In this episode, Dr. Phyllis explores what happens in the space between the urge to say yes and the decision to follow through. She shares a personal story from her caregiving role, along with an unexpected lesson that came from caring for her dogs. What began as small, reactive moments turned into a deeper realization about how often we move straight from impulse into action without checking in first.

Every decision is a doorway, and most of us walk through way too fast.

Dr. Phyllis introduces the pause process, a simple, practical tool you can use before making both major decisions and everyday yeses. This isn’t about overthinking. It’s about creating enough space to notice what’s driving the urge.

She breaks down how to slow the moment, recognize urgency for what it is, and choose intentionally instead of reflexively.

Not every need is ours to meet. Not every opportunity is ours to own.

If you’ve ever said yes and immediately felt overwhelmed, resentful, or full of regret, this episode offers a grounded way to do things differently next time.

As the new year begins, this episode is an invitation to pause.

Dr. Phyllis shares why she made the intentional decision to slow down instead of adding more. Less running around. Fewer new responsibilities. More space to tend to her own health and to simply live, grow, and experience life as it unfolds.

We talk about what happens when you stop worrying about what other people think and start listening to what God is actually asking of you. When the only voices that matter are His and your own, something shifts. There is freedom in choosing to take care of yourself without guilt.

This conversation explores where God may be inviting us to rest, how rest brings us back into alignment, and why restoration is not selfish. It is necessary.

If you are entering this year tired, overwhelmed, or feeling the pull to slow down but unsure if you are allowed to, this episode will meet you right there.

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In this episode, Dr. Phyllis explores the shift from living on autopilot to stepping into agency and trusting God with your next step, especially when the path forward feels unclear.

She reflects on her years as a physician, the fear she experienced when retiring, and the realization that medicine was not her final destination. Stepping away required more than belief. It required action, surrender, and a willingness to stop reacting and start choosing intentionally.

Dr. Phyllis introduces the TRUST framework as a practical guide for navigating uncertainty. TRUST begins with taking a pause to create space instead of reacting. It continues with reflecting through prayer and meditation to gain clarity. The next step is unpacking fears honestly rather than ignoring them. From there comes surrendering the outcome and releasing the need for control. Finally, TRUST calls for taking the next small step forward, even when the full picture is not yet clear.

This episode reminds listeners that agency is not about having all the answers. It is about trusting God in the next step and allowing faith to shape how decisions are made.

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In this holiday episode, Dr. Phyllis explores the idea of presence over performance, especially for high achieving Christian women who feel pulled into “Martha mode” during the holidays. She shares how the pressure to host, fix, and keep everything running smoothly can crowd out meaningful connection.

Drawing from her own experiences as a physician and coach, Dr. Phyllis reflects on how problem solving habits often spill into personal relationships. Instead of listening, we rush to offer answers, missing opportunities to be fully present with the people we love.

She introduces her simple LISTEN method as a way to slow down and connect more deeply. By leaning in, asking open ended questions, allowing silence, and responding with empathy, listening becomes an intentional practice rather than another task.

This episode invites listeners to choose presence as their holiday gift, letting go of the urge to fix and making space for deeper understanding and connection.

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In this episode, Dr. Phyllis talks about something many people struggle with: being kind to themselves when they fall short. So many people are juggling a lot while still showing up with a smile, acting like everything is fine. But mistakes happen, plans fall apart, and things do not always go the way we expect.

Dr. Phyllis shares a personal story about being late and openly admitting she had a lot going on. That moment leads into a conversation about grace, honesty, and what it looks like to keep moving forward even when you are not showing up in the way you want.

The episode centers on the idea of progress, not perfection. Dr. Phyllis reminds listeners that those “hit the fan” moments are part of life, and that self forgiveness matters more than self blame. She offers a simple approach to stepping out of autopilot, noticing self judgment, choosing a kinder response, and redirecting toward the next positive step.

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In today’s episode, Dr. Phyllis talks about something we all need more of in our day. A pause. She opens up about what it has looked like to be in the thick of caregiving, how much growth has come from this season, and how it pushed her to take an honest look at herself. She shares how slowing her life was never the answer, but slowing the moment was.

Dr. Phyllis walks through a story from her own life that reminded her to slow down long enough to breathe, notice what is happening, and reset before moving forward. That reset is the heart of this conversation.

She introduces a simple practice she calls the sixty second reset. It is quick, intentional, and something you can use anytime you feel overwhelmed or pulled in too many directions. All it takes is three deep breaths and a clear choice about your next action. When you do that, you interrupt the autopilot, break the busyness, and return to yourself.

This episode is a reminder that it only takes one breath, one pause, and one present moment to come back into alignment.

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In this episode, Dr. Phyllis invites you to pause and look at your alignment—not just your schedule, but the way you’re moving through life. When you choose presence on purpose, even in small pockets of time, you start to see where you’ve been running on empty and where God is nudging you back to center.

She shares a recent moment when she reclaimed a few hours in her week and realized how much a small shift can change the way you show up. God didn’t design us to push through nonstop. He designed us to live aligned with Him.

Dr. Phyllis also walks through a simple framework for realignment:

A – Ask yourself an honest question

L – Look at what’s taking your time and energy

I – Invite God into it

G – Give yourself permission

N – Name your next step

This isn’t about finding two hours every day. Most of us don’t have that. It’s about choosing one intentional block of time and using it in a way that makes you feel grounded and alive.

“He restores my soul.” Restoration often happens in the quiet moments where you pause and let God meet you. He isn’t asking you to constantly pour out. He’s leading you back to rest, back to awareness, back to Him

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Life can feel overwhelming when you’re juggling a lot and running on auto-pilot. In this episode, Dr. Phyllis shares a moment that shook her and helped her realize the importance of being fully present. Presence is where strength is restored, and God sees every moment you choose to slow down rather than just push through.

Dr. Phyllis shares three ways God renews you in the hard places. First, spiritually, through faithful presence, allowing His strength to fill you even when you feel depleted. Second, emotionally, through self-acknowledgement, taking a moment to recognize how you feel and what you need. Third, physically, through rest and support, because running on auto-pilot without care for yourself drains your body and mind.

She reminds us that life can feel demanding and often the appreciation we receive from others can feel fleeting or expected. Even so, God sees every late night, every early morning, every hard decision, and every unseen act of love. Slow down when you can, focus on one way to renew yourself this week, and remember that you don’t have to be perfect—just keep showing up.

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