In this episode, Dr. Phyllis explores what happens in the space between the urge to say yes and the decision to follow through. She shares a personal story from her caregiving role, along with an unexpected lesson that came from caring for her dogs. What began as small, reactive moments turned into a deeper realization about how often we move straight from impulse into action without checking in first.

Every decision is a doorway, and most of us walk through way too fast.

Dr. Phyllis introduces the pause process, a simple, practical tool you can use before making both major decisions and everyday yeses. This isn’t about overthinking. It’s about creating enough space to notice what’s driving the urge.

She breaks down how to slow the moment, recognize urgency for what it is, and choose intentionally instead of reflexively.

Not every need is ours to meet. Not every opportunity is ours to own.

If you’ve ever said yes and immediately felt overwhelmed, resentful, or full of regret, this episode offers a grounded way to do things differently next time.

As the new year begins, this episode is an invitation to pause.

Dr. Phyllis shares why she made the intentional decision to slow down instead of adding more. Less running around. Fewer new responsibilities. More space to tend to her own health and to simply live, grow, and experience life as it unfolds.

We talk about what happens when you stop worrying about what other people think and start listening to what God is actually asking of you. When the only voices that matter are His and your own, something shifts. There is freedom in choosing to take care of yourself without guilt.

This conversation explores where God may be inviting us to rest, how rest brings us back into alignment, and why restoration is not selfish. It is necessary.

If you are entering this year tired, overwhelmed, or feeling the pull to slow down but unsure if you are allowed to, this episode will meet you right there.

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In this episode, Dr. Phyllis explores the shift from living on autopilot to stepping into agency and trusting God with your next step, especially when the path forward feels unclear.

She reflects on her years as a physician, the fear she experienced when retiring, and the realization that medicine was not her final destination. Stepping away required more than belief. It required action, surrender, and a willingness to stop reacting and start choosing intentionally.

Dr. Phyllis introduces the TRUST framework as a practical guide for navigating uncertainty. TRUST begins with taking a pause to create space instead of reacting. It continues with reflecting through prayer and meditation to gain clarity. The next step is unpacking fears honestly rather than ignoring them. From there comes surrendering the outcome and releasing the need for control. Finally, TRUST calls for taking the next small step forward, even when the full picture is not yet clear.

This episode reminds listeners that agency is not about having all the answers. It is about trusting God in the next step and allowing faith to shape how decisions are made.

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