Self-help culture, even the well-meaning kind, tends to run on a hidden formula - become better, and then you will be worth loving. Fix the habit, hit the goal, prove the potential, and love, approval, belonging, will follow as the reward. It sounds motivating, but is really exhausting. Eventually, it will break because there is always a next standard to reach. It is a moving target. But the single idea that we are loved not because we are worthy, we are loved because God is good flips this script.

STRENGTH CHECK/ROOT REFLECTION:

Where have you quietly been trying to earn salvation through eternity when God has already freely given it to you? What makes it hard to simply accept Jesus’ gift of salvation that you still want to earn it?
This is less a question and more like an invitation. Come to Jesus. No waiting for a cleaned-up version of yourself that you bring to Him once you feel ready. Come as you actually are, right now - struggling or already successful, striving or already content.

NEXT RIGHT STEP:

• Listen to "Good" by Matthew West
• Email me and tell me about a time you were striving to earn love that was actually already yours, at home, at school, at church, or with God himself.
• Send me your stories, your testimonies of realizing you were loved first and any questions this episode left unsettled.

Useful Links:

• ⁠⁠The Iman Diaries⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
• ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠WHOLE | Life Counseling Ministry⁠⁠⁠⁠
• ⁠Book your counseling sessions⁠⁠⁠⁠

Music Credits

• Alex Jauk for distant bell ringing
• Breakz Studios for the piano

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