What if the secret to reaching your goals is not grinding harder, but holding them more gently?

Kelly and Nyssa explore the final two intentionality slogans from Uncle Murray—“Keep your eyes on the prize” and “Easy does it”—and how together they create a powerful roadmap for pursuing meaningful goals without burning out.

Through stories of massage clients, canceled flights, blackout Airbnbs, nourishing meals, grandmothers in Depression‑era kitchens, and Buddhist teachings like “the obstacle is the path,” they show how attention, dedication, and ease can completely change your relationship to work, pain, and purpose.

If you’re craving a more sustainable, compassionate way to stay focused on what matters—whether that’s healing, creative projects, or showing up better for the people you love—this conversation on intentionality, mindset, and choosing a pleasant path is for you.

Main Topics Covered:

• How “Keep your eyes on the prize” can completely change what you think your real goal is
• The surprising power of “Easy does it” when you’re ambitious, exhausted, or stuck in hustle mode
• Why three bricklayers—and three different answers—might reshape how you see your work and purpose
• A simple journaling ritual Nyssa uses to turn boring focus blocks into meaningful, motivated time
• What chronic pain, canceled flights, and traffic jams can teach us about intentionality and resilience
• How helping someone else (on purpose) can instantly shift you out of self‑absorbed suffering
• The hidden influence of grandmothers’ cooking, Depression‑era kitchens, and one unforgettable meal
• Why your “prize” is often other people—and how knowing that changes the way you show up
• The essential balance between caring deeply and not taking yourself (or your goals) too seriously
• A complete read‑through of all Uncle Murray’s intentionality slogans, woven into one poetic finale

Links:

• Episode #16 - Intentionality, Part 1: Everything You’ve Done Prepared You For This Moment
• Episode #17 - Intentionality, Part 2: Feeling Good Needs No Excuse
• Episode #18 - Intentionality, Part 3: If You Think You Can Change the World, You Have a Better Chance
• Episode #19 - Intentionality, Part 4: Your Reality is as Good as Anyone Else’s
• Episode #20 - Intentionality, Part 5: It’s Useful to View the Past in a Friendly Way
• Episode #21 - Intentionality, Part 6: There’s More Than Two Ways to Skin a Cat
• Episode #22 - Intentionality, Part 7: Take the Hard Things Easy
• Episode #23 - Intentionality, Part 8: You’re Already Ready
• Episode #24 - Intentionality, Part 9: Life is a Joke – Either You Get It or You Don’t
• Episode #25 - Intentionality, Part 10: Whatever It Is You Feel, Remember You Don’t Have To
• Episode #26 - Intentionality, Part 11: Aim Yourself at Being with People Who Facilitate You Being the Person You Want to Be
• Episode #27 - Intentionality, Part 12: Find a Pleasant Path
• Episode #11 - How to Get What You Want (Without Toxic Positivity or Wishful Thinking)
• Episode #12 - How to Use the Moon Phases for Goal Setting, Time Management, and Productivity

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Want your life to actually feel different—not just look the same with new intentions on top?

Kelly and Nyssa unpack two of Uncle Murray’s most quietly radical intentionality sayings, “You can’t be different by acting the same” and “Find a pleasant path,” exploring how tiny, sustainable shifts in behavior can transform habits, money choices, health, and even how you move through pain and aging.

Through stories about changing grocery stores, managing back pain, navigating construction chaos, and wrestling with nostalgia and resistance, they show how incremental change plus genuine enjoyment is more powerful (and realistic) than white‑knuckled self‑improvement.

If you’re craving practical, compassionate guidance on building new habits, aligning your daily actions with your values, and making your path more pleasant without spiritual bypassing, this conversation on intentionality, behavior change, and everyday joy is for you.

Main Topics Covered:

• How two simple sayings—“You can’t be different by acting the same” and “Find a pleasant path”—can quietly revolutionize your everyday choices
• Why tiny, almost laughably small changes (like putting on your shoes or switching grocery stores) can matter more than big dramatic goals
• The surprising emotional baggage hiding inside brand loyalty, money habits, and where you buy your food
• What chronic pain, back issues, and “mind medicine” teach about suffering versus sensation
• How 12‑step “slogans,” therapy wisdom, and Uncle Murray’s intentionality practices all weave together
• The Icelandic motto “it’ll work out,” antidepressants, and what truly happy cultures can teach us about resilience
• The role of curiosity, play, and even elves (yes, elves) in finding a more pleasant path through weird, hard human lives
• Why cutting expenses, changing habits, or aging well doesn’t have to feel like punishment or deprivation
• The difference between accepting life’s difficulty and unconsciously choosing a painful path you don’t actually have to stay on

Links:

• Episode #16 - Intentionality, Part 1: Everything You’ve Done Prepared You For This Moment
• Episode #17 - Intentionality, Part 2: Feeling Good Needs No Excuse
• Episode #18 - Intentionality, Part 3: If You Think You Can Change the World, You Have a Better Chance
• Episode #19 - Intentionality, Part 4: Your Reality is as Good as Anyone Else’s
• Episode #20 - Intentionality, Part 5: It’s Useful to View the Past in a Friendly Way
• Episode #21 - Intentionality, Part 6: There’s More Than Two Ways to Skin a Cat
• Episode #22 - Intentionality, Part 7: Take the Hard Things Easy
• Episode #23 - Intentionality, Part 8: You’re Already Ready
• Episode #24 - Intentionality, Part 9: Life is a Joke – Either You Get It or You Don’t
• Episode #25 - Intentionality, Part 10: Whatever It Is You Feel, Remember You Don’t Have To
• Episode #26 - Intentionality, Part 11: Aim Yourself at Being with People Who Facilitate You Being the Person You Want to Be

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What if the people you spend time with — and the courage to ask for what you really want — are quietly shaping who you become?

Kelly and Nyssa dive into two of Uncle Murray’s core intentionality slogans, “Aim yourself at being with people who facilitate you being the person you want to be” and “The more I ask for what I want, the more likely I am to get it,” to explore how relationships, community, and self‑advocacy sculpt our lives.

They unpack the “bad apple” effect in groups, the link between unexpressed expectations and resentment, and why complaining is often just a wish in disguise, weaving in Jungian psychology, Buddhist ideas on noble friendship, family stories, and real‑life renovation drama.

If you’re navigating friendships, partnerships, work dynamics, or simply trying to live more intentionally aligned with your values, this conversation on boundaries, asking for what you want, and choosing your people with care is for you.

Main Topics Covered:

• How “aiming yourself” at certain people quietly shapes who you become (for better or worse)
• The surprising power of one “bad apple” to derail a whole group’s mood, focus, and productivity
• Why we stay around people who don’t actually support who we want to be — and what it takes to choose differently
• The hidden link between unexpressed expectations and growing resentment in relationships
• How complaining often masks an unspoken wish (and how to translate rants into real requests)
• The vulnerability — and radical payoff — of asking directly for what you want
• What childhood, family culture, and early socialization teach us about whether it’s “okay” to have wants
• Using intentionality to navigate group dynamics, friendships, and romantic partnerships more consciously
• How spiritual ideas like dharma, noble friendship, and shadow work intersect with everyday choices about who we spend time with

Links:

• Episode #16 - Intentionality, Part 1: Everything You’ve Done Prepared You For This Moment
• Episode #17 - Intentionality, Part 2: Feeling Good Needs No Excuse
• Episode #18 - Intentionality, Part 3: If You Think You Can Change the World, You Have a Better Chance
• Episode #19 - Intentionality, Part 4: Your Reality is as Good as Anyone Else’s
• Episode #20 - Intentionality, Part 5: It’s Useful to View the Past in a Friendly Way
• Episode #21 - Intentionality, Part 6: There’s More Than Two Ways to Skin a Cat
• Episode #22 - Intentionality, Part 7: Take the Hard Things Easy
• Episode #23 - Intentionality, Part 8: You’re Already Ready
• Episode #24 - Intentionality, Part 9: Life is a Joke – Either You Get It or You Don’t
• Episode #25 - Intentionality, Part 10: Whatever It Is You Feel, Remember You Don’t Have To

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Nyssa Hanger: www.nyssahanger.com | IG: @nyssahanger

Kelly Brady: www.kellybrady.me | IG: @drkellybrady