus actions this medication has unlocked for my ADHD, the patterns we coulda woulda shoulda noticed sooner, and a few of the demons and pitfalls that have haunted us along the way.

Cue the intensely pensive music: this very special episode is tender, funny, personal, and very much not medical advice.

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