In this episode, I sit down with my friend Jacqlin — published author and romance reader — to talk about something I've wanted to explore for a long time: how writing intimate stories can deepen connection in marriage.

We talk about:

• Why erotic writing can feel more vulnerable than sex

• The difference between sharing your body and sharing your private thoughts

• How to overcome fear of rejection

• Practical scaffolding and ideas for writing your first spicy story

• Boundaries, motivation, and what NOT to do

• Why your "why" matters more than the spice level

Jacqlin even shares a sample story at the end of the episode (with a content warning), so you can hear how tenderness and connection can coexist with passion.

If you've ever wondered:

• Where do I even start?

• Is this appropriate in marriage?

• What if my spouse rejects it?

• Could this actually bring us closer?

This episode will give you clarity and courage.

Sex isn't just about bodies. It's about inviting your spouse into the private parts of your mind and heart.

And that can be transformative.

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In this bonus Q&A episode, I tackle some of the most vulnerable and complex sexual questions couples are asking right now.

We talk about:

• Anal play and whether certain acts are morally wrong

• Masturbation inside marriage — especially when your spouse is available

• What to do when teasing doesn't lead to follow-through

• How to talk dirty without feeling dirty

• Stepping into sexual confidence when your spouse wants more intensity

• Low desire that won't budge — even after trying everything

• And the painful dynamic of feeling like you're never "enough"

Here's the core principle:
Sex acts themselves are often neutral. What matters is the fruit they produce in your marriage.

Is it building trust? Intimacy? Freedom? Playfulness?
Or is it creating shame, pressure, resentment, or disconnection?

This episode will help you think more deeply, talk more honestly, and navigate your sexual relationship with maturity and integrity.

If you want deeper support, don't forget to check out the Get Your Marriage On Program — including our coaching community and 30-day free trial.

Mentioned in the episode:

Get Your Marriage On Dirty Talk Guide (From Awkward to Arousing: A Guide to "Dirty Talk" for Christians)

Episode #91: How to Talk Dirty Without Feeling Dirty or Awkward

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Shame is a universal emotion — and for many Christians, sexual shame is one of the hardest to overcome.

In this deeply honest conversation, I'm joined by Natalie Hamblin as we explore how sexual shame quietly divides marriages, and how couples can move toward sexual wholeness instead.

We talk about:

• How shame creates emotional and physical distance

• Why hiding parts of yourself fractures intimacy

• The difference between guilt and shame

• How faith and sexuality actually belong together

• How to reframe sex as God-given and good

• What to do if shame from your past is haunting your present marriage

• The power of education and communication

• And how Natalie and her husband moved from fear to deep connection

And if sexual shame is something you're actively working through, I invite you to explore our Get Your Marriage On coaching program. For a limited time, you can try it free for 30 days and get access to coaching sessions and our full course library.

We also have an opening due to a cancellation at our upcoming couples retreat! We'd love to have you join us!

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