In this episode, I’m in conversation with trauma-informed somatic practitioner and educator Darshana Avila about the relationship between grief, pleasure, and aliveness.

We explore how pain and joy are not opposites, but part of the same spectrum of being human. Darshana shares how her work has evolved from sacred sexuality and body-based healing into a broader exploration of what she calls “erotic wholeness” — not limited to sex, but rooted in life force, creativity, grief, connection and presence.

We talk about:

• How grief and pleasure can coexist

• The idea of eros as aliveness rather than performance

• The role of community and ritual in grief

• Moving beyond binary ideas of “good” and “bad” emotions

• Trauma-informed ways of relating to ourselves

Darshana Avila is a trauma-informed somatic educator, practitioner and international speaker who helps people reconnect with the most essential aspects of themselves — their truth, their desires, and their capacity for profound pleasure and power.

Known for her grounded, candid, and relational approach, she bridges the worlds of erotic embodiment, trauma healing and self actualization.

Darshana’s work has been featured on Netflix’s Sex, Love & goop, The Guardian, The New Yorker, and numerous leading podcasts.

darshanaavila.com

instagram.com/darshana_avila

youtube.com/@darshana-avila

linkedin.com/in/darshana-avila

You can join monthly Spark sessions with Yarrow over here: https://griefmagic.com/free-monthly-spark-sessions/

Thank you for listening!

Love,

Yarrow

In this gentle solo episode, I’m sharing some thoughts about how I’ve slowly shaped my home into a place that feels like a cocoon, somewhere to truly rest.

I talk about why cocooning begins with decluttering rather than buying more, how choosing a simple colour landscape (for me, green and pink) creates visual calm, and why I love filling my space with natural textures like cotton, linen, and velvet (often second hand).

We explore how light moves through a home, how to create different zones for work and rest, the magic of soft lighting, scent, and a few small rituals that help a space feel protected and intentional.

This is not an episode about perfect interiors, i’s about tending to the space that tends to you.

Here is the sign up for the decluttering fundraiser I mentioned: https://griefmagic.com/spring-cocoon/https://griefmagic.com/spring-cocoon/

Thanks for listening!

Love,

Yarrow

In this short solo episode, I’m inviting you to join a soft, companionable decluttering workshop we’ll be doing together on March 8th from 4–6pm (UK time).

Making space can be emotional as much as practical and doing it alone can feel overwhelming, so this workshop is a gentle spring reset.

We’ll begin with a short pep talk and a simple, kind approach to decluttering, then spend time quietly clearing our spaces side by side. We’ll check in together and continue for a second session.

The workshop is also a fundraiser to support a dear friend’s family in Sudan who urgently need help right now.

You can sign up here: https://griefmagic.com/spring-cocoon/

Love,

Yarrow