In this episode, we explore a subtle but powerful question:

Are you regulating your emotions or silencing your needs?

When we’ve done a lot of personal growth, it’s easy to become highly skilled at managing anxiety, staying calm, and not “burdening” others. But in relationships, especially early dating, this can sometimes come at a cost.

In This Week's Call We unpack:

•How to handle anxiety and uncertainty when defining a relationship

•The difference between self-regulation and self-silencing

•What to do when a partner’s comments don’t quite land

•How to separate internal triggers from relational incompatibility

•Why “gathering data” matters more than rushing decisions

•How to have honest, vulnerable conversations without losing yourself

If you’re prone to overthinking, second-guessing your needs, or trying to stay “easy” in a relationship, this episode will help you reconnect with your voice, your clarity, and your self-trust.

Read more on the blog.

For ongoing practice and deeper learning, I warmly invite you to become a member of The School of Human Connection.

Twice a month, I host live calls where members bring real relationship dilemmas. We slow things down and I'll help you see what's actually happening and how to respond with more integrity, strength and care.

You will find a safe space for live discussions and a supportive community of like-minded, open-hearted humans.

Stay updated on new episodes and resources by subscribing wherever you listen to podcasts or visiting yvetteerasmus.com.

Here are more ways to connect with me:

• Join the School of Human Connection
• Hop on my free Wednesday live call
• Follow me on YouTube

Why can one small moment completely derail our emotional state?

In this episode of Conversations from the Heart, a caller navigates intense emotional reactions to everyday interactions by exploring how a single tone of voice can trigger deep nervous system activation.

Together, we unpack the difference between being “triggered” and experiencing activation, and what it really takes to stay grounded, self-led, and emotionally regulated in a world that isn’t always gentle.

This episode offers a reframe for anyone who feels deeply, is doing inner healing work, and still finds themselves overwhelmed by seemingly small moments.

In this episode, we explore:

•Why small interactions can feel so overwhelming

•The difference between triggers and nervous system activation

•How to regulate without shutting down or avoiding

•The role of self-soothing and internal leadership

•When to adapt to your environment and when not to

•How sensitivity can become a strength rather than a liability

Read more on the blog.

For ongoing practice and deeper learning, I warmly invite you to become a member of The School of Human Connection.

Twice a month, I host live calls where members bring real relationship dilemmas. We slow things down and I'll help you see what's actually happening and how to respond with more integrity, strength and care.

You will find a safe space for live discussions and a supportive community of like-minded, open-hearted humans.

Stay updated on new episodes and resources by subscribing wherever you listen to podcasts or visiting yvetteerasmus.com.

Here are more ways to connect with me:

• Join the School of Human Connection
• Hop on my free Wednesday live call
• Follow me on YouTube

There's a difference between sympathy and compassion, and that distinction matters more than we might think.

Many of us were taught that caring means feeling with others, taking on their pain, or trying to fix what’s hard. But over time, that way of relating can leave us overwhelmed, entangled, or quietly exhausted.

In this conversation with Wendy, we begin with a simple question about sympathy and compassion, and uncover something much deeper. We explore the parts of us that long to be held in our pain, the ways we learned to protect ourselves, and how those patterns show up in our relationships today.

Together, we look at how to stay present with suffering, our own and others’, without collapsing, rescuing, or shutting down.

Listen to learn:

•The key difference between sympathy and compassion (and why it matters)

•How to care deeply without taking on what isn’t yours

•Practical ways to stay grounded and relational in moments of emotional intensity

Read more on the blog.

For ongoing practice and deeper learning, I warmly invite you to become a member of The School of Human Connection.

Twice a month, I host live calls where members bring real relationship dilemmas. We slow things down and I'll help you see what's actually happening and how to respond with more integrity, strength and care.

You will find a safe space for live discussions and a supportive community of like-minded, open-hearted humans.

Stay updated on new episodes and resources by subscribing wherever you listen to podcasts or visiting yvetteerasmus.com.

Here are more ways to connect with me:

• Join the School of Human Connection
• Hop on my free Wednesday live call
• Follow me on YouTube