When Shiv’s hot take from a previous episode sparked a bigger conversation, we knew we had to go there. In this honest and unfiltered episode, Shiv and Dave dive into the question so many women quietly (or loudly) ask… are there actually good men out there?

Together, they unpack the beliefs, wounds, experiences, and expectations that shape how we see men, relationships, and what it really means to be “good.” From challenging assumptions to exploring what personal growth actually looks like on both sides, this conversation is full of perspective shifts, hard truths, and plenty of hot takes along the way.

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In this episode, we’re sharing the story of our breakup, what led to the relationship ending, what we didn’t fully understand at the time, and some of the hard truths we both had to face after walking away. We talk about the heartbreak, the confusion, the season of no contact, what made Shiv decide to reach back out, and what gave us the confidence to believe trying again could actually be different.

If you’re navigating a breakup, questioning your relationship, or wondering if people can truly change, this conversation is for you. We share what had to change, both individually and together, how we rebuilt trust, and how we were able to create a relationship that feels healthier, safer, and more connected than ever before. This is a conversation about heartbreak, healing, second chances, and what it really takes to create lasting love.

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Taking accountability without getting defensive is one of the hardest and most important skills in relationships. In this episode, we talk about what it really looks like in real life, especially in those moments where your instinct is to shut down or push back. We break down how defensiveness is often just self-protection rooted in shame, and how it can quietly get in the way of feeling close and understood.

We also get into how to take accountability even when you don’t fully agree and how to care about your partner’s experience without feeling like you’re giving up your side. Because when defensiveness becomes the norm, conversations start to disappear and resentment takes its place. At the end of the day, every moment of conflict is a choice: protect yourself or grow the relationship.

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Nervous system awareness might be one of the most underrated relationship skills and one of the most powerful. When you start to recognize what’s happening in your body in real time, everything shifts. You move from reacting on autopilot to responding with intention, creating more safety, clarity, and connection in your relationships.

In this episode, we zoom out on why understanding your internal cues can help prevent unnecessary conflict, soften communication, and break reactive patterns before they escalate. Your body is always communicating with you, learning how to listen might just change the way you relate to everything.

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Not taking things personally is one of the most foundational (and most challenging) relationship skills. In this episode, we explore what it really looks like to give your partner the benefit of the doubt and hold a steady, loving view of them even when you feel triggered. Because the truth is, when something feels personal, it’s often less about what’s happening in the present and more about what feels familiar from the past. Old wounds, insecurities, and fears of rejection can turn neutral moments into something they were never meant to be.

We also talk about what’s actually happening in your nervous system when you’re triggered and why, in those moments, your brain is wired to look for threat instead of truth. This is where so many misunderstandings are created. Learning to pause, regulate, and question the story you’re telling yourself can shift everything. Not taking things personally isn’t about ignoring your feelings, it’s about getting curious about them, so you can respond from your grounded, adult self instead of your wounded, reactive one.

Ready to do the work and go deeper in your own healing? Book a consultation call with us:

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In this episode, we explore the many ways control quietly shows up in our relationships and why it’s usually not about power, but protection. Beneath the surface, control is often rooted in fear, past wounds, and a deep desire to feel safe. We unpack how these patterns can look both obvious and incredibly subtle, and how they can slowly chip away at connection, trust, and intimacy.

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In this episode, we explore the quiet ways scorekeeping can creep into relationships and why the healthiest partnerships are rarely ever “even.” What starts as tracking chores or effort is often something deeper: the desire to feel seen, valued, and supported. We talk about how resentment builds when needs go unspoken, how overfunctioning can create imbalance, and why love feels lighter when it’s not weighed down by silent tallying.

We also shift the focus from keeping score to creating connection. Through honest reflection and loving confrontation, we unpack what it looks like to move from internal tracking to open communication and how to create a relationship that feels fair, sustainable, and deeply supportive for both people.

Ready to do the work and go deeper in your own healing? Book a consultation call with us:

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We’ve officially hit 100 episodes! To celebrate, in this episode we pull back the curtain on the journey that started it all. We share how we felt called to begin this podcast, the ways we experienced God guiding us along the way, and what it looked like to trust something bigger than ourselves.

We open up about the fear, the uncertainty, and the moments that stretched us while also reflecting on how deeply fulfilling it’s been to listen, surrender, and follow that call. This episode is a heartfelt look at faith, trust, and the unseen support that’s carried us here.

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