Do you and your spouse love each other… but feel more like roommates lately? If physical intimacy has slowed down (or disappeared), this episode is for you. Because most of the time, intimacy doesn’t die first… connection does.

In this conversation, marriage coaches Kurt and Denette Schaer talk about how emotional closeness creates the safety, warmth, and pursuit that makes intimacy possible again...even after stressful seasons, resentment, exhaustion, or the “scorekeeping” trap.

In this episode, we cover:

✅ Why the “honeymoon phase fading” doesn’t mean you’re broken

✅ How stress, resentment, and exhaustion bury desire (not erase it)

✅ The danger of scorekeeping: “When you do for me, I’ll do for you”

✅ Why emotional connection can feel scary (especially for many men) and why it’s still not an excuse

✅ Two simple tools you can start today:

The 15-Minute Connection Window (phones down, TVs off)The Non-Sexual Touch Reset (affection without expectation)

Big takeaway: Affection without expectation rebuilds safety — and emotional safety is the foundation for physical intimacy.

Drop a comment: What’s one small rhythm you could start today to rebuild emotional closeness by tomorrow

💛 Want more information about personal marriage coaching? Connect with Kurt and Denette at: https://www.brokenforbetter.com/coaching

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Does your home feel too loud emotionally, mentally, or relationally? In this episode, marriage coaches Kurt and Denette Schaer talk about the hidden “crazy cycle” many couples live in: two ships passing in the night, running a household but not building a marriage… and calling it “just a season.”

You’ll learn how to stop the slow erosion that drains intimacy over time and replace reactive rhythms with intentional rhythms that bring peace back into your marriage.

In this episode, we cover:

✅ How to know when you’re mentally/emotionally exhausted (not just “vacation tired”)

✅ The crazy cycle and why chaos becomes “normal”

✅ The question that changes everything: Is life dictating the pace of your marriage… or is your marriage dictating the pace of life?

✅ The difference between reacting and responding (and how to choose calm

✅ 3 practical rhythms that restore connection:

Daily bookend conversations (morning or night check-ins)

Asking better questions to access your spouse’s heart

Sabbath/rest together (and how to rest when you’re wired differently)

Big takeaway: Peace isn’t the absence of problems. It’s the presence of intentional rhythms to navigate them.

Drop a comment: What’s one rhythm you’ve created that brought more peace to your home?

💛 Want more information about personal marriage coaching? Connect with Kurt and Denette at: https://www.brokenforbetter.com/coaching

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If you’re tired of the same arguments, the same tone, the same shutdown… you’re not alone.In this episode of Broken for Better, Kurt & Denette Schaer share the simple communication reset that helps couples stop reacting fast, create emotional safety, and build new rhythms that turn chaos into calm.You’ll learn:✅ Why conflict keeps repeating✅ The “I’m overwhelmed” phrase that changes everything✅ How to create safe space (even when you disagree)✅ Why scheduled repair time protects your marriage💬 Comment: When you feel overwhelmed, do you shut down, blow up, or go sarcastic?💛 Want more information about personal marriage coaching? Connect with Kurt and Denette at: https://www.brokenforbetter.com/coachingTimestamps: 00:00 - Recognizing the chaos cycle in marriage02:00 - Symptoms of a chaotic vs. peaceful home04:00 - Breaking the crazy cycle06:00 - The importance of intentional planning to prevent erosion08:00 - How reactive rhythms perpetuate chaos10:00 - The role of response vs. reaction in conflict resolution12:00 - Practical daily check-ins to strengthen connection15:00 - Creating emotional safety through volume and tone17:00 - Rest as a vital rhythm for marriage health20:00 - Protecting your marriage calendar and boundaries22:00 - Expressing expectations to prevent resentment25:00 - Tools for safe communication: hold the heart, pause phrases27:00 - The importance of safety over volume in effective communication📍All the links - stay in touch:https://linktr.ee/brokenforbetter?fbclid=IwAR2f3cwNmMsA8IXgK37HAcmQllKJMOlo0MKUmGixKFLOwMmOoKkdMkbPvVo