Most couples think they know what's hurting their marriage.

Poor communication. Different sex drives. Parenting disagreements. Financial stress. Growing apart.

That's exactly what one couple thought, too.

After 18 years of marriage, they came to Dan convinced they knew what needed fixing. But as they peeled back the layers, they uncovered a deeper problem—one neither of them had recognized—and that discovery changed everything.

In this episode, Dan shares the surprising reframe that brought new hope to their marriage. Along the way, you'll discover why some conflicts keep repeating, how hidden struggles can quietly shape your relationship, and why God's grace is far more powerful than many of us realize.

If your marriage feels stuck or you're tired of having the same arguments over and over, this episode offers a hopeful perspective that just might change the way you see your relationship—and yourself.

And if you'd like further help, you can check out the resources on our website, including our Next Level Couples Coaching Program, Men's Only and Women's Only coaching programs, and our apps: Intimately Us, Just Between Us, and Spark'd.

Shame thrives in secrecy—but healing doesn't.

In this deeply honest conversation, Dan sits down with Craig Perra, a former attorney whose secret life of pornography, strip clubs, prostitution, and compulsive sexual behavior nearly destroyed everything he cared about.

After years of trying therapy, recovery groups, and identifying himself as a "sex addict," Craig reached a breaking point. What happened next completely changed how he viewed healing.

Together, Dan and Craig explore why destructive behaviors often serve as coping strategies, how shame can keep us trapped, and why true healing begins with self-leadership instead of self-hatred.

They discuss:

• Why all behavior is need-seeking behavior
• The hidden role shame plays in compulsive sexual behavior
• Why some experts are moving away from the "sex addiction" label
• How Parts Work helps people understand—not fight—themselves
• The difference between suppressing urges and building real integrity
• Practical hope for anyone feeling stuck in cycles of secrecy

Whether you're personally struggling, supporting a spouse, or simply trying to understand how lasting change happens, this episode offers a compassionate and thought-provoking perspective on healing.

And if you'd like futher help creating lasting change, check out how you can work with Dan and his team to reach your goals.

Resources:

Free offer from Craig: Text "Dan sent me" to 877-356-5573 for a free pdf of Craig's 175 page workbook on breaking bad habits and addictions.

You can also find Craig Perra at these other locations:

• Patterns of Power Podcast
• The Mindful Habit System
• Instagram
• YouTube
• Facebook

Disclaimer: The opinions and values expressed by guests on the Get Your Marriage On! podcast are their own and do not necessarily reflect the opinions and values of the host. Appearance on the podcast does not imply an endorsement of the guest or their products by Get Your Marriage On or its host. While we work hard to bring you quality and valuable content, listeners are encouraged to use their own best judgment in applying the information or products discussed on this podcast.

What does the Constitutional Convention have to do with your marriage?

More than you might think.

As we celebrate Independence Day, Dan explores one of the greatest acts of collaboration in history—the creation of the U.S. Constitution—and uncovers surprising lessons for couples navigating differences in intimacy, communication, and connection.

The delegates in Philadelphia didn't create unity by forcing everyone to agree. They built structures that honored competing needs. Your marriage can too.

In this episode you'll learn:

• Why trying to "win" intimate disagreements keeps couples stuck
• How to create conversations where both spouses feel represented
• The difference between compromise and true collaboration
• Practical ideas for building your own "marriage convention"
• Why a more perfect union—not a perfect marriage—is the goal

This Independence Day, celebrate more than freedom. Celebrate building a marriage where both of you can flourish.