What is something nobody warned you about before you had kids?

The responses were honest, funny, and at times… brutal.

In this episode, we unpack the realities parents say no one prepares you for - the relentless worry that never switches off, how every stage is hard (not just the baby years), the constant mess and mental load, the financial pressure, the loss of privacy, the strain on relationships, and the identity shift that comes with becoming “mum” and “dad.”

We also share our own recent experience with primary school group chat drama - and how quickly modern parenting can escalate in ways we never saw coming.

It is the parenting topic that turns calm people into control freaks. Phones. Dean and Sara are right in the thick of it with an 11 year old and the pressure is properly ramping up.

They get into the real stuff parents are dealing with right now. Dopamine hits, scrolling, attention spans, school rules, the social pressure of being the only kid without one, and the big question of whether you can make a smartphone work without it taking over.

Expect honesty, sarcasm, a few uncomfortable realisations about adult screen time, and practical ideas from other parents who have already been through it.

You sent them in and we weren’t prepared for how relatable they were. In this episode, Dean & Sara read through your anonymous parenting guilt confessions and talk honestly about why so many parents carry the same quiet thoughts but never say them out loud.

Some are funny, some uncomfortable, and a few spark a bit of disagreement. The goal is simple. Less judgement, more honesty, and maybe feeling a little less alone in the process.

Plus, You Be The Judge returns with a school situation that raises serious questions about privacy and boundaries.

Relatable, honest and unfiltered parenting chat.