Summary

In this episode, Annegret Bertsch and Andrea Zahrte discuss the complexities of repatriation and reverse culture shock. They explore the emotional challenges faced by individuals returning to their home country after living abroad, including feelings of grief, isolation, and the struggle to readjust. Andrea shares her personal experiences and insights as a coach for repatriates, offering practical advice on navigating the transition, supporting children, and finding a sense of belonging again. The conversation emphasizes the importance of acknowledging grief, maintaining connections, and recognizing the hidden gifts that come from the repatriation experience.

Takeaways

Repatriation can lead to feelings of grief and loss.

Reverse culture shock is a common experience for returnees.

It's important to talk about feelings within the family.

Children may grieve differently than adults during repatriation.

Finding new routines can help ease the transition.

You can have multiple homes in your heart.

Acknowledging the emotional journey is crucial for healing.

Support from friends and family can make a difference.

Grief is a normal part of the repatriation process.

Chapters

00:00 Introduction to Repatriation and Reverse Culture Shock

05:31 Understanding Reverse Culture Shock

10:22 Personal Experiences of Repatriation

15:13 Challenges in the Workplace After Repatriation

20:33 Supporting Families and Children During Repatriation

25:00 Establishing Emotional Routines for Kids

26:29 Understanding Home and Belonging

28:54 The Importance of Connection and Community

32:59 Supporting Repatriation: Insights for Friends and Family

34:16 The Hidden Gifts of Repatriation

38:00 Exploring Home with Fresh Eyes

39:29 Final Thoughts on Reverse Culture Shock

40:54 Introduction to Exped Insights

41:23 Closing Thoughts and Resources

Guest:

Andrea Zahrte

https://www.linkedin.com/in/andrea-zahrte/

https://andreazahrte.com

Host:

Annegret Bertsch

https://www.coaching-because.com

Summary

In this episode of Expat Insights, host Annegret Bertsch speaks with career mentor Tina Stavemann about the intricacies of navigating international careers in Germany. Tina shares her journey from working in HR and marketing to mentoring internationals, particularly in the STEM fields. The conversation covers the unique advantages that international talent brings to German companies, the challenges faced by newcomers, and practical advice for finding job opportunities. Tina emphasizes the importance of language skills, networking, and cultural understanding while also addressing the bureaucratic hurdles that internationals must overcome. The episode concludes with encouraging insights and practical steps for those looking to establish their careers in Germany.

Takeaways

• Tina Stavemann supports internationals in Germany, especially in STEM fields.
• International talent brings unique perspectives and less risk aversion to German companies.
• The majority of Germany's economy consists of small and medium-sized enterprises.
• Language skills are crucial for job success in Germany.
• Networking is essential for finding job opportunities in smaller companies.
• Bureaucracy can be a significant challenge for internationals.
• Cultural understanding is key to integrating into the German workplace.
• Mentorship can provide valuable insights and fast-track success.
• Building connections can help combat feelings of loneliness.
• Authenticity is important for long-term career satisfaction.

Guest

Tina Stavemann

https://www.linkedin.com/in/tina-stavemann-3335bb39/

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Host

Annegret Bertsch

https://www.coaching-because.com

Summary

When Michael Seidl left his job in Germany to follow his wife on an international assignment to the U.S., he stepped into a role few men talk about—the accompanying spouse. What began as an exciting adventure quickly became a test of identity, communication, and resilience as the pandemic hit and life abroad unfolded differently than expected.

In this honest and moving conversation, Michael shares what it felt like to lose his professional footing, navigate shifting family dynamics, and confront the quiet loneliness that can come with being the “trailing partner.” He also opens up about the painful reality of how the experience ultimately led to divorce and how he’s learning to rebuild, redefine fatherhood, and rediscover himself in the process.

This episode is a rare look into the unspoken side of expat life—the emotional costs, the personal growth, and the courage it takes to start again.

Takeaways

Michael's decision to relocate was driven by a sense of adventure.

He emphasizes the importance of exploring new environments without expectations.

Communication is crucial in managing the challenges of relocation.

The role of the accompanying spouse can lead to identity struggles.

He found joy in spending quality time with his children during the pandemic.

The experience of relocation can magnify existing relationship issues.

Michael acknowledges the need for better communication in his marriage.

He reflects on the importance of being present for his children post-divorce.

Home is defined by the presence of loved ones, not a physical location.

Chapters

00:00 Introduction to Michael Seidl's Journey

04:02 The Adventure of Moving to the US

06:04 Expectations and Cultural Differences

08:44 Adapting to Life in the US

09:51 The Role of the Accompanying Spouse

14:03 Communication and Emotional Support

16:57 Finding Identity and Purpose

19:50 Reflections on American Culture and Identity

25:22 Navigating Relationship Challenges

27:46 The Impact of Relocation on Relationships

29:49 Coping with Separation and Change

36:19 Communicating with Children During Divorce

37:56 Lessons Learned from Parenting and Divorce

41:49 Personal Growth Through Adversity

46:22 Defining Home and What Matters Most

47:34 Advice for Couples Facing Relocation

48:56 Lighthearted Quickfire Questions

52:00 Introduction to Exped Insights

52:29 Closing Thoughts and Resources

Podcast Guest

Michael Seidl

https://www.linkedin.com/in/seidl-michael/

Host

Annegret Bertsch

https://www.coaching-because.com

Summary

In this episode, Annegret Bertsch and Megan Nicholls explore the multifaceted journey of language learning, emphasizing the importance of confidence, cultural connections, and the mindset required to embrace new languages. They discuss the challenges faced by learners, the role of culture in language acquisition, and practical tips for overcoming obstacles. The conversation highlights the significance of making mistakes, the impact of accents, and how language can reflect different aspects of one's personality. They also touch on the future of language learning in the age of AI, advocating for authentic human connections.

Takeaways

Language learning is a journey that requires confidence.

Mistakes are essential for growth in language acquisition.

Cultural understanding enhances language learning experiences.

Embracing vulnerability can lead to better language skills.

Consistency in practice is key to language mastery.

Accents should be seen as a sign of bravery, not a flaw.

Language learning can open up new aspects of one's personality.

Humor can be challenging to translate across languages.

AI can assist in language learning but cannot replace human connection.

The mindset of the learner is crucial for success.

Chapters

00:00 Introduction to Language Learning

02:25 The Importance of Language and Communication

04:39 Personal Journey with Languages

07:14 Overcoming Language Learning Barriers

09:48 Embracing New Cultures and Languages

12:33 The Role of Confidence in Language Learning

15:22 Practical Tips for Language Learners

18:02 The Impact of Language on Identity

20:53 Navigating Professional Language Challenges

23:31 The Role of Humor in Language

26:33 Future of Language Learning in the Age of AI

42:40 Introduction to Expat Insights

43:06 Closing Thoughts and Resources

Guest

Megan Nicholls

https://megalanguagecoach.com

https://www.linkedin.com/in/megan-nicholls-59a47077/

Host

Annegret Bertsch

https://www.coaching-because.com

Summary

In this episode, Annegret Bertsch and Chris Moyer discuss the experiences of Third Culture Kids (TCKs), exploring the unique challenges and opportunities they face. Chris shares his personal journey as a TCK, the importance of emotional support for children, and practical advice for parents navigating the complexities of raising TCKs. The conversation highlights the significance of being intentional with time, understanding emotional processing, and fostering resilience in children as they adapt to multiple cultures.

Takeaways

TCKs grow up in a culture different from their parents' passport country.

Emotional support is crucial for TCKs during transitions.

Parents should model emotional expression to help children process feelings.

Grief and goodbyes are significant challenges for TCKs.

Behavioral changes in children can indicate emotional struggles.

Establishing open communication helps children express their feelings.

Cultural adaptability can lead to a broader worldview for TCKs.

Intentional time spent with children fosters strong relationships.

The future of TCKs involves increased awareness and support for their needs.

Chapters

00:00 Introduction to Chris and His Background

02:49 The Concept of Third Culture Kids

04:53 Challenges and Opportunities of TCKs

07:02 Cultural Identity and Belonging

09:11 Parenting Third Culture Kids

11:32 Navigating Transitions and Goodbyes

13:59 The Emotional Landscape of TCKs

16:13 The Role of Fathers in Supporting TCKs

18:36 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

21:30 The Emotional Landscape of Men

23:58 Navigating Grief and Vulnerability with Children

25:04 Connecting with Kids: Different Approaches for Boys and Girls

28:56 Understanding Emotional Responses in Younger Children

32:00 The Importance of Play and Art in Emotional Expression

37:15 Creating a Foundation for Emotional Stability

44:41 The Future of Third Culture Kids and Family Support

52:16 Introduction to Exped Insights

52:43 Closing Thoughts and Resources

Guest

Chris Moyer

https://www.linkedin.com/in/chris-j-moyer/

Article: Neither Here Nor There, I Don't Belong Anywhere´

https://tckonnective.wordpress.com/2020/11/23/neither-here-nor-there-i-dont-belong-anywhere/

Host

Annegret Bertsch

www.coaching-because.com

Summary

In this episode of Expat Insights, host Annegret and guest Julie M. Marx explore the multifaceted experience of expat life in China, particularly focusing on the unique challenges and opportunities faced by expat spouses. They discuss the rapid pace of life in China, the importance of learning Mandarin, and the emotional complexities of living abroad, including feelings of guilt and homesickness. Julie shares her insights on building community, navigating professional restrictions, and the evolving nature of expat life, emphasizing the need for support and connection in a foreign environment.

Takeaways

Life in China moves at lightning speed, impacting expat experiences.

Expat spouses often feel isolated and need strong support networks.

Learning Mandarin opens doors and fosters connections.

Cultural misconceptions about China can hinder expat experiences.

Finding purpose and passion is crucial for expat spouses.

Professional opportunities for expats are often limited by work permits.

Community building is essential for emotional well-being.

Expat guilt and homesickness are common emotional challenges.

Chapters

00:00 Introduction to Expat Life in China

02:39 Cultural Insights and First Impressions

07:15 Understanding Change and Misconceptions

11:47 The Scale of Life in China

14:45 Language as a Gateway

19:41 Challenges for Expat Spouses

22:11 Navigating Work Restrictions

23:17 Conclusion and Advice for Expat Spouses

23:58 Navigating Business in China

26:56 Challenges and Opportunities for Non-Working Spouses

29:26 Building Community in China

34:04 Emotional Challenges of Expat Life

36:28 Reverse Culture Shock

42:59 The Future of Expat Life in China

45:12 China Expert Spouse: Support for Expats

47:25 Defining Home in an International Life

48:33 Introduction to Expat Insights

50:34 Closing Thoughts and Resources

Podcast Guest

Julie M. Marx

https://chinaexpatspouse.com

https://www.linkedin.com/in/julie-m-marx/

Host

Annegret Bertsch

https://www.coaching-because.com

Summary

This conversation explores the complexities of relationships for expats, highlighting the hidden stressors that arise from moving abroad, the impact of career changes, and the importance of communication and support systems. Wiebke Anton, a relationship coach, shares insights on how cultural differences and financial dynamics can complicate relationships, while also emphasizing the need for counseling and the normalization of seeking help. The discussion concludes with hopes for the future of expat couples, focusing on the importance of maintaining healthy relationships amidst the challenges of living abroad.

Takeaways

Expat life can lead to hidden stressors that impact relationships.

Career changes often create imbalances in expat couples.

Financial dynamics can complicate relationship roles abroad.

Cultural differences significantly affect relationship dynamics.

Communication is key to navigating challenges in expat life.

External influences can exacerbate relationship issues for expats.

Counseling should be normalized as a tool for relationship health.

Establishing routines can help couples manage stress.

Chapters

00:00 Introduction to Wiebke Anton and Her Journey

02:59 The Challenges of Expat Life and Relationships

06:31 Hidden Stressors in Expat Relationships

10:44 The Impact of Career Changes on Relationships

14:54 Coping with Financial Dynamics Abroad

18:53 The Role of External Influences on Expat Couples

23:06 Navigating Intimacy and Social Life Abroad

27:06 The Importance of Communication in Relationships

31:05 Repatriation and Its Challenges

35:10 Strategies for Strengthening Expat Relationships

39:23 The Future of Expat Relationships and Support Systems

55:35 Introduction to Expat Insights

55:56 Closing Thoughts and Resources

Podcast Guest

Wiebke Anton

https://www.help4love.com

https://www.linkedin.com/in/wiebke-anton/

Host

Annegret Bertsch

https://www.coaching-because.com

Summary

In this conversation, Annegret and Martyna delve into the complexities of culture shock experienced by expats. They explore the various phases of culture shock, from the initial excitement of the honeymoon phase to the frustrations and doubts that often follow. Martyna shares her personal experiences of living in different countries, highlighting the importance of finding belonging and home in a new environment. They discuss the journey of self-discovery that comes with adapting to a new culture and the challenges of managing expectations from oneself and others. The conversation concludes with practical advice for new expats on how to navigate their experiences and create a sense of belonging.

Takeaways

Culture shock has four distinct phases: honeymoon, frustration, adaptation, and mastery.

The honeymoon phase is characterized by excitement and novelty.

Frustration often arises when the initial excitement fades and challenges become apparent.

Finding belonging in a new country is a significant aspect of the expat experience.

Self-discovery is a crucial part of living abroad and adapting to new cultures.

Expectations from oneself and others can complicate the expat experience.

Building connections through work and hobbies can alleviate feelings of loneliness.

Lowering expectations can help in forming deeper connections with others.

Creating a sense of belonging often requires active participation in the community.

Emotional experiences during culture shock can lead to personal growth.

Chapters

00:00 Introduction to Martyna

04:08 Understanding Culture Shock

08:12 The Honeymoon Phase of Expat Life

14:48 Navigating Challenges in a New City

17:58 Self-Discovery Through Expat Experiences

22:29 Identity and Authenticity Abroad

24:46 The Concept of Home

28:04 Belonging and Connection

31:48 Navigating Loneliness and Building Relationships

36:00 Expectations and Career Challenges

42:59 Coping with Culture Shock

45:10 Evolving Definitions of Belonging

49:00 Introduction to Expat Insights

49:29 Closing Thoughts and Resources

Podcast Guest

Martyna Brewczyk

https://prosperabroadcoaching.com

https://www.linkedin.com/in/martynacoach/

Host

Annegret Bertsch

https://www.coaching-because.com