This question prompted me to share the final episode of season 2 completely unscripted.

My thoughts on culture, conditioning, shame and women's sexuality. In this episode I frame disliking sex as a natural consequence of a patriarchal, sex-negative, heternormative culture.

And honestly - not enjoying sex is just fine! I shared how Julia Fox talks openly about this - it was on Emrata's podcast and not Ziwe's show as I mentioned in the episode.

Julia Fox on Ziwe https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YNFninYKV6A

Julia Fox talking about not enjoying sex on Emrata's podcast: https://youtube.com/shorts/933vPTOX9n8?feature=share

I also share how heteronormativity impacts our enjoyment of sex.

Heteronormativity Theory of Low Desire article:

The heteronormativity theory of low sexual desire in women partnered with men. van Anders, S.N., Herbenick, D., Brotto, L.A, Harris, E.A., & Chadwick, S.B. Archives of Sexual Behavior (2022), 51(1), 391-415. DOI:10.1007/s10508-021-02100-x

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We're back - We've got two episodes left of season two of the Embodied Eroticism podcast and this one is a GOOD one!

You may have heard of vaginal eggs - or more commonly called jade eggs or yoni eggs - before. But, the question is - do they work?

In this episode, I'll be sharing my somewhat controversial opinion about vaginal eggs and tell you why I think using them can be hugely beneficial for some women.

The Vaginal Egg Goop Debachacle:

https://www.vox.com/2018/9/6/17826924/goop-yoni-egg-gwyneth-paltrow-settlement

Jen Gunter's article about goop & vaginal eggs:

https://drjengunter.com/2017/01/17/dear-gwyneth-paltrow-im-a-gyn-and-your-vaginal-jade-eggs-are-a-bad-idea/

Jen Gunter's findings on the mythology of jade eggs being used by ancient Chinese concubines:

https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/30365448/

Where to buy vaginal eggs:

https://intimatewellbeing.com/discount/ROBINSVIP10 use code ROBINSVIP10 for 10% discount on your order (affiliate link)

https://waands.com/?ref=libA1V8YlTrJCy use code PUSSYPOWERPLEASURE for 10% discount on your order (affiliate link)

Glass Eggs:

https://loveshop.ca/products/glass-yoni-eggs-set

Learn more about vaginal eggs & get on my email list by joining the free More Pleasure Challenge:

https://view.flodesk.com/pages/63ed16e68e06d4dae9494358

In October I sent out a survey to my email list and asked what they most wanted me to create a course about. 

The response?

40% wanted a course about how to let go during sex, and 40% wanted to learn how to increase their libido.

So - what did I do? Today you’ll find out! I’m sharing what I’ve been up to for the past few months and take you behind the scenes of my new course, Bliss Body.

Join Bliss Body 

https://robinjoy.ca/bliss-body

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Want more pleasure in your life? Sign up for my free 30 Days of Pleasure Challenge. 

https://robinjoy.ca/30-days-of-pleasure

Music: 

Tigerblood Jewel - Learning Curve

Whenever I finish a coaching call - I send a recap of the action steps I’ve given to my client and there are a few things I share during almost every call related to low libido or wanting more satisfactory sexual experiences. 

In this video, I’ll share the five things I share the most in my recap notes so that you can start having better sex - more often.

Sign up for the Full Bodied Yes Challenge starting on January 15th! 

https://robinjoy.ca/full-bodied-yes

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Want more pleasure in your life? Sign up for my free 30 Days of Pleasure Challenge. 

https://robinjoy.ca/30-days-of-pleasure

Music: 

Tigerblood Jewel - Learning Curve 

Sources: 

The heteronormativity theory of low sexual desire in women partnered with men. van Anders, S.N., Herbenick, D., Brotto, L.A, Harris, E.A., & Chadwick, S.B. Archives of Sexual Behavior (2022), 51(1), 391-415. DOI:10.1007/s10508-021-02100-x

I Want You to Want Me: A Qualitative Analysis of Heterosexual Men's Desire to Feel Desired in Intimate Relationships Murray, S.H. & Brotto, L.A. Journal of Sex and Marital Therapy, (2021), 47(5), 419-434.

Having conversations about what you want when it comes to sex can be uncomfortable. Women are socialized to feel shame related to our sexuality and desires and so there may be a part of you that feels unsafe when talking about sex with your partner or partners. 

We already know that good communication is a key ingredient when it comes to having great sex - but what do you do when you’re uncomfortable with speaking up about your desires. 

In this episode of Embodied Eroticism, I’m sharing my simple 5 step process to help you feel comfortable with the discomfort of talking openly about sex. 

Sign up for the Full Bodied Yes Challenge starting on January 15th! 

https://robinjoy.ca/full-bodied-yes

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Want more pleasure in your life? Sign up for my free 30 Days of Pleasure Challenge. 

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Music: 

Tigerblood Jewel - Learning Curve

One of my favorite books of all time is “Burnout” by Emily & Amelia Nagoski 

In this book they talk about “Human Giver Syndrome” - which they describe as “the contagious belief that you have a moral obligation to give every drop of your humanity in support of others, no matter the cost to you” 

Human Giver syndrome is the result of patriarchy and disproportionately impacts women leading to chronic stress and even burnout. 

In this episode of the Embodied Eroticism podcast,  I’m sharing my method of determining my non-negotiable boundaries so that you can set some solid boundaries to manage your energy in 2023. 

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Want more pleasure in your life? Sign up for my free 30 Days of Pleasure Challenge. 

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Sign up for the Full Bodied Yes Challenge starting on January 15th! 

https://robinjoy.ca/full-bodied-yes

Get Emily & Amelia’s Nagoski’s book: 

https://amzn.to/3UT58Fx (affiliate link) 

Music: 

Tigerblood Jewel - Learning Curve

If there’s one thing that will impact your enjoyment of sex and your desire to have it - it’s this…

Overthinking.

This includes thinking about how your body looks, how long it’s taking to have an orgasm, or wondering if your partner is enjoying what you're doing.

It may be as though you’re stepping outside of yourself every time you have sex and judging your body, your performance, and your pleasure

This is called spectatoring and it can really impact your enjoyment of sex.

While I can’t quite promise Hollywood-level sex scene sex - there are a few things you can do to stop overthinking sex so you can start having the kind of sex you really want - and deserve - to be having. 

In this quick but important episode, I’ll be sharing how I set boundaries so that I can better manage my time & energy. Hopefully, this will come in handy for you in 2023. 

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Want more pleasure in your life? Sign up for my free 30 Days of Pleasure Challenge. 

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Sign up for the Full Bodied Yes Challenge starting on January 15th! 

https://robinjoy.ca/full-bodied-yes

Music: 

Tigerblood Jewel - Learning Curve 

Rituals tap us into a collective & shared understanding of our history a shared understanding of spiritual or cultural practices that allow us to tap into a deeper experience of our humanity and place in time and space. For some - rituals allow for a connection to something sacred, even divine. 

In this episode I’ll be sharing three sacred sex rituals you can do when you self-pleasure and tell you why doing this can help you experience deeper intimacy, and self-confidence, while also up-levelling your enjoyment of sex on your own or with a partner. 

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Want more pleasure in your life? Sign up for my free 30 Days of Pleasure Challenge. 

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Music: 

Tigerblood Jewel - Learning Curve 

Sources: 

https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/29107887/

https://community.thriveglobal.com/the-emerging-science-of-ritual-a-new-look-on-an-ancient-behavior/

Mike Lousada & Elena Angel (2011) Tantric orgasm: beyond Masters and Johnson, Sexual and Relationship Therapy, 26:4, 389-402, DOI: 10.1080/14681994.2011.647903