In this episode of Be Unrealistic, I’m getting real about something that keeps so many of us stuck - self-abandonment.

This month has been deeply transformational for me, especially after participating in the 14-Day Reset with Cathy Heller. What I thought would be a mindset refresh turned into a full-on reset of my identity, my nervous system, and honestly… my entire brain.

If you’ve ever:

1. Started strong and fizzled out by February
2. Talked yourself out of dreams that mattered
3. Chosen what’s “practical” over what feels true
4. Felt stuck even though you want more

This episode is for you.

We talk about the subtle, socially acceptable ways we abandon ourselves every day - and how those patterns keep us small, hesitant, and disconnected from the lives we actually want.

More importantly, I walk you through practical, doable ways to interrupt self-abandonment and start choosing yourself again — without pressure, perfection, or hustle.

1. Why motivation isn’t the problem — identity is
2. How self-abandonment actually shows up in daily life
3. The moment to watch for when you’re about to talk yourself out of what you want
4. Why action (not confidence) creates momentum
5. How community and energetic alignment change everything
6. What shifted for me during the 14-Day Reset
7. Why completion and follow-through are acts of self-trust

✨ This Abundant Life — a daily energetic reset and community centered around alignment, abundance, and possibility

✨ DONE — a 90-day embodiment and completion experience starting in February, designed to help you follow through and stop starting over

Your desires aren’t random.

They’re not selfish.

They’re not unrealistic.

They’re invitations.

And every time you ignore them, you abandon yourself.

Every time you choose them — even in small ways — you come home.

Come hang out with me on instagram at This Cozy Chapter! :)

~ Kristin

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What happens when you stop trying to fix yourself and finally move?

In this episode, I’m sharing a raw truth-bomb about why I’m done waiting for clarity, done shrinking, and done treating myself like a project instead of a person.

We talk about why so many women feel stuck, how self-improvement can quietly turn into self-rejection, and why action actually creates clarity—not the other way around.

This episode is for you if you’ve been:

1. waiting to feel “ready”
2. stuck in overthinking
3. feeling like something must be wrong with you
4. craving momentum instead of more information

I also share how immersing myself in Cathy Heller’s work and community has supported this shift, including:

This Abundant Life

Business Class

DONE (starting in February)

You don’t need perfect clarity.

You don’t need permission.

You don’t need to become someone else first.

Move first.

Clarity will follow.

If this episode resonated, I’d love for you to come hang with me over on This Cozy Chapter. It’s where we talk about books, intentional living, mindset shifts, and creating a life that feels cozy, meaningful, and fully yours. You’re always welcome there. 🤍

~ Kristin

Quick note before you go: some of the links I share are affiliate links, which means I may earn a small commission if you choose to sign up—at no extra cost to you. I only ever share things I genuinely love, use, and would recommend anyway. 🤍

Welcome to Episode One of Be Unrealistic.

In this episode, I’m sharing the real story behind why this podcast exists - not as a brand decision or strategy, but as a response to a feeling I couldn’t ignore anymore.

For years, I walked around feeling like I was “too much.”

Too many ideas. Too many dreams. Too hopeful. Too everything.

I talk honestly about:

1. Being told to “be realistic” and how that shaped my self-doubt
2. Starting and stopping — and the shame that came with it
3. Realizing I wasn’t flaky or failing, I was searching
4. Why consistency (not confidence or perfection) was the missing piece

I also share a mindset shift that’s changed everything for me lately:

setting standards instead of goals.

Instead of chasing future outcomes, I’m learning to anchor into who I’m becoming - and how I show up consistently, even when it’s boring or uncomfortable. This idea, which I’ve been learning from my mentor Cathy Heller, has helped me stop quitting on myself and start building in a way that feels steady, kind, and sustainable.

This episode sets the foundation for what Be Unrealistic is really about:

1. Living intentionally
2. Doing work that aligns with your gifts, talents, and purpose
3. And building a life that actually fits you - without hustle culture or burnout

If you’ve ever felt like you were too much, didn’t fit the mold, or kept starting over again and again… this episode is for you.

✨ Resources mentioned:

1. Cathy Heller’s 14-Day Challenge
2. This Abundant Life community

Thanks for being here. I’m really glad you found your way to this space.

♾️ Welcome to Be Unrealistic.

~ Kristin 🤎 (Come hang out with me on Instagram @thiscozychapter)

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I only share resources, programs, and communities that I genuinely use, love, and believe support intentional living, personal growth, and building a life that feels aligned. Thank you for supporting the podcast and the work I share here 🤍

Welcome to Be Unrealistic — a podcast for dreamers who are done watering themselves down.

In this trailer, I share why this podcast exists. I’ve always been a head-in-the-clouds, big-ideas kind of girl, and for years I was told to “get my head out of the clouds,” “come back down to the real world,” and most of all… be realistic.

While people usually mean well, those phrases often translate to:

don’t want too much, don’t shake things up, and stay where it’s comfortable.

For a long time, I tried to listen — shrinking my dreams, second-guessing myself, and softening my ideas to make other people more comfortable. But as I move into 2026, I’ve realized something clearly: I’m done doing that.

Be Unrealistic is about choosing commitment over perfection, freedom over default, and building a life and work that actually align with your gifts, talents, and values.

On this podcast, we’ll talk personal growth, mindset shifts, books, and I’ll be interviewing women who’ve chosen work that fits their lives instead of letting work run their lives.

This isn’t about hustle culture or overnight success — it’s about small, consistent steps toward a life that feels aligned and intentional.

If you’ve ever felt like you were “too much” or were told to be realistic one too many times, this space is for you.

🎧 Episode one drops January 8 ♾️

📲 Follow along on Instagram: @thiscozychapter

I’m really glad you’re here.