Do you believe what you do is never enough—that you are not enough? If so, you are not alone. In this episode I explore the possible origins of the pressure women feel to gain approval and how my work with women led to the expression, “Blooming Outside the Lines.” In this episode, I share

• the connection between self-worth and approval in women who came to see me, no matter how bright, capable, and accomplished they were.
• that based on our history as women, it is understandable that pleasing and appeasing would have been passed down both genetically, as well as through socialization.
• that when constantly strive for approval, we operate from a shaky foundation, leaving us feeling insecure and not enough.
• that what may seem like small steps will add up and help build a solid foundation, based on your wisdom.

To learn more from Deb,

¨ Visit her website at https://creatingchoicesdeblang.com/ for information about her online courses and free info sheets and guides designed to support you as you navigate life’s challenges.

¨ To explore your beliefs about self-care, check out her free guide athttps://creatingchoicesdeblang.com/finding-time-for-self-care/

¨ If you struggle with feeling good enough, check out her book Never Enough—Separating Self-Worth from Approval.

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Are we designed to be calm? We certainly get that impression from the messages we receive. Anxiety is uncomfortable. I get it because I’ve been there. The problem is that expecting to be calm may be unrealistic and result in more symptoms. Join me as I discuss another set of lines we work hard to stay within that of being calm. I’ll share

• Studies suggesting that evolution favors anxiety and that trying to avoid stress may be detrimental.
• How we often misinterpret the support the body is providing as anxiety and something to be feared.
• A curiosity of what might happen if women offered the kindness and acceptance, to themselves when anxious that they so readily share with others.

To learn more from Deb,

• Visit her website at https://creatingchoicesdeblang.com/ for information about her online courses and free info sheets and guides designed to support you as you navigate life’s challenges.
• To explore your beliefs about self-care, check out her free guide athttps://creatingchoicesdeblang.com/finding-time-for-self-care/
• If you struggle with feeling good enough, check out her book Never Enough—Separating Self-Worth from Approval.

To help other women find this podcast, please consider leaving a review. Here’s how

—on Apple Podcasts: open the app, find this podcast, scroll

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Thank you. Your review doesn’t need to be eloquent, and it will help women discover the show.

If you’d like to support the making of Blooming Outside the Lines, you can do so here: ko-fi.com/bloomingoutsidethelines

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Learn why believing self-care is selfish backfires. If you are questioning whether you “should” be taking time out for self-care when our nation is in crisis, this episode will tackle that question by delving into the physiological repercussions of ignoring self-care. Go beyond “self-care is important” and understand why self-care is essential in dealing effectively with and contributing constructively during challenging situations.

Key points

• Women often view self-care as a reward rather than a requirement.
• Ignoring self-care can impact brain functioning and, as a result capability.

To learn more from Deb,

• Visit her website at https://creatingchoicesdeblang.com/ for information about her online courses and free info sheets and guides designed to support you as you navigate life’s challenges.
• To explore your beliefs about self-care, check out her free guide at https://creatingchoicesdeblang.com/finding-time-for-self-care/
• If you struggle with feeling good enough, check out her book Never Enough—Separating Self-Worth from Approval.

To help other women find this podcast, please consider leaving a review. Here’s how

—on Apple Podcasts: open the app, find this podcast, scroll

down and tap “Write a Review”

—on Spotify: open the podcast page and tap the stars

Thank you. Your review doesn’t need to be eloquent, and it will help women discover the show.

If you’d like to support the making of Blooming Outside the Lines, you can do so here: ko-fi.com/bloomingoutsidethelines

There is no expectation—please do what is responsive to you. Listening and sharing are also meaningful ways of supporting the podcast.