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Two commercial pilots had a checklist for a cabin pressure problem. They followed every step except one. The plane crashed and everyone on board died.

If you love someone with addiction, you've been making the same mistake.

In Episode 57, Jason Coombs teaches the emotional raincoat: the one shift that separates families who burn out from families who create the conditions for their loved one's recovery. You'll hear the Tuesday morning scenario most families know by heart, the loving response Jason calls "Vitamin NI," and the night his parents put on their own raincoats and changed everything.

You don't stop loving them. You just stop drowning next to them.

Jason's book Unhooked: How to Help an Addicted Loved One Recover is available on Audible and Amazon. Learn more at brickhouserecovery.com.

SHOW NOTES

Jason teaches the emotional raincoat: how to love someone through addiction without losing yourself in the storm. A real aviation tragedy, a Tuesday morning scenario every family knows, and the night Jason's parents stopped absorbing his consequences and finally created the conditions for his sobriety.

Timestamps

[01:53] The airplane tragedy that mirrors what families of addicted loved ones experience

[06:51] Introducing the emotional raincoat

[11:02] Why our natural caregiving instincts make addiction worse

[14:59] Tuesday morning scenario: without the raincoat vs. with it

[17:53] "Vitamin NI": the loving, boundaried response

[21:04] How the raincoat changes the weather in your home

[24:55] Why your loved one won't want recovery if sobriety looks miserable

[36:14] How Jason's parents created the conditions for his sobriety on March 19, 2009

[42:47] The prayer that cracked open Jason's path to lasting recovery

Key Quotes

"You cannot control the weather. You can't fix a storm."

"You don't stop loving them. You just stop drowning next to them."

"The storm was exactly the same. The phone call was the same. The difference was you."

Resources

Unhooked: How to Help an Addicted Loved One Recover on Audible and Amazon.

Brick House Recovery: brickhouserecovery.com

Support the show

Join Jason Coombs LIVE each week for tips and tricks and LIVE Q&A’s. Go to https://www.liveunhooked.com/live-unhooked.

For information about treatment services visit https://www.brickhouserecovery.com/

For more information about Warrior Heart Bootcamp for men visit www.awarriorheart.com

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If you’re the mom, dad, or spouse who has become the detective, the cleanup crew, and the emotional first responder, this one is for you.
In this solo episode, Jason Coombs sits down with the families who are exhausted from organizing their entire lives around someone else’s addiction. He shares the one shift that changes everything: your loved one’s recovery begins when you change first.
Jason is not speaking from theory. He is speaking from both sides of this. He was the addicted son. Four felonies. Homeless. Five treatment programs. Heroin, meth, and crack. And now, fifteen years sober, he has spent his career walking with families through the same fog he once put his own family through.
This episode is the permission slip you didn’t know you were waiting for.
What you’ll hear:
(01:08) The mothers who have become detectives, cleanup crews, and emotional first responders
(06:54) Laura’s story: five years, a daughter’s addiction, and the gap between knowing and doing
(11:47) Jason’s own story: felonies, homelessness, heroin, and five treatment programs
(17:32) The insider confession: how addiction studies the room and uses the family’s responses
(19:11) The sentence that changed everything: “Jana, Doug, get off the beach”
(22:57) Placing his son Nathan for adoption and the promise that became Jason’s turning point
(29:34) Why “wait for rock bottom” is some of the most dangerous advice in recovery
(41:31) The five-stage framework for living unhooked
The Insider Confession
Before Jason was the one teaching this, he was the reason his family needed it. And he is honest about what was happening on his end. Addiction studies the room. It learns who responds to fear, who caves to tears, who needs hope. Every rescue delayed his consequences. Every softened landing delayed his pain.
“Every time somebody helped me avoid the full weight of what I had created, it kept me insulated from the very thing that might have made me ready.”
Get Off the Beach
A therapist in Jason’s first treatment program told his parents: Jason is out in the middle of the lake dropping boulders. By the time those ripples reach the shore, they are tsunami-sized waves crashing over your heads. Get off the beach.
His parents changed the locks. They drew clear lines. And they did not wait for Jason to get sober before they started healing. They started healing while he was still sick. He noticed.
“Their commitment to reclaiming their life and their peace sent the message I needed to hear. I needed to see it in their actions.”
The Goldfish Bowl
You don’t fix the fish by yelling at it or pulling it out for a lecture and dropping it back into dirty water. You clean the bowl. The tone in the home, the boundaries, the access, the secrecy, the panic level: that’s the water. Change the water and you change the conditions that keep the disease alive.
Takeaways for families:
Stop waiting for rock bottom. You are the one who can move the

Support the show

Join Jason Coombs LIVE each week for tips and tricks and LIVE Q&A’s. Go to https://www.liveunhooked.com/live-unhooked.

For information about treatment services visit https://www.brickhouserecovery.com/

For more information about Warrior Heart Bootcamp for men visit www.awarriorheart.com

https://awarriorheart.com/

$100 DISCOUNT CODE for Warrior Heart = 2026Brick100

To learn more about the women’s retreat, Heart of a Woman:
https://theheartofawoman.net/

$100 DISCOUNT CODE for Heart of a Woman = 2026Brick100

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Everyone is talking about ibogaine like it’s the cure for addiction.

I’m telling you why I’m saying no.

You’ve probably heard the buzz.

• A “breakthrough.”
• A “reset.”
• Maybe even the answer your family has been praying for.

Ibogaine is everywhere right now. Podcasts. Headlines. Conversations between people who are desperate for something to finally work.

So let’s talk about it.

In this episode, I give you my honest, unfiltered answer to the question I’ve been asked more than anything lately:

Is ibogaine the solution?

And my answer might not be what you expect.

• Not because I’m closed off.
• Not because I’m against new approaches.
• But because I’ve seen what happens when hope moves faster than truth and families pay the price.

Inside this episode, I break down:

• What’s actually true about ibogaine right now, not the hype
• The real risks most people are not talking about
• Why this is especially dangerous for the exact population it’s being marketed to
• A personal story that changed how I evaluate treatments forever

If you’re a parent, spouse, or loved one trying to make the right decision in the middle of chaos, this matters.

Because when you’re desperate, everything can start to sound like the answer.

This episode will help you slow down, think clearly, and make a decision you won’t regret.

Hit play before you make your next move.

Support the show

Join Jason Coombs LIVE each week for tips and tricks and LIVE Q&A’s. Go to https://www.liveunhooked.com/live-unhooked.

For information about treatment services visit https://www.brickhouserecovery.com/

For more information about Warrior Heart Bootcamp for men visit www.awarriorheart.com

https://awarriorheart.com/

$100 DISCOUNT CODE for Warrior Heart = 2026Brick100

To learn more about the women’s retreat, Heart of a Woman:
https://theheartofawoman.net/

$100 DISCOUNT CODE for Heart of a Woman = 2026Brick100