Episode 16: My Journey of Undoing Negative Self-Talk

I’m Renea, a retired educator turned wine bar conversationalist. This is Conversations Over Wine—where we reflect on life through lessons, love, and a life lived intentionally.

Each week, we slow down, pour a glass, and talk about life’s lessons, aging with intention, and what really matters as we grow older. I’m so glad you’re here. Let’s begin.

My little hiatus from my podcast. Family responsibilities and time away to reflect and reset.

What’s on my mind right now? Unlearning negative self talk and the importance of understanding the subconscious.

My discovery of my own negative self-talk- what I was doing first thing every morning without even really realizing it until a few months ago.

How I am unlearning that behavior. It takes 21 days to rewire and undo a bad habit, and instill a new one.

Regulating my nervous system.

Looking at core wounds and why they are important as they drive our behaviors.

95% of our behaviors and beliefs are not from our conscious mind, but from our subconscious! Wow.

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Thank you for joining me as we sipped, savored, and reflected on this beautiful life we’ve been given. Until next time, cheers.

Episode 15: Solitude vs Isolation: One Heals, One Hurts

I’m Renea, a retired educator turned wine bar conversationalist. This is Conversations Over Wine—where wisdom is poured and stories are shared.

Each week, we slow down, pour a glass, and talk about life’s lessons, aging with intention, and what really matters as we grow older. I’m so glad you’re here. Let’s begin.

As we discussed in Episode 14: The Rise of the Single Woman, more and more people are choosing to stay single. Therefore, more people are spending time alone. It is important we know the difference between solitude and isolation when it comes to spending time alone.

Solitude:

1. A time to refuel and rejuvenate
2. Feels peaceful and relaxing
3. Something to look forward to/ chosen time alone

Examples of solitude: solo travel, journaling, walks in nature, coffee shop

Isolation:

1. Feels like a punishment
2. You may feel angry, stressed, disconnected
3. Avoid people

It is important to identify how you are feeling during the alone time, as well as how you feel after the alone time. It can be a key indicator of whether the time is solitude or isolation.

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Thank you for joining me as we sipped, savored, and reflected on this beautiful life we’ve been given. Until next time, cheers.

Episode 14: The Rise of the Happily Single Woman

I’m Renea, a retired educator turned wine bar conversationalist. This is Conversations Over Wine—where wisdom is poured and stories are shared.

Each week, we slow down, pour a glass, and talk about life’s lessons, aging with intention, and what really matters as we grow older. I’m so glad you’re here. Let’s begin.

Something interesting is happening in our culture right now. According to a 2023 Pew Research Data Survey, almost half of US women didn’t view marriage as an important element of a fulfilling life, as reported by the WSJ.

Something is definitely happening, and this made me want to learn more about why it is projected that by the year 2030 45% of women are expected to be single. Are we witnessing a culture shift where singlehood is no longer considered a failure, but instead a choice? Is marriage shifting from a life milestone to a lifestyle choice?

Here are the suggested reasons for this culture shift:

• Women are now more economically independent.
• Many women are choosing to either delay having children, or choosing to not have any at all.
• Many women are content with living alone and being able to tend to themselves without having to take on caring for others and putting themselves on the back burner.

So, if you are single, may soon be single, or have people you care about who are single, what are a few ways to make sure you make the most of your singlehood?

According to Bella DePaulo author of “Single at Heart”, there are three skills to help get the most joy out of it: making sure your alone time is “restorative” and not “intimidating solitude”, having hobbies and activities you really enjoy, and of course having rewarding relationships in your life.

A reminder for us all, being alone is not the same as being lonely.

Closing Toast

If you enjoyed today’s podcast, please take a few minutes to like, comment, and download my podcast. Also, if you can think of at least one person you know who would enjoy our wine conversations, please share this podcast with them. It would mean so much to me!

Thank you for joining me as we sipped, savored, and reflected on this beautiful life we’ve been given. Until next time, cheers.