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A new kink platform is trying to do something most apps avoid: build real community without turning it into a swipe-driven meat market. We talk with Ido and Eido (the EI-dos), co-founders of Hank Social, about why they built a dedicated leather, kink, and BDSM social network for gay fetish men and how they are designing it to feel safer, more human, and more useful than the usual options.

We get into the real problems Hank is trying to solve: beginners who want mentorship but do not know where to start, organizers who are tired of juggling five different platforms to run one event, and members who want privacy-first tools that respect adult sexuality. The guys break down Hank’s community features, nearby discovery, messaging, and event management, plus the long-term vision for the Kink Academy as a searchable education hub that can bring in nonprofit kink education organizations and preserve knowledge in one place.

We also talk candidly about the friction adult platforms face with Apple and Google, why “vanillaing” apps erases kink culture, and how Hank is navigating those constraints while keeping the product community-led through rapid feedback and iteration. If you have been looking for a leather kink community online that supports learning, discussion, and connection with less pressure, this conversation is a strong starting point.

FInd Hank Social at http://hanksocial.com.

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A leather bar reopens, the music is loud, the basement dungeon is calling, and everyone is carrying a name they can’t say out loud anymore. That’s the emotional engine behind “Cruising For Sex In A Burning Building,” the live action role-playing game Jon and Moss designed to explore leather bar culture at the height of the HIV/AIDS crisis. We talk about why LARP is more than costumes and foam swords, and how immersive storytelling can become a powerful tool for queer history, community memory, and honest conversations about risk.

Jon and Moss walk me through the game’s premise, the research behind it, and the design choice that makes it both intense and playable: adapted Ars Amandi style mechanics that translate kink and cruising into minimal but meaningful touch. We get specific about what can be represented well in a short run time, why they avoid gamifying HIV transmission, and how teaching techniques player to player turns “transmission” into a theme about knowledge, care, and legacy. We also dig into how physical space shapes immersion, from a plain room with dim lights to a real dungeon setup with unexpected historic artifacts.

Then Ask Edge gets practical. I answer listener questions about shifting from sub to Dom headspace, affording leather events when hotels and travel are brutal, and what to do when your leather persona feels stuck in the garage. If you care about BDSM consent culture, leather history, LARP design, or the way queer communities keep finding joy under pressure, this one will stay with you. Subscribe, share it with a friend who loves games or kink, and leave a review so more people can find us.

Relevant links:

• Cruising for Sex in a Burning Building event website
• joncole.itch.io
• beatingthebinary.itch.io
• Ars Amandi
• Just a Little Lovin'
• Twin Cities Leather
• Stockholm Scenario Festival

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Wanting a bigger body is one of the most misunderstood desires in kink and the confusion usually starts with the vocabulary. I’m joined by James, a gainer and the voice behind the Thicc Radio podcast, to lay out what gaining and feedism actually mean, how people use terms like gainer, feeder, encourager, and admirer, and why these dynamics can be deeply intimate even when they have nothing to do with dominance and submission.

We also get honest about the parts people love to moralize: fatphobia, “health” as a dog-whistle, and the pressure gay culture puts on bodies through status, aesthetics, and belonging. James shares what it looks like to pursue size while still caring for your body, from boundaries and mobility to nutrition and hygiene, plus how GLP-1 drugs like Ozempic are reshaping the wider conversation around bears, body acceptance, and who feels “allowed” to stay big.

Along the way, we talk kink overlap with macrophilia and other size fantasies, how to find the gainer community without guessing or projecting onto strangers, and why James started a podcast to push back on clickbait media narratives. Then we shift into Ask Edge for a listener question about stepping into the Daddy role for the first time, with practical guidance on communication, leading by example, and supporting someone’s growth without running their life.

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Here are some helpful links:

• Find Thicc Radio on Instragram at @thiccradio or thiccradio.com or in your favorite podcast directory.
• Interested in Gaining? Check out Grommr, Feabie, and FantasyFeeder

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Ask Edge! Go to https://www.speakpipe.com/LTHREDGE to leave ask a question or leave feedback. Find Edge's other content on Instagram and Twitter. Also visit his archive of educational videos, Tchick-Tchick.