Episodes

  • Marriage, Inc, Part 2. Money Scripts and financial behaviors

    Marriage, Inc, Part 2. Money Scripts and financial behaviors
    Sep 5 2025
    Keywords financial conflicts, money scripts, childhood experiences, compulsive behaviors, financial dependency, enabling behaviors, healthy financial practices, teaching finances to children Summary This conversation delves into the complexities of financial conflicts in relationships, exploring how childhood experiences shape money behaviors and the various money scripts individuals carry into adulthood. The speakers discuss the impact of compulsive behaviors, financial dependency, and enabling behaviors on relationships, while also emphasizing the importance of healthy financial practices. They provide insights on teaching financial responsibility to children and the significance of understanding one's own money scripts to foster better financial communication and harmony in relationships. Takeaways Understanding financial conflicts often stems from childhood experiences. Money scripts are learned behaviors regarding finances from parents. Compulsive spending can be a coping mechanism for emotional pain. Financial dependency can create anxiety and resentment in relationships. Healthy financial practices are essential for emotional well-being. Teaching children about money should start at a young age. Mistakes in financial management are more manageable when children are young. Open communication about finances is crucial in relationships. Couples should hold each other accountable for financial decisions. Seeking professional help can be beneficial for financial conflicts. Titles Navigating Financial Conflicts in Relationships The Origins of Money Scripts Sound bites "Hoarding is often trauma-based." "Mistakes cost less when they're little." "Teaching kids about money starts early." Chapters 00:00 Understanding Financial Conflicts in Relationships 02:06 The Roots of Money Scripts 02:06 The Impact of Childhood Experiences on Money Behavior 22:56 Exploring Money Scripts: Avoidance, Worship, Status, and Vigilance 28:12 Compulsive Behaviors and Their Effects on Relationships 43:38 Financial Dependency and Enabling Behaviors 51:21 Healthy Financial Practices for Couples 01:00:51 Teaching Financial Responsibility to Children 01:10:37 riverside_video_outro_darktriad2.mp4
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    1 hr and 11 mins
  • Marriage Inc.: Building Financial Unity in Marriage

    Marriage Inc.: Building Financial Unity in Marriage
    Aug 15 2025
    Summary This conversation delves into the complexities of financial discussions within relationships, emphasizing the importance of financial literacy, communication, and shared values. The speakers explore how generational financial scripts influence current financial behaviors and the necessity of creating a financial agreement to navigate these discussions effectively. They also highlight the significance of budgeting, saving, and investing, while addressing emotional triggers related to money. The conversation concludes with practical strategies for couples to manage their finances collaboratively and seek help when needed. Keywords financial literacy, couples finance, money conversations, budgeting, financial agreements, relationship advice, financial security, emotional triggers, investing, debt management Takeaways Money issues often stem from trust and understanding. Financial literacy in the U.S. is alarmingly low. Couples should have a financial agreement before marriage. Communication about finances is crucial for relationship health. Creating a budget helps manage financial stress. Insurance is essential for protecting wealth. Debt management strategies can alleviate financial anxiety. Regular financial dates can improve communication. Understanding generational financial scripts is important. Investing early can lead to long-term financial security.
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    1 hr and 8 mins
  • What is Gaslight -ing

    What is Gaslight -ing
    Jul 1 2025
    In this conversation, wet explore the concept of gaslighting, particularly through the lens of the classic films 'Gaslight' (1940 and 1944). They discuss the psychological manipulation involved in gaslighting, linking it to the dark triad of personality traits: narcissism, Machiavellianism, and psychopathy. The conversation delves into the dynamics of abusive relationships, the cycle of idealization and devaluation, and the importance of healthy boundaries. Through film analysis, they highlight the subtle yet powerful ways in which manipulation can occur, ultimately emphasizing the need for awareness and understanding in recognizing and addressing such behaviors. Keywords gaslighting, dark triad, narcissism, Machiavellianism, psychopathy, psychological manipulation, relationships, emotional abuse, film analysis, mental health Takeaways Gaslighting is a form of psychological manipulation. The dark triad includes narcissism, Machiavellianism, and psychopathy. Narcissists often devalue their partners over time. Machiavellianism involves long-term manipulation and scheming. Psychopaths can be charming but are ultimately callous. Healthy boundaries are crucial in relationships. Victims of gaslighting may develop Stockholm Syndrome. The cycle of idealization and devaluation keeps victims dependent. Understanding these dynamics can help in recognizing abuse. Film analysis can provide insights into real-life psychological issues.
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    52 mins
  • Parenting & Dark Triad

    Parenting & Dark Triad
    Jun 1 2025
    Keywords Dark Triad, Psychopathy, Narcissism, Machiavellianism, Teenagers, Parenting, Red Flags, Personality Disorders, Counseling, Mental Health, parenting, drug use, antisocial behavior, teenage violence, family dynamics, childhood trauma, peer influence, social isolation, neurobiology, dopamine, emotional regulation, psychopathy, narcissism, mirroring, adoption, resilience, parenting, boundaries, family therapy, reward systems, medications, therapy, family dynamics, mental health, nature, sleep hygiene, dark triad, stress management, mindfulness Summary In this conversation, the hosts and guest Anna Munguia, a licensed professional counselor, delve into the complexities of the Dark Triad traits—psychopathy, narcissism, and Machiavellianism—manifested in teenagers. They discuss the challenges parents face in distinguishing between normal adolescent behavior and concerning traits that may indicate deeper issues. The conversation highlights the importance of recognizing red flags, understanding the role of cultural references in shaping perceptions of these traits, and the significance of frequency, intensity, duration, and impact in assessing teenage behavior. Ultimately, the discussion aims to equip parents with insights to navigate the complexities of raising children in today's world. This conversation delves into the complexities of parenting teenagers, particularly focusing on the challenges of addressing drug use, identifying early signs of antisocial behavior, and understanding the impact of family dynamics and peer influence. The discussion highlights the importance of setting boundaries, recognizing risk factors such as childhood trauma, and the role of neurobiological factors in shaping behavior. The speakers emphasize the need for parents to teach their children about natural consequences and the significance of social acceptance during adolescence. This conversation delves into the complexities of emotional regulation, the genetic and environmental factors influencing psychopathy and narcissism, and the importance of mirroring in childhood development. It discusses the resilience of adopted children and the critical role of boundaries and positive reinforcement in parenting. The speakers emphasize the need for structured behavioral contracts and the significance of family dynamics in shaping a child's behavior. They advocate for seeking professional help to navigate these challenges effectively. This conversation delves into various strategies for supporting teenagers' mental health, including implementing reward systems, the role of medications, and exploring non-pharmaceutical therapies. The importance of family dynamics in therapy, the benefits of connecting with nature, and maintaining good sleep hygiene are also discussed. Additionally, the conversation touches on the dark triad personality traits and effective stress management techniques, emphasizing the need for a holistic approach to mental well-being. #healthyboundaries #selfcare #relationshippodcast #podcast #relationshipgoals #relationshipadvice #podcastersofinstagram #dating #datingpodcast #relationships #relationshipcoach #lovepodcast #love #marriage #marriedlife #relationship #podcastlife #marriagetips #lifecoach #married #loveadvice #divorced #lovecoach #redflags #exposingnarcissism
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    1 hr and 34 mins
  • Boundaries & The Dark Triad Part 2

    Boundaries & The Dark Triad Part 2
    May 1 2025
    SUMMARY: This conversation delves into the Dark Triad personality traits—Machiavellianism, Psychopathy, and Narcissism—focusing on their characteristics, goals, and the impact they have on relationships. The speakers discuss the prevalence of these traits in the population, the manipulation tactics employed by individuals with these traits, and the importance of recognizing and setting boundaries to protect oneself from such toxic dynamics. They also explore the concepts of isolation, control, and objectification in relationships, emphasizing the need for self-awareness and personal growth to avoid attracting these types of individuals. This conversation delves into the complexities of human relationships, focusing on themes of objectification, manipulation, and the warning signs of unhealthy dynamics. The speakers discuss the implications of treating individuals as objects, the importance of setting boundaries, and recognizing manipulative behaviors such as gaslighting. They also explore the moral dilemmas associated with certain behaviors and the characteristics of individuals who may exhibit psychopathic traits. Overall, the discussion emphasizes the need for awareness and caution in interpersonal relationships. This conversation delves into the complexities of relationships involving individuals with narcissistic and dark triad traits. It explores the lies often told in relationships, the objectification of partners, and contemporary examples of narcissism in public figures. The discussion also touches on the traits of narcissistic personalities, the performance of kindness versus genuine compassion, and the dark side of socialites, culminating in a conversation about the potential for change in individuals with these personality disorders. In this conversation, the speakers delve into the complexities of psychopathy, the importance of self-work in relationships, and the philosophical underpinnings of humanism and Kantianism. They discuss the impact of parenting styles on narcissism, the necessity of building a support system, and the dynamics of interdependence versus independence in relationships. The conversation also touches on the role of support groups in recovery and the identification of narcissistic behaviors, concluding with a look ahead to future discussions on parenting and the dark triad. KEYWORDS Dark Triad, Machiavellianism, Psychopathy, Narcissism, Relationships, Isolation, Control, Objectification, Exploitation, Boundaries, objectification, manipulation, boundaries, relationships, devaluation, morality, psychopathy, gaslighting, dark triad, warning signs, relationships, deception, narcissism, dark triad, objectification, infidelity, contemporary examples, personality disorders, kindness, socialites, psychopathy, relationships, self-work, Kantianism, humanism, parenting, support system, interdependence, narcissism, recovery
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    1 hr and 2 mins
  • What Are Boundaries?

    What Are Boundaries?
    Apr 11 2025
    KEYWORDS boundaries, relationships, communication, emotional health, self-care, parenting, workplace dynamics, personal space, listening skills, conflict resolution, relationship dynamics, boundaries, communication, personal growth, intimacy, emotional health, couples therapy, Enneagram, spirituality, self-care SUMMARY In this episode of the Boundaries and Beyond podcast, Jennifer and Dr. Trinity explore the concept of boundaries, particularly in the context of relationships. They discuss the importance of understanding and defining boundaries, the different types of boundaries (physical, emotional, and sexual), and how to communicate them effectively. The conversation also touches on teaching children about boundaries, navigating workplace dynamics, and the significance of listening and mirroring in communication. The episode emphasizes that boundaries are essential for healthy relationships and personal well-being. In this conversation, the speakers delve into the complexities of relationships, focusing on the importance of understanding and establishing boundaries. They explore how personal dynamics, compatibility, and emotional health play crucial roles in fostering healthy relationships. The discussion also highlights the significance of effective communication and the identification of boundary violations, providing insights into navigating intimacy and personal growth within partnerships. takeaways Boundaries are about sharing responsibility in relationships. Understanding boundaries is crucial for healthy interactions. There are different types of boundaries: physical, emotional, and sexual. Teaching children about boundaries empowers them. Effective communication involves listening and mirroring. Setting boundaries can prevent emotional burnout. It's important to respect each other's personal space. Conflict resolution requires problem-solving rather than blame. Boundaries help maintain emotional health and well-being. Healthy relationships are built on mutual respect for boundaries. The importance of recognizing dysfunctional patterns in relationships. Understanding that marriage is about managing struggles together, not just happiness. Boundaries should be seen as a picket fence, allowing for healthy interactions. Evaluating sexual boundaries is crucial for intimacy and consent. Effective communication is key to expressing needs and boundaries. Identifying boundary violations helps in maintaining healthy relationships. Opposites can attract, but understanding differences is essential for growth. Personal growth within a relationship often leads to a deeper spiritual connection. Healthy boundaries allow for respect and personal space in relationships. Blaming others for personal feelings is a major boundary violation.
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    1 hr and 23 mins
  • Boundaries and the Dark Triad Part 1

    Boundaries and the Dark Triad Part 1
    Apr 1 2025
    "Welcome to 'Boundaries & Beyond’ podcast, your beacon of wisdom in the often foggy realm of relationships. Through each 1hr episode, Jennifer & Dr. P will help you navigate relational communication while focusing on the pivotal role of boundaries. The topics range from couples to seasoned partnerships, families, friendships, coworkers and beyond to Psychology and Science. Let Boundaries & Beyond serve as you new life-compass and dive in for a revelation on how boundaries can redefine your overall health."Disclaimer Welcome to Boundaries & Beyond Podcast. This podcast is for educational purposes only and should not be considered medical advice. The information provided is not intended to replace the medical advice of your doctor or healthcare providers. Always consult your physician or healthcare professional before making any decisions about your treatment or health. Medical conditions and treatments vary greatly from person to person. The content here should not be used as a basis for making health decisions. Any treatments, procedures, products, or therapies discussed may have risks and potential side effects, which should be discussed with your healthcare provider. Listening to this podcast does not establish a doctor-patient relationship. For personalized medical advice, please consult with your healthcare provider. While efforts are made to keep the information up-to-date, medical science is constantly evolving, and information might become outdated. Some topics discussed might be sensitive or triggering. Listener discretion is advised. This podcast does not provide legal advice; for legal matters related to healthcare, consult a legal professional. We welcome feedback and corrections from listeners and healthcare professionals. If you believe any information is incorrect or outdated, please contact us.
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    58 mins
  • Managing Chaos in the Relationship

    Managing Chaos in the Relationship
    Mar 4 2025
    In this episode we discussed the often-asked question about how to manage chaos within a relationship. We touch on the subjects of soulmates, the therapeutic separation, love addiction and love avoidance, how to deal with intrusive thoughts, the Four Horsemen of the Marital Apocalypse, boundary violations, the benefits of support groups such as 12 steps, the on-again, off-again relationship cycles, the Avoidant and codependents, and the love addiction dance, and other tools for managing chaos in a relationship
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    55 mins