Dean is turning 40, so Sara puts him in the hot seat with 40 questions for 40 years.

From coffee addictions and dad phrases to parenting regrets, relationship chaos, midlife crisis chat, caravan traditions, childhood memories, and what Dean is most proud of, this episode is full of honest reflections, ridiculous tangents, and classic Dean-and-Sara banter.

They also dive into life before kids, how parenting changes you, and why turning 40 might actually be Dean’s best decade yet.

A funny, reflective, and very unfiltered birthday episode

Ever wished you could redesign yourself as a parent from scratch? This week, Dean and Sara get refreshingly honest about the traits they're still working on, from Sara's struggle to slow down and be present, to Dean's battle with overstimulation (yes, the gymnastics bar gets a mention).

They debate whether kids need to respect you, like you, or both, and play a round of parenting Would You Rather that gets surprisingly deep. Oh, and there's some big news at the end...

This week, Dean and Sara debrief after a full-on family meltdown when a sibling argument ends with one daughter yelling “I hate you” and a slammed door literally breaking the frame.

From there, things spiral into a brutally honest chat about parenting pre-teens, discipline, sibling conflict, emotional outbursts, and whether you should ever remove a kid’s door.

Then, because no domestic drama comes alone, they get into the big one: household chores, mental load, gender roles, resentment, and why one person’s “I’ll do it later” is another person’s final straw. Honest, funny, sharp-tongued and painfully relatable.

This week, Dean and Sara are all over the place in the most relatable way possible. From being personally offended by the price of a professional car clean, to the stress of waiting for their daughter’s secondary school place, to debating whether the six-week summer holidays actually still work for modern family life, this episode is honest, funny, and slightly unhinged. They also chat about Dean’s new family road trip game, why school decisions feel so high-stakes, and whether changing school holidays would help parents or just make everything worse.

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What is something nobody warned you about before you had kids?

The responses were honest, funny, and at times… brutal.

In this episode, we unpack the realities parents say no one prepares you for - the relentless worry that never switches off, how every stage is hard (not just the baby years), the constant mess and mental load, the financial pressure, the loss of privacy, the strain on relationships, and the identity shift that comes with becoming “mum” and “dad.”

We also share our own recent experience with primary school group chat drama - and how quickly modern parenting can escalate in ways we never saw coming.

It is the parenting topic that turns calm people into control freaks. Phones. Dean and Sara are right in the thick of it with an 11 year old and the pressure is properly ramping up.

They get into the real stuff parents are dealing with right now. Dopamine hits, scrolling, attention spans, school rules, the social pressure of being the only kid without one, and the big question of whether you can make a smartphone work without it taking over.

Expect honesty, sarcasm, a few uncomfortable realisations about adult screen time, and practical ideas from other parents who have already been through it.

You sent them in and we weren’t prepared for how relatable they were. In this episode, Dean & Sara read through your anonymous parenting guilt confessions and talk honestly about why so many parents carry the same quiet thoughts but never say them out loud.

Some are funny, some uncomfortable, and a few spark a bit of disagreement. The goal is simple. Less judgement, more honesty, and maybe feeling a little less alone in the process.

Plus, You Be The Judge returns with a school situation that raises serious questions about privacy and boundaries.

Relatable, honest and unfiltered parenting chat.

It was meant to be a wholesome Christmas break… until Sara had a full-on “menti B” and Dean got personally offended at the idea of her driving off for two weeks. Once we’re back from the brink (and a farm-pod reset), we tackle the most unexpectedly controversial parenting topic we’ve ever posted about: kids’ sleepovers.

We get brutally honest about what actually worries us: not just safeguarding and “you don’t really know anyone,” but also sleep deprivation, phones/iPads, dodgy late-night content, friendship fallouts, and why some parents are fine with sleepovers only if it’s at their own house. Plus: the code word idea we genuinely rate… and Dean’s traumatic sleepover story that should’ve stayed buried.

If you’re navigating sleepovers with primary-school kids, starting secondary school, or just wondering what the hell the “right” call is—this one’s for you.