Join the Conversation: Your ideas and questions matter. Let us know a fun way you created to connect this week! We’d love to hear your ideas and answer your questions. Share your thoughts on Instagram or drop us an email at questions@familyleadershipcenter.org.

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Marjie Longshore, Founder of Family Leadership Center

Paige Trevor, Parent Coach

Special thanks to editor Max Cotter and Wendy Tracy

Resources

🤓 Check out Paige’s Resource Page for the Ultimate Chore List
🎧Reboot Special Time with Episode 05: The Present of Your Presence: 1-on-1 Time with Your Child Boosts Confidence and Trust

🧰Pick up a Family Meeting Toolkit if you don’t already have one!

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We’ve all been there: over-praising in an effort to motivate, only to realize that external validation isn't the same thing as internal courage. Or, we try to "help" by pointing out what needs fixing, unintentionally leaving everyone feeling discouraged.

This week, Marjie and Paige dive into the real engine of a happy home: Encouragement. It’s more than just a pat on the back—it’s about giving our kids (and ourselves!) the courage to be imperfect, to grow, and to contribute.

Join the Conversation: Your ideas and questions matter. We’d love to hear your ideas and answer your questions. Share your thoughts on Instagram or drop us an email at questions@familyleadershipcenter.org.

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Hosts

Marjie Longshore, Founder of Family Leadership Center

Paige Trevor, Parent Coach

Special thanks to editor Max Cotter and Wendy Tracy

🤓 Check out Paige’s Ode to Encouragement Blog for some more inspiration

🎧 Marjie and Louisa share wonderful ways to encourage through strengths: 018: Finding Strengths: The Essence of Encouragement

🧰 Pick up a Family Meeting Toolkit if you don’t already have one!

📄 Encouragement vs Discouragement Handout

📖 Books mentioned: Punished by Rewards, by Alfie Kohn and Mindset, by Carol Dweck

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What if your child isn't giving you a hard time, but is actually having a hard time because their internal buckets are empty? This week, we offer a powerful reframe for those moments of defiance and meltdown using the 4 Crucial Cs: Connect, Capable, Count, and Courage. When our needs go unmet, we often resort to "useless" behaviors—like power struggles or constant interruptions—to find a sense of belonging. By first noticing and then attending to these needs, you can transform your home into a place where respect comes first, and where everyone feels they truly matter.

• 🤝 Connect: Replace annoying attention-seeking with ten minutes of undivided "Special Time" to reinforce a feeling of belonging.

• 🛠️ Capable: Trade power struggles for intentional training, allowing kids to gain the mastery they crave through real-world skills.

• 🙉 Count: Listen to their perspective first so they feel their voice matters, turning "revenge" into its alter-ego–an ability to contribute meaningfully.

• 🏔️Courage: Normalize failure to build the resilience needed to face life without the paralysis of perfectionism.

📝Home Play: It might be helpful to consider home as the laboratory where we all can learn, practice and grow. Allow yourself to practice some of the ideas we share on the podcast. It takes courage to make mistakes.

This week we invite you to consider one strength of a child in your life today. Write it down. Next, think when, where and how you'll share this strength with them.

Join the Conversation: Your ideas and questions matter. Need advice on how to help your child(ren) feel connected, capable, that they count or courageous? We'd love to hear your ideas and answer your questions. Share your thoughts on Instagram or drop us an email at questions@familyleadershipcenter.org.

🙏Subscribe & Rate: If you're enjoying the podcast, please take a moment to rate and review us wherever you listen to your podcasts.

⁉️Questions/Suggestions/Feedback: Your feedback helps us continue bringing you helpful and insightful episodes every week. Please email us at questions@familyleadershipcenter.org

Marjie Longshore, Founder of Family Leadership Center

Paige Trevor, Parent Coach

Special thanks to editor Max Cotter and Wendy Tracy

🎧 Listen Again to Episode 016: The Hidden Truth About Power Struggles

♥️ Read Paige's blog about how to Stay Encouraged (little things can make a big difference).

🧰Pick up a Family Meeting Toolkit if you don't already have one!

🤝Join our community and share what happens when you look for strengths and celebrate them with the children in your life!

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