Episode 16: My Journey of Undoing Negative Self-Talk

I’m Renea, a retired educator turned wine bar conversationalist. This is Conversations Over Wine—where we reflect on life through lessons, love, and a life lived intentionally.

Each week, we slow down, pour a glass, and talk about life’s lessons, aging with intention, and what really matters as we grow older. I’m so glad you’re here. Let’s begin.

My little hiatus from my podcast. Family responsibilities and time away to reflect and reset.

What’s on my mind right now? Unlearning negative self talk and the importance of understanding the subconscious.

My discovery of my own negative self-talk- what I was doing first thing every morning without even really realizing it until a few months ago.

How I am unlearning that behavior. It takes 21 days to rewire and undo a bad habit, and instill a new one.

Regulating my nervous system.

Looking at core wounds and why they are important as they drive our behaviors.

95% of our behaviors and beliefs are not from our conscious mind, but from our subconscious! Wow.

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Episode 15: Solitude vs Isolation: One Heals, One Hurts

I’m Renea, a retired educator turned wine bar conversationalist. This is Conversations Over Wine—where wisdom is poured and stories are shared.

Each week, we slow down, pour a glass, and talk about life’s lessons, aging with intention, and what really matters as we grow older. I’m so glad you’re here. Let’s begin.

As we discussed in Episode 14: The Rise of the Single Woman, more and more people are choosing to stay single. Therefore, more people are spending time alone. It is important we know the difference between solitude and isolation when it comes to spending time alone.

Solitude:

1. A time to refuel and rejuvenate
2. Feels peaceful and relaxing
3. Something to look forward to/ chosen time alone

Examples of solitude: solo travel, journaling, walks in nature, coffee shop

Isolation:

1. Feels like a punishment
2. You may feel angry, stressed, disconnected
3. Avoid people

It is important to identify how you are feeling during the alone time, as well as how you feel after the alone time. It can be a key indicator of whether the time is solitude or isolation.

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Episode 14: The Rise of the Happily Single Woman

I’m Renea, a retired educator turned wine bar conversationalist. This is Conversations Over Wine—where wisdom is poured and stories are shared.

Each week, we slow down, pour a glass, and talk about life’s lessons, aging with intention, and what really matters as we grow older. I’m so glad you’re here. Let’s begin.

Something interesting is happening in our culture right now. According to a 2023 Pew Research Data Survey, almost half of US women didn’t view marriage as an important element of a fulfilling life, as reported by the WSJ.

Something is definitely happening, and this made me want to learn more about why it is projected that by the year 2030 45% of women are expected to be single. Are we witnessing a culture shift where singlehood is no longer considered a failure, but instead a choice? Is marriage shifting from a life milestone to a lifestyle choice?

Here are the suggested reasons for this culture shift:

• Women are now more economically independent.
• Many women are choosing to either delay having children, or choosing to not have any at all.
• Many women are content with living alone and being able to tend to themselves without having to take on caring for others and putting themselves on the back burner.

So, if you are single, may soon be single, or have people you care about who are single, what are a few ways to make sure you make the most of your singlehood?

According to Bella DePaulo author of “Single at Heart”, there are three skills to help get the most joy out of it: making sure your alone time is “restorative” and not “intimidating solitude”, having hobbies and activities you really enjoy, and of course having rewarding relationships in your life.

A reminder for us all, being alone is not the same as being lonely.

Closing Toast

If you enjoyed today’s podcast, please take a few minutes to like, comment, and download my podcast. Also, if you can think of at least one person you know who would enjoy our wine conversations, please share this podcast with them. It would mean so much to me!

Thank you for joining me as we sipped, savored, and reflected on this beautiful life we’ve been given. Until next time, cheers.

I’m Renea, a retired educator turned wine bar conversationalist. This is Conversations Over Wine—where wisdom is poured and stories are shared.

Each week, we slow down, pour a glass, and talk about life’s lessons, aging with intention, and what really matters as we grow older. I’m so glad you’re here. Let’s begin.

Let’s check on our goals we set for 2026:

Mine: Financial, buying less, and buying intentional: How am I doing? How are you doing with your goals?

*Dating myself - my latest solo date

Tuesday night’s customers connections and conversations:

• Out of town educational sales rep alone at the bar
• Friends reuniting for a girls night
• Young lady probably in education, sitting alone, enjoying HH pricing, journaling, reading, and then connected with the sales rep (former teacher)
• Wine club member who comes in every Tuesday, who connected with the same education sales rep
• Two friends sitting on the patio, catching up and seeking more opportunities at the wine bar
• A lady who came in for a drink, connected with the same sales rep, and then asking about hosting a networking group at the wine bar

Last Night’s singles mixer- the lady who came in with her friend and ended up staying and mingling, the guy who seemed so uncomfortable but took a chance to come.

What am I getting at? Reinforcing the idea of our need to connect with others and how sometimes connections happen by chance, rather than intention regardless of age or where we have landed in life. We have to put ourselves out there for these connections to be made. I saw several take those brave steps to either go out alone (date yourself), attend a mixer where you might not know anyone, approach someone who you’d like to connect with, find a place to gather and connect, it can be the day that everything changes.

What this all reinforced for me:

• Connections can be made between customers based on interest or work
• Gatherings and going to new places can check many boxes whether alone or with a friend/family: We need relaxation, connection and conversation. Food and drink are catalysts for both.

Closing Toast

If you enjoyed today’s podcast, please take a few minutes to like, comment, and download my podcast. Also, if you can think of at at least one person you know who would enjoy our wine conversations, please share this podcast with them. It would mean so much to me!

Thank you for joining me as we sipped, savored, and reflected on this beautiful life we’ve been given. Until next time, cheers.

Episode 12: Analog Revival in a Digital World: What is This Trend All about, and Why I Am Embracing this Culture Shift

I’m Renea, a retired educator turned wine bar conversationalist. This is Conversations Over Wine—where wisdom is poured and stories are shared.

Each week, we slow down, pour a glass, and talk about life’s lessons, aging with intention, and what really matters as we grow older. I’m so glad you’re here. Let’s begin.

Okay, I have a bit of a confession about something that has been going on with me for the last couple of years, but has really gathered momentum over the last 6 months.

Lately, I’ve been craving things that don’t ping, notify, or need a charger.

I’ve noticed more people talking about vinyl records, handwritten notes, ‘analog bags,’ even flip phones. And I started asking myself… are we tired? Are we overstimulated? Are we done being constantly online?

So today, I want to explore something that feels quietly powerful — the return to analog.

According to Chat GPT What the Analog Movement Is:

At its core, the analog movement is a cultural reaction to digital saturation — it’s about choosing physical, hands-on activities over digital ones. People are intentionally engaging in practices that don’t involve screens, apps, or automated feeds. It’s as much about what you gain (presence, mindfulness, creativity) as what you’re stepping away from (constant notifications, algorithmic loops).

*Mindful, Tactile Activities

People are rediscovering analog forms of creation and engagement:

• Film photography and Polaroids instead of smartphone shots.
• Vinyl records and turntables for music.
• Handwritten journals, letters, and notebooks.
• Knitting, puzzles, board games, printmaking — hobbies that are inherently “hands-on.”

Other ways it is showing up:

Analog Bags & Signature Trends

• “analog bag” — a tote filled with analog objects (books, pencils, crosswords, knitting, film cameras) that people carry as an alternative to their phone to prevent mindless scrolling.
• Analog Rooms & Physical Spaces
• Some people are dedicating spaces (like “analog rooms”) at home that are deliberately screen-free — using turntables, bookshelves, and board game closets to foster relaxation and real connection.

The Why:

• Digital fatigue- many are seeking ways to get away from the constant noise of technology. Our brains and nervous systems are tired.
• More authentic experiences that help us to slow down

It is not meant to say do away with technology, more as a compliment and awareness that we are on sensory overload and need to maybe come back to simpler times as best we can. Balance!

Searches for “analog hobbies” have spiked dramatically in recent years.

After two decades of hyper-connection, maybe we’re realizing something: Convenience doesn’t always equal fulfillment.”

Ways I personally have embraced it:

• More reading
• More journaling
• Jigsaw puzzles
• More cooking from scratch- even creamer
• Cross stitching
• Pottery class
• Vinyl

Closing Toast

If you enjoyed today’s podcast, please take a few minutes to like, comment, and download my podcast. Also, if you can think of at aleast one person you know who would enjoy our wine conversations, please share this podcast with them. It would mean so much to me!

Thank you for joining me as we sipped, savored, and reflected on this beautiful life we’ve been given. Until next time, cheers.

I’m Renea, a retired educator turned wine bar conversationalist. This is Conversations Over Wine—where wisdom is poured and stories are shared.

Each week, we slow down, pour a glass, and talk about life’s lessons, aging with intention, and what really matters as we grow older. I’m so glad you’re here. Let’s begin.

This week’s episode is all about taking a careful, introspective look at where we are and how to make peace with a life that may look different than what you had planned. This is a topic I can certainly relate to and hope to be able to share some things today that will help you embrace the life you have even when it is not the one you were expecting.

I feel that gratitude is the cornerstone for being at peace with your life. Every day when I wake up I recite at least three things I am grateful for before I allow myself to touch my phone. It sets the stage for the day, but also reminds me of all the good. I always want to start with the good. Being grateful for the life you have regardless of whether it is the one you planned can really be imperative to how you perceive it.

Now, is this the life I had planned? Is this the one I saw in my mind 10 years ago? Not exactly. But guess what? That other one was not meant to be and would probably have not been all I thought it would be even if it had gone another road. I thought I would be happily married, still living in suburbia and living a life with someone I loved. That has not been the way of things for me. I am single, living the urban, tiny house style life. It is not what I planned, but oddly enough it is a wonderful life. I had no idea how much having a quiet, peaceful, simple, and yes, single life would lead to so much contentment.

Next to finding gratitude every day, I truly believe filling your life with the things that bring you the most happiness is important to being at peace with it. But in order to do that, you must really get to know yourself. If you are in your 50, 60s and beyond the next stage of life is when we circle back to ourselves. We have to remind ourselves of what we really enjoy doing. If you are younger, you may just now be discovering what brings you the most joy. Get your journal out and make a list of 3-5 things that bring you joy. Then, make a plan to incorporate them into your life. And in all of this, don’t forget to spend time with those who bring joy into your life! Many studies have shown that personal relationships are the number one factor of true happiness. Be intentional about setting time in your schedule to spend time with friends and family who fill your cup. The more you incorporate the things you love into your daily life, the easier it is to fall in love with the life you are now living.

One last way I have learned to embrace my life as it is is by not spending too much time ruminating on the past or what might have been. I do my best to look forward and keep my face toward the sunshine. I realize it is completely normal to reminisce sometimes, but you can’t stay there. Take an occasional peak, and move on.

For me, I have made peace with the life I am living by keeping a grateful heart, filling my life with the things I love and that bring me joy, and keeping my face toward the sunshine while focusing on the life I actually have now, not looking backwards or staying in the past.

Closing Toast

If you enjoyed today’s podcast, please take a few minutes to like, comment, and download my podcast. It would mean so much to me!

Thank you for joining me as we sipped, savored, and reflected on this beautiful life we’ve been given. Until next time, cheers.

Episode 10 : Shenanigans & Soul Sisters: How We’ve Stayed Friends for 16 years (with my Bestie!)

I’m Renea, a retired educator turned wine bar conversationalist. This is Conversations Over Wine—where wisdom is poured and stories are shared.

Each week, we slow down, pour a glass, and talk about life’s lessons, aging with intention, and what really matters as we grow older. I’m so glad you’re here. Let’s begin.

Welcome to my friend, Karen! I’m so excited she joined us for a conversation about friendship!

• How we met
• The storms and challenges we’ve weathered together
• Fun shenanigans; memories that will last forever
• What we love about each other
• Advice to others about friendship

Meeting at a parent/teacher conference and how that led to our friendship.

What I love about Karen:

Her joy

Her optimism

Adventurous spirit

Love for her family

Your friends are a reflection of you and should be light in your life. We are who we surround ourselves with!

Love for your friends and who they are as humans is so important to sustaining a long-term friendship.

Storms and Challenges- divorces for both of us, love lost and love found. Challenges with our kids. We have always found a way to find comfort in each other and safety to really be who we are without judgement. It’s so rare to find that!

Shenanigans: laughter and silliness! Be silly and enjoy the lighter side of life!

Challenges- busyness when kids were home, now one of us is married and one is single, finding time, being intentional about spending time together!

Advice:

• You have to be intentional. Schedule friend dates, calls, etc.
• Don’t take them for granted
• You don’t have to talk every day, not even every week in some cases
• Don’t always feel like you have to give advice, sometimes they are wanting to just vent.
• Be honest with each other, even when it hurts
• Remember that it is important that they have other friends to fill other parts of their lives
• Remember some friends are only for a season, the others must be treasured and cultivated

Closing Toast

If you enjoyed today’s podcast, please take a few minutes to like, comment, and download my podcast. It would mean so much to me!

Thank you for joining me as we sipped, savored, and reflected on this beautiful life we’ve been given. Until next time, cheers.

Episode 9: 5 Strategies to Help Me Be More Money Wise in 2026

I’m Renea, a retired educator turned wine bar conversationalist. This is Conversations Over Wine—where wisdom is poured and stories are shared.

Each week, we slow down, pour a glass, and talk about life’s lessons, aging with intention, and what really matters as we grow older. I’m so glad you’re here. Let’s begin.

Let’s discuss money. Let’s discuss 5 ways this year in 2026 I intend on doing better in the money department. I hope out of the 5, you at least find a few that might work for you if you are also on a journey to do better with your money.

1. Spend less on clothes- my challenge is only one new item per month, but it must be a replacement item, must fit my current lifestyle, and must be sustainable materials. The same rules for thrifting; only sustainable materials so my closet will eventually be composed of only classic, well-made items.
2. Automatic savings- pay yourself first
3. Learn to invest- learning so I can do this myself
4. Track all of my spending-budget everything!
5. Be more intentional with every dollar- make every dollar have a job

Don’t forget to re-evaluate who you follow on Social Media. It has helped me to clean out my socials and unfollow those accounts that are all about buying more, and I have begun following others who are making smart money choices.

Closing Toast

If you enjoyed today’s podcast, please take a few minutes to like, comment, and download my podcast. It would mean so much to me!

Thank you for joining me as we sipped, savored, and reflected on this beautiful life we’ve been given. Until next time, cheers.