What if the prayer that could change your marriage isn't "Lord, help my spouse change," but "Lord, make me more like You"?

We pray for better communication, less conflict, more connection, and greater understanding in marriage. And those are all good things to pray for!

But how often do we ask God to change our hearts in the process?

In this episode of Expedition Marriage, we're exploring the difference between two powerful kinds of prayers: "Help me" and "Make me."

One invites God's help in our circumstances. The other invites His transforming work in our lives.

And here's the important part: We need both.

We're talking about:

• Why asking God for help is biblical and necessary
• How self-reliance can sneak into our prayer lives
• The difference between wanting relief and wanting transformation
• What it means to pray bold, Scripture-based prayers
• How to stop focusing only on your spouse's shortcomings
• Why spiritual growth can change the dynamics of your marriage
• How to pray for your spouse with the right heart
• Why surrender, patience, and humility matter in marriage

We're also sharing some honest reflections from our own lives and exploring what Scripture says about becoming more like Christ.

Because the goal isn't simply to have an easier marriage.

It's to become two people who increasingly reflect Jesus in the way they love one another.

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00:00 Marriage Needs Transformation

00:37 Make Me vs Help Me

02:12 Heart Motives in Prayer

04:50 Self Reliance and Control

08:29 Marriage Prayers and Gods Will

13:48 Help Me Dependence vs Make Me Surrender

16:13 Bold Prayers and Sanctification

19:42 Waiting and Heart Posture

21:11 Not Magic Words

22:12 Real Prayer Heart

22:47 Better Spouse Prayers

24:10 Praying For Spouse

25:55 Check Your Because

26:35 Connection And Intentionality

28:10 Growth Changes Dynamics

33:23 Scripture And Transformation

36:15 Mission Field Marriage

40:46 Relief Versus Surrender

42:30 Closing Prayer And Download