In this episode of Chats from the Country Lane, I talk about rest — and why so many men struggle to take it without guilt.

For a lot of us, rest feels like something we have to earn. We’re taught to keep going, stay productive, and push through tiredness. Especially as Black men and immigrant men, slowing down can feel uncomfortable — even wrong.

In this episode, I reflect on:

• why rest often feels like failure

• the pressure to always be “on”

• rest as maintenance, not weakness

• learning to pause before burnout

If you’ve been feeling tired — physically or mentally — this episode is a reminder that rest is allowed.

Take a moment. Walk with me on the lane.

In this episode of Chats from the Country Lane, I reflect on something many men struggle with quietly — learning who to lean on.

As men, especially Black and immigrant men living in the UK, we’re often taught to handle things alone. To stay strong. To cope quietly. But no one is meant to do life without support.

In this conversation, I talk about:

• why men find it hard to ask for help

• the pressure to always appear strong

• what real support actually looks like

• learning to lean on others without guilt

• why strength doesn’t mean carrying everything alone

If you’ve ever felt like you had to hold things together by yourself, this episode is for you.

Take a quiet moment. Walk with me on the lane.

This Christmas week on Chats from the Country Lane, I reflect on what it really means to find your place.

Not just where you live — but where you feel safe, grounded, and able to be yourself.

In this episode, I talk about belonging, identity, and the quiet in-between space many immigrant men experience — feeling settled on the outside while still figuring things out internally.

We explore

• ​what belonging really means
• ​living between cultures and expectations
• ​the patience it takes to grow into yourself
• ​how slowing down can help you feel grounded
• ​building a sense of place gently, without rushing

If this season feels reflective, complicated, or a little quiet for you, this episode is for you.

Take a slow moment. Walk with me on the lane.