TJ Bruce, Long Beach State head coach and D1 veteran, breaks down the one habit that separates parents who keep their kids' love for the game from parents who burn it out: looking inside out instead of outside in.

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Most parents chase what's happening outside. The ranking, the team name, the comparison to other kids, what the college board might think someday. Meanwhile, their son is drowning under the weight of expectations he never made. TJ discovered this the hard way when his 12-year-old broke down in the car and said, "I feel that pressure every day I step on the field."

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This is a one-hour conversation with a coach who sits in every chair: player, coach, college head coach, dad. He finally figured out that the scoreboard you need to read is not the one in the field. It's inside your kid.

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What you'll hear:

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03:08 ... The car ride home that hit him like a ton of bricks

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04:36 ... Why the coach's kid carries a different kind of pressure

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07:38 ... Do you have 12-year-olds on your recruiting board? His answer cuts straight through

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08:33 ... The first base coaching story that says everything about parenting vs. coaching

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15:00 ... Multiple sports vs. year-round baseball: what actually matters at 12

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30:00+ ... The "eleventh man on the expensive roster" and why playing time beats pedigree

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45:00+ ... How comparison becomes the thief of joy, and parents pass it straight to their kids

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55:00+ ... The mental game most parents refuse to teach

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58:00+ ... What it means to "be great with Johnny being who he is"

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59:39 ... Stop looking outside in. Start looking inside out.