• Navigating the Unknown: Love, Loss, and Dementia Without a Diagnosis
    Jul 27 2026
    Donna speaks with Mike Parish about his 47-year journey with his late husband, Tom, and the heartbreaking complexities of caring for a partner through young-onset dementia. Mike opens up about the subtle early signs, the silent struggles of being an unpaid carer, and the frustrating years spent navigating the medical system without a formal diagnosis. The conversation illuminates the unique vulnerabilities faced by LGBTQ+ individuals in caregiving, the heavy financial and emotional burdens placed on family carers, and how music provided a powerful bridge to Tom’s memories even when speech was lost. KEY TAKEAWAYS The Diagnostic Void: Many families navigate years of debilitating dementia symptoms and life changes without a formal diagnosis, leaving them isolated and without structural support. Unseen Carer Burdens: Unpaid family carers face immense financial and emotional strains due to systemic gaps that fail to recognise or support them as essential partners in care. Unique LGBTQ+ Vulnerabilities: Older LGBTQ+ individuals often rely on chosen families and face additional barriers to finding culturally safe, inclusive caregiving environments. BEST MOMENTS "And to actually find that you’re not only in love with somebody, but you’re having fun all of the time—it was just, it was almost like a dream." "You don't know what you don't know... You're constantly on guard, you're constantly on high alert all the time." "It's almost like you're the most important person in the whole of that person's life, and yet you're on the outside." ABOUT THE HOST Donna brings both professional depth and personal lived experience to every conversation. She holds a Diploma in Coaching and Positive Psychology and is a qualified Alcohol-Free Performance Coach. She had 28 years in NHS nursing and clinical leadership - including Matron roles in a busy teaching hospital - yet found being a carer for a loved one incredibly challenging. That was when she founded Care Without Burnout, a not for profit Community Interest Company, to bridge a gap the NHS simply doesn't have the capacity to fill: preventative, relational support for the people doing the caring. Whether you're in the thick of it right now, supporting someone who is, or working alongside carers professionally this podcast is for you. New episodes every Monday. Subscribe wherever you listen. rebecca@rebeccacookcoach.com @rebeccacookcoach on Instagram ⁠⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/share/18sSX8fkRw/⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/carewithoutburnout?igsh=MTdvdmV6enY4ZTkxNw==⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@cwb.cic?_r=1&_t=ZN-97SQfpF2r26⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠hello@carewithoutburnout.org⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠https://carewithoutburnout.org⁠⁠⁠
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    57 mins
  • Putting Your Gas Mask on First: Navigating the Rollercoaster of Chronic Caregiving
    Jul 21 2026
    Donna sits down with Rebecca, a mother whose life shifted instantly when her daughter was diagnosed with brittle type 1 diabetes during the height of the COVID-19 lockdown. Rebecca shares the gruelling reality of transitioning from a parent to a 24/7 medical caregiver, facing steep learning curves, isolation, and agonising guilt over unspotted warning signs. The conversation dives headfirst into the toxic cycle of self-neglect common among caregivers, tracing Rebecca's personal breakthrough from total burnout to setting firm boundaries and rediscovering her own wellness through paddle-boarding. It’s a powerful exploration of the vital truth that to effectively care for someone else, you must first survive yourself. KEY TAKEAWAYS Caregiver Guilt is an Illusion: Chronic diagnoses often manifest gradually, and parents must forgive themselves for not noticing subtle shifts in an otherwise healthy child. The "Gas Mask" Principle is Non-Negotiable: Carving out dedicated wellness time is not a selfish act; it is an essential maintenance requirement to remain strong enough to support those who rely on you. Empowered Advocacy Means Setting Boundaries: Caregivers must confidently trust their intimate knowledge of their loved one, while insisting that institutional support systems—like schools and family networks—actively share the caregiving load rather than defaulting entirely to one person. BEST MOMENTS "I was told initially that too little can kill her and too much can kill her, which sort of puts quite a big fear on you in the early days. Suddenly you're left alone making medical decisions without really much support." "By talking to a counsellor it allowed me to park all of the medical explanations and the justifications of what I'd done and what I hadn't done, and I could just talk about me." "I have to start to let go and put myself first. I'm all Abigail's got now, and if I burn out there's nobody to take care of her." ABOUT THE HOST Donna brings both professional depth and personal lived experience to every conversation. She holds a Diploma in Coaching and Positive Psychology and is a qualified Alcohol-Free Performance Coach. She had 28 years in NHS nursing and clinical leadership - including Matron roles in a busy teaching hospital - yet found being a carer for a loved one incredibly challenging. That was when she founded Care Without Burnout, a not for profit Community Interest Company, to bridge a gap the NHS simply doesn't have the capacity to fill: preventative, relational support for the people doing the caring. Whether you're in the thick of it right now, supporting someone who is, or working alongside carers professionally this podcast is for you. New episodes every Monday. Subscribe wherever you listen. rebecca@rebeccacookcoach.com @rebeccacookcoach on Instagram ⁠⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/share/18sSX8fkRw/⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/carewithoutburnout?igsh=MTdvdmV6enY4ZTkxNw==⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@cwb.cic?_r=1&_t=ZN-97SQfpF2r26⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠hello@carewithoutburnout.org⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠https://carewithoutburnout.org⁠⁠⁠
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    31 mins
  • From Caregiver to Griever: Exploring the Complexities of Loss and Identity
    Jul 15 2026
    In this episode of the Care Without Burnout podcast, host Donna Bentley-Carr welcomes Laura, a social prescriber with over 20 years of experience in social care. Laura shares her insights on the importance of social prescribing in supporting patients with non-medical issues that impact their health and well-being, particularly for unpaid carers. She discusses her role in connecting individuals to vital services and resources, emphasising the emotional toll of caregiving and the need for support. Additionally, Laura introduces her new venture as a grief and loss coach, highlighting the complexities of grief that often accompany caregiving roles. KEY TAKEAWAYS Social Prescribing Importance: Social prescribing offers a holistic approach to healthcare by addressing non-medical issues that impact health and well-being, such as housing, benefits, and social isolation, thereby reducing unnecessary GP visits. Support for Carers: Many carers feel isolated and overwhelmed, often unaware of the support services available to them. Connecting them with local resources can significantly improve their well-being and provide necessary respite. Grief and Loss Coaching: Grief can encompass both physical loss and non-death losses, such as the loss of routine or purpose. Understanding these different types of grief is crucial for providing effective support to those navigating their feelings after a loss. BEST MOMENTS "One of the main objectives for social prescribing is to reduce the amount of times that patients might need to see their GP because they found that a lot of patients were going to their GP with more social issues." "People come to us and they don't know what services are out there. And when we tell them, they're like, Wow, I didn't know that was there." "There's a non-death grief there as well that's attached to the physical bereavement. You can live alongside your grief. It's not going anywhere." ABOUT THE HOST Donna brings both professional depth and personal lived experience to every conversation. She holds a Diploma in Coaching and Positive Psychology and is a qualified Alcohol-Free Performance Coach. She had 28 years in NHS nursing and clinical leadership - including Matron roles in a busy teaching hospital - yet found being a carer for a loved one incredibly challenging. That was when she founded Care Without Burnout, a not for profit Community Interest Company, to bridge a gap the NHS simply doesn't have the capacity to fill: preventative, relational support for the people doing the caring. Whether you're in the thick of it right now, supporting someone who is, or working alongside carers professionally this podcast is for you. New episodes every Monday. Subscribe wherever you listen. ⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/share/18sSX8fkRw/⁠⁠ ⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/carewithoutburnout?igsh=MTdvdmV6enY4ZTkxNw==⁠⁠ ⁠⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@cwb.cic?_r=1&_t=ZN-97SQfpF2r26⁠⁠ ⁠⁠hello@carewithoutburnout.org⁠⁠ ⁠⁠https://carewithoutburnout.org⁠⁠
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    24 mins
  • Empowering Carers: Strategies for Maintaining Well-Being While Caring for Loved Ones - With Sara Challice
    Jun 29 2026
    In this episode of the Care Without Burnout podcast, host Donna Bentley-Carr speaks with Sara Challice, a former carer who dedicated 13 years to supporting her partner through a battle with a malignant brain tumor. Sarah shares her personal journey, highlighting the emotional and physical challenges of caregiving, including the risk of burnout and the importance of self-care. They discuss practical tools for managing stress, the significance of finding joy in small moments, and the necessity of seeking support and respite. Sara emphasizes the need for carers to prioritise their own well-being to provide better care for their loved ones, and she offers valuable insights and advice for those just starting their caregiving journey. This episode is a heartfelt reminder of the resilience of carers and the importance of community and self-compassion in the caregiving experience. Self-Care is Essential: Carers often neglect their own needs while focusing on their loved ones. It's crucial to prioritize self-care to prevent burnout and maintain overall well-being. Seek Support and Resources: Carers should actively seek out support services, such as local charities and respite care options. Many resources are available that can help alleviate the burden of caregiving. The Importance of Breaks: Regular breaks are vital for carers to recharge. Taking time away from caregiving responsibilities can lead to better care for the loved one and improved mental health for the carer. BEST MOMENTS "I realised not only was I last on my list, I wasn't even on the list of priorities. I knew I had to make changes." "Carers UK says on one of their particular surveys, the best part of 70% of carers fall mentally or physically unwell." "By having a rest, you're helping your loved one. You're actually going to be able to do a better job and do it for longer." USEFUL LINKS https://www.whocares4carers.com/ ABOUT THE HOST Donna brings both professional depth and personal lived experience to every conversation. She holds a Diploma in Coaching and Positive Psychology and is a qualified Alcohol-Free Performance Coach. She had 28 years in NHS nursing and clinical leadership - including Matron roles in a busy teaching hospital - yet found being a carer for a loved one incredibly challenging. That was when she founded Care Without Burnout, a not for profit Community Interest Company, to bridge a gap the NHS simply doesn't have the capacity to fill: preventative, relational support for the people doing the caring. Whether you're in the thick of it right now, supporting someone who is, or working alongside carers professionally this podcast is for you. New episodes every Monday. Subscribe wherever you listen. ⁠https://www.facebook.com/share/18sSX8fkRw/⁠ ⁠https://www.instagram.com/carewithoutburnout?igsh=MTdvdmV6enY4ZTkxNw==⁠ ⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@cwb.cic?_r=1&_t=ZN-97SQfpF2r26⁠ ⁠hello@carewithoutburnout.org⁠ ⁠https://carewithoutburnout.org⁠
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    47 mins
  • The Adaptive Caregiver Model: Embracing Change and Fostering Connection - With Andy Baker
    Jun 22 2026
    In this episode of the Care Without Burnout podcast, host Donna Bentley-Carr welcomes Andy Baker, Managing Director and Head Trainer at The Able Training Company, to discuss the challenges faced by unpaid caregivers, particularly those caring for individuals with dementia or mental health conditions. Andy shares insights from his extensive experience in health and social care, emphasizing the importance of understanding behavior and adapting care to the individual rather than the diagnosis. He introduces his book, "The Adaptive Caregiver Model: Walking With, Not Ahead," which focuses on fostering empathy and creating meaningful moments in caregiving. The conversation highlights the significance of self-care for caregivers, the need for open communication, and the value of community support, offering practical tips for navigating the complexities of caregiving while maintaining one's well-being. KEY TAKEAWAYS Embrace Imperfection: Accept that perfection does not exist in caregiving. It's important to recognize that "good enough" is sufficient, and caregivers should not hold themselves to unrealistic standards. Seek Support: Caregivers should understand that they are not alone in their journey. It's crucial to communicate their needs to friends, family, and professionals, as many people are willing to help if they are aware of the situation. Focus on Positive Moments: Shift the narrative from what individuals with dementia can no longer do to what they can still enjoy. Creating joyful moments, even through simple activities, can enhance the quality of life for both the caregiver and the person being cared for. BEST MOMENTS "The one thing that stands out is that people are people. Once you start to understand yourself and others, there's a lot you can navigate in different ways." "Good enough is good enough. You don't have to do everything perfectly. Just knowing you've kept your loved one safe is a great job." ABOUT THE HOST Donna brings both professional depth and personal lived experience to every conversation. She holds a Diploma in Coaching and Positive Psychology and is a qualified Alcohol-Free Performance Coach. She had 28 years in NHS nursing and clinical leadership - including Matron roles in a busy teaching hospital - yet found being a carer for a loved one incredibly challenging. That was when she founded Care Without Burnout, a not for profit Community Interest Company, to bridge a gap the NHS simply doesn't have the capacity to fill: preventative, relational support for the people doing the caring. Whether you're in the thick of it right now, supporting someone who is, or working alongside carers professionally this podcast is for you. New episodes every Monday. Subscribe wherever you listen. https://www.facebook.com/share/18sSX8fkRw/ https://www.instagram.com/carewithoutburnout?igsh=MTdvdmV6enY4ZTkxNw== https://www.tiktok.com/@cwb.cic?_r=1&_t=ZN-97SQfpF2r26 hello@carewithoutburnout.org https://carewithoutburnout.org
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    50 mins
  • Reclaiming Identity and Purpose Through Life After Public Service
    Jan 23 2026
    Today, Donna discusses the new direction she plans to take the podcast. Whether you have served in the NHS, policing, the military, local government, or social care, leaving the job that defined you is rarely just a career change; it is a profound identity shift. Donna outlines her mission to provide honest conversations, real stories of reinvention, and practical tools to help listeners rebuild confidence and find new meaning after the ID card is handed in. KEY TAKEAWAYS Leaving public service is fundamentally an identity shift rather than a simple career move, often requiring a total redefinition of who you are without the uniform or title. The transition is frequently disorienting and emotional, yet these challenging feelings are rarely discussed openly or honestly within the sector. There is a vast, supportive community of former public servants from various sectors, including the military, police, and social care, who are navigating this same path together. The podcast will move beyond theory to offer actionable advice on rebuilding confidence, well-being, and purpose to help you ground yourself in a new life. Despite the feelings of loss that come with leaving, the podcast focuses on hope, proving that there is a meaningful future and a new 'you' to discover beyond the role you once held. BEST MOMENTS "What happens when the job that shaped you ends? When the uniform comes off, the ID card is handed in, and the role that once defined you becomes a memory?" "For millions of people who served in the NHS, local government, policing, social care, the military, and the wider public sector, leaving isn't simple. It's emotional. It's disorienting." "I learned firsthand that life after public service is not a career change, it's an identity shift." "You'll discover that you're not alone, there's a whole community walking this path with you." "Remember, you're not alone, and there is a future beyond the role you once held." ABOUT THE HOST Donna Bentley‑Carr is a former NHS nurse turned leadership coach, organisational wellbeing strategist, and host of Life After Public Service — the podcast that explores what happens when a career of service comes to an end and a new identity begins. After 30 years on the frontline of healthcare, Donna experienced firsthand the emotional, psychological, and cultural challenges that come with leaving public service. Her own transition revealed a truth many never speak about: stepping away from a life of service isn’t just a career change — it’s an identity shift. Today, Donna supports people and organisations across the UK as they navigate change, rebuild confidence, and create healthier, more human‑centred cultures. Through her coaching, leadership development work, and storytelling, she brings warmth, honesty, and deep insight to conversations about purpose, resilience, and reinvention. With a blend of lived experience, professional expertise, and a gift for making people feel seen, Donna creates space for real stories, real emotions, and real transformation. Her mission is simple: to help people rediscover who they are beyond the role they once held — and to show that there is a meaningful, hopeful, and fulfilling life after public service. https://www.facebook.com/share/1FjUrwC7qS https://www.lifeafterpublicservice.co.uk/ Email: Donna@lifeafterpublicservice.co.uk Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/donna-bentley-carr This podcast features real-life stories from frontline public service workers, covering tough topics such as war, trauma and loss, and may be triggering to some listeners. Guests also share their tales of everyday heroism, inspiring joy, hope, empathy and humanity. If you have a story to share that could encourage others seeking change or additional income, please get in touch. This Podcast has been brought to you by Disruptive Media. https://disruptivemedia.co.uk/
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  • From RAF Engineer to The Salford Chocolatier: Amanda Norbury
    Jan 16 2026
    In this episode, Donna sits down with Amanda Norbury, also known as The Salford Chocolatier. Amanda shares her remarkable journey from a 30-year career as an aircraft engineer in the Royal Air Force to launching her own artisan chocolate business. She discusses overcoming challenges, the importance of vulnerability and asking for help, and how a chance appearance on James Martin's Saturday Morning show catapulted her business to new heights. KEY TAKEAWAYS Amanda's career shift began with a simple interest in physics and a chance encounter at a careers office, leading to a fulfilling 30-year career in the RAF. The discipline, resilience, and adaptability Amanda learned in the military proved invaluable in launching and running her own business. Admitting you don't know everything and asking for help is not a weakness; it builds trust and fosters stronger connections with others. You don't need to dive into the deep end immediately. Taking small steps, like talking to strangers or attending local events, can help build the confidence needed for bigger leaps. In a digital age, face-to-face interactions and showing your authentic self can be a powerful differentiator for your business. BEST MOMENTS "I never really had the confidence though, and that was the difference. I never believed any of this was going to happen, but I just took the opportunity when it came along." "The strength comes from vulnerability, not from showing the world that you can achieve everything, which we can't." "You can be a leader and still be human and still be vulnerable." "Don't do anything until you've got some advice, support. Use all your resources, empower yourself with those tools because Googling will waste hours and hours of precious time." "Invest in yourself: You're worth that investment." ABOUT THE HOST Donna is a Registered Nurse who has worked in the NHS for three decades. She brings you real-life stories from people in front-line public service roles. Some of the stories discuss war, terrorism, suicide, abuse, COVID, death, and vicarious moral injury, which may be triggering for some listeners. Alongside these are stories of joy, hope, empathy, and humanity, highlighting the positive impact individuals have made. Many of her guests have navigated career changes, found work-life balance, or transitioned into new roles, including charity work or entrepreneurship. If you have a story to share that could inspire others seeking change or additional income, please get in touch. Inviting individuals from fire, police and probation services, healthcare, military, teaching, social services, local government, and civil service. https://www.facebook.com/share/1FjUrwC7qS https://www.lifeafterpublicservice.co.uk/ Email: Donna@lifeafterpublicservice.co.uk Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/donna-bentley-carr This podcast features real-life stories from frontline public service workers, covering tough topics such as war, trauma and loss, and may be triggering to some listeners. Guests also share their tales of everyday heroism, inspiring joy, hope, empathy and humanity. If you have a story to share that could encourage others seeking change or additional income, please get in touch. This Podcast has been brought to you by Disruptive Media. https://disruptivemedia.co.uk/
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    31 mins