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What happens when God asks you to surrender something you don’t want to let go of—especially when what He is asking doesn’t seem to make sense?

Donna Kirkwood and her husband believed God was leading them to open a winery. But in the middle of that journey, God began dealing with Donna about her own relationship with alcohol. She wrestled, negotiated, and questioned: How could God lead me to own a winery and then ask me not to drink?

When I read Donna’s story in her book, He Is the Vine: From the Vineyard to the Tasting Room, I was stunned by how closely her story paralleled my own journey of surrendering alcohol more than twenty-five years ago.

In this honest conversation, Donna and I share our stories and then dig into Jesus’ words in John 15 about the true Vine, the Vinedresser, pruning, abiding, and bearing fruit.

Drawing from Donna’s experience as a winery owner, we talk about the beautiful spiritual parallels found throughout the winemaking process—from cultivating the soil and pruning the vines to fermentation and finally the tasting room.

In this episode, we talk about:

• Surrendering to God when His direction doesn’t make logical sense
• Our personal struggles with alcohol and the conviction of the Holy Spirit
• Why God sometimes prunes even good things from our lives
• The responsibility we carry as Christian leaders not to cause others to stumble
• What it means to abide in Jesus rather than striving to produce fruit on our own
• Finding a rhythm of time with Jesus that fits your season of life
• Trusting God through the slow process of spiritual growth and sanctification
• How trials and difficult seasons can become part of our transformation
• Why our testimonies are meant to be poured out and shared with others

If you are walking through a season of pruning, surrender, waiting, or change, I pray this conversation reminds you that the Vinedresser knows exactly what He is doing. Stay connected to the true Vine and trust Him with the process.

Scripture References:
John 15:1–8
Galatians 5:22–23
Revelation 19:6–9
Psalm 139:14

Donna Kirkwood is an author, speaker, Bible teacher, and marriage ministry leader. She is the author of He Is the Vine: From the Vineyard to the Tasting Room.

Connect with Donna:

Website: https://donnakirkwood.com/

Book: He Is the Vine: From the Vineyard to the Tasting Room
Available on Amazon or as a signed copy through Donna’s website.

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Do you struggle to say no without feeling guilty? For many Christian women, the desire to serve others, avoid disappointing people, and be Christlike can quietly turn into people-pleasing. But how do we know when saying yes is an act of obedience to God—and when a healthy no may actually help us protect what He has called us to do?

In this episode of HER Podcast, Pat Domangue talks with Christian Communication & Boundaries Coach Tannera Lindvall about people-pleasing, pleasing God, and setting healthy boundaries as a Christian woman.

Tannera shares how God showed her that every yes comes with automatic noes and why our first yes must belong to Him. She explains how people-pleasing can become connected to our identity and need for approval, why knowing our God-given purpose helps us recognize when to say no, and how biblical boundaries can help us love God and others well.

Pat also shares from her own experience of saying yes to so many good things that she eventually became exhausted and frustrated—and the simple statement from a pastor that changed her perspective: “No is a spiritual answer.”

You’ll also hear practical wisdom about how to:

• Recognize people-pleasing and the desire for others’ approval
• Find your worth and identity in God rather than in being needed
• Discern what deserves your yes in your current season
• Set healthy boundaries without allowing guilt to control you
• Prepare for difficult conversations with family and others
• Begin a boundary conversation by assuming good intentions
• Respond when someone repeatedly crosses a boundary
• Extend grace without continually moving your boundary
• Pursue healthy relationships while remaining faithful to what God has called you to do

If you have struggled with people-pleasing, fear of disappointing others, saying no without guilt, or setting biblical boundaries, this conversation will give you practical encouragement for learning to please God while loving others well.

Connect with Tannera Lindvall

Tannera Lindvall is a Christian Communication & Boundaries Coach and founder of Communication Architect.

Website: CommunicationArchitect.org

Visit the Free Resources section of her website to download The Guilt-Free No, a free guide designed to help you know your yes, set boundaries to protect that yes, and communicate your no without guilt.

You can also find Tannera on Facebook and Instagram and join the free Communication Architect CommunityFacebook group. For women who would like personal coaching, Tannera offers a free 30-minute discovery call through her website.

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Join Pat for Equipped & Empowered, an upcoming Bible study designed to help women understand what Scripture teaches about the spiritual battle and how God has equipped us to stand firm in Christ.

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God Does Not Waste Your Season: Trusting God with Your Story

Have you ever wondered why God allows seasons of waiting, disappointment, or uncertainty? Maybe you've prayed for years for healing, a prodigal child to return, restoration in a relationship, or clarity about your next step, yet the answer still hasn't come.

In this encouraging episode of the HER Podcast, Pat Domangue sits down with author and Bible teacher Moriah Hagelto discuss how God faithfully works through every season of life—even the ones we would never choose.

Together they explore:

• Why God never wastes a season of waiting
• How to trust God's timing when life feels on hold
• Finding purpose in difficult seasons
• Putting God first while you wait
• Serving God faithfully instead of putting life on pause
• Growing deeper in your relationship with Christ through every season

Moriah also shares her personal journey of waiting on God, how He used those years to prepare her for ministry, and the biblical truths that continue to anchor her faith today.

No matter what season you're facing, this conversation will encourage you to trust that God is writing a greater story than you can see.

Scriptures Mentioned

• Ecclesiastes 3:1-8
• Romans 8:28
• Job 42:10
• Philippians 1:21
• Psalm 46:10

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Learn more about Moriah Hagel:
🌐 https://hagelbooks.com

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Overcoming Negative Self-Talk: How to Renew Your Mind with God's Truth

Do you ever find yourself saying things to yourself that you would never say to someone else?

Many Christian women struggle with negative self-talk, negative thoughts, and negative thought patterns that keep them trapped in guilt, fear, shame, anxiety, and self-criticism. But God's Word offers hope. By renewing your mind with biblical truth, you can take every thought captive and replace the lies of the enemy with the truth of who God says you are.

In this episode of HER Podcast, Pat Domangue is joined by licensed professional counselor and marriage and family therapist Taylor Draughn and Holy Yoga instructor Jamie Burgess for an honest conversation about overcoming negative self-talk through the power of God's Word.

Together they discuss:

• Why negative self-talk is so common among Christian women
• How negative thoughts shape your identity and thought life
• The connection between trauma, anxiety, people-pleasing, and negative thinking
• What it means to renew your mind and take every thought captive
• Practical steps to replace lies with biblical truth
• How God's love, God's goodness, and your identity in Christ transform the way you think

Scriptures discussed include Romans 12:2, 2 Corinthians 10:3–5, Ephesians 1, Ephesians 6, Hosea 6:6, and more.

If you've been battling negative thoughts or negative self-talk, this episode will encourage you to renew your mind, stand firm in spiritual warfare, and discover the freedom that comes from believing God's truth instead of the enemy's lies.

Connect with Today's Guests

Taylor Draughn, LPC, LMFT
Taylor is a licensed professional counselor and licensed marriage and family therapist who helps individuals and families find healing and hope through compassionate, Christ-centered counseling.

Website: https://taylordraughncounseling.com
Facebook: Taylor Draughn Counseling
Instagram: @taylordraughncounseling

Jamie Burgess
Jamie is a Holy Yoga instructor passionate about helping women grow stronger physically, emotionally, and spiritually while pointing them to Jesus.

Website: https://geauxholyyoga.com
Facebook: Geaux Holy Yoga
Instagram: @geauxholyyoga
TikTok: @geauxholyyoga

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Can women serve in leadership in the church? In this episode of HER Podcast, host Pat Domangue talks with Bible scholar and retired hermeneutics professor Dr. Bob Utley about what Scripture actually says on women in ministry and church leadership.

Drawing from decades of biblical study, pastoral ministry, and contextual interpretation of Scripture, Dr. Utley addresses difficult passages such as 1 Corinthians 14, 1 Timothy 2, Ephesians 5, Romans 16, and the examples of Phoebe, Junia, Deborah, Miriam, and other women God used throughout Scripture.

Pat also shares her personal journey of being called into ministry, earning seminary degrees while raising three daughters, and navigating the challenges many women face while trying to faithfully obey God's calling.

Whether you are a woman called by God, a ministry leader, a pastor, or someone seeking to understand what the Bible says about women in church leadership, this conversation will encourage you to think deeply, study Scripture carefully, and follow God's leading with humility.

In This Episode We Discuss Questions Like:

✔ Can women serve in leadership in the church?

✔ What does the Bible say about women in ministry?

✔ Can women teach the Bible and serve in church leadership?

✔ What does "women keep silent" really mean in 1 Corinthians 14?

✔ How do we know when a biblical command is cultural or universal?

✔ How should Christians interpret difficult passages such as 1 Corinthians 14, 1 Timothy 2, and Ephesians 5?

✔ What do Phoebe, Junia, Deborah, Miriam, and other women in Scripture teach us about leadership and ministry?

✔ Were there women deacons in the early church?

✔ What is hermeneutics and why does it matter when studying controversial topics?

✔ How can church tradition and denominational perspectives influence biblical interpretation?

✔ What encouragement does Dr. Bob Utley offer to women seeking to faithfully follow God's calling?

Resources Mentioned in This Episode

Dr. Bob Utley

· About Dr. Bob Utley

· Free Bible Commentary Website

Special Topics on Women in Ministry and Church Leadership

• Women in the Bible
• Women in Ministry
• Women Keep Silent
• Women Ministers

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What happens when God calls you out of your comfortable, normal life and into something that feels uncertain or risky?

In this episode of HER Podcast, Pat Domangue talks with Jessica DeYoung, Christian speaker, author, founder of Made Whole, and host of Perspectives into Practice. Jessica shares how God called her and her family into a life of radical obedience, including selling their home, traveling full-time, and learning to minister wherever God leads.

Together, Pat and Jessica discuss obedience, surrender, identity in Christ, wilderness seasons, trusting God when life feels uncertain, and finding peace when striving stops.

If you have ever wrestled with fear, uncertainty, surrender, or stepping outside your comfort zone to follow God, this conversation will encourage you to trust Him one step at a time.

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What do you do when life feels completely out of your control?

In this episode of HER Podcast, Pat sits down with Jody Hudson to talk about trusting God in the middle of suffering, grief, and the moments you can’t fix—especially when it comes to your children.

Jody shares her powerful story of faith through her daughter’s battle with chronic illness and the presence of God in life’s hardest seasons.

If you’re feeling overwhelmed, uncertain, or struggling to let go of control, this conversation will meet you right where you are.

In this episode, we talk about:

• Trusting God when life feels out of control
• Letting go of control as a mother
• Walking through grief and suffering
• God’s presence in difficult seasons
• Finding peace through Scripture
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✝️ Scriptures Mentioned:

Exodus 33:15
Isaiah 41:10
Isaiah 26:3

Connect with Jody:

• Jody's book: My Promise to Alex: Through Pain Comes Purpose
• Jody's website: https://www.alexhudsonlymefoundation.org

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Can God speak to His people through dreams today?

In this episode of HER Podcast, Pat Domangue and Margaux Nelson discuss biblical dream interpretation and discerning God’s voice through dreams while remaining grounded in the truth of Scripture.

Many Christians feel uncertain about dreams because of concerns that dream interpretation is connected to New Age practices in today’s culture. Yet throughout the Bible, God spoke to His people through dreams—using them to guide, warn, prepare, and encourage. From Joseph in Genesis to Daniel and even the dreams surrounding the birth of Jesus, dream interpretation in the Bible reveals how God has used dreams to communicate His purposes to His people.

So how can believers remain spiritually sensitive while also practicing biblical discernment?

In this conversation, Pat and Margaux explore what Scripture says about dreams, how the Holy Spirit speaks to believers today, and how to test what we hear so that we remain firmly rooted in God’s Word.

In this episode, you’ll discover:

• What the Bible says about dream interpretation
• How to discern whether a dream may be from God
• Guardrails for avoiding deception while remaining open to the Holy Spirit
• The importance of balancing Spirit and truth in the Christian life
• Why God sometimes speaks through dreams and prophetic impressions
• Practical steps for paying attention to what God may be saying

If you’ve ever wondered whether God might be speaking to you through dreams, this conversation will encourage you to seek Him with both faith and biblical wisdom.

Connect with Margaux Nelson

Podcast: Breathing Underwater
Website: https://www.permissiontoreign.com
Email: margaux@permissiontoreign.com

Connect with Pat Domangue

Founder of On Fire Ministries
Bible teacher and author of My Maker & Me

Free Bible study resources:
https://www.onfire-ministries.org/free-bible-resources

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