Guest: Sheila Stephens, PA – Physician Assistant, Board-Certified Health & Wellness Coach, and Founder of Recenter Anywhere

In this episode, Melissa sits down with Sheila Stephens, a physician assistant turned breathwork and wellness coach, to explore how simple, accessible breathing and mindfulness practices can help you stay grounded—especially during emotionally charged life transitions like divorce.

Melissa and Sheila met at a women’s wellness event in Orange County and instantly connected over their shared belief that healing tools should be practical, affordable, and available to real people in real life. Sheila now offers personalized, one-on-one virtual breathwork sessions, creating custom recordings clients can use anytime they need to recenter.

Together, they dive into:

• What “breathwork” actually means—and why it’s more than just deep breathing

• How breathwork and meditation work together to calm the nervous system

• Why so many of us discover these tools during moments of crisis

• The difference between calming vs. activating breath techniques

• Simple practices you can use anywhere—at your desk, in your car, or even in a convention center

• How these tools help you respond instead of react during conflict

• Why meditation isn’t about stopping your thoughts (and never was)

• How consistent practice creates space between triggers and reactions

• Using breath and mindfulness to reconnect with intuition during big life decisions

• Letting go of perfection and embracing “healthy-ish” habits that actually stick

This conversation is especially powerful for anyone navigating divorce, grief, anxiety, or overwhelm. Sheila explains how breathwork can help you come back into your body, quiet the mental noise, and find safety within yourself—no matter what’s happening around you.

Melissa also shares her own experience using breathwork in high-stress environments, from law school to the bar exam, and how these practices support emotional regulation during divorce.

“Letting go is like the sudden cessation of an inner pressure or the dropping of a weight. It is accompanied by a sudden feeling of relief and lightness, with increased happiness and freedom.”

Sheila Stephens is a Physician Assistant and Board-Certified Health & Wellness Coach. Through her business, Recenter Anywhere, she helps overthinkers who feel drained, anxious, or stuck find clarity, momentum, and sustainable “healthy-ish” habits—without rigid rules or one-size-fits-all solutions. Her signature one-on-one sessions provide customized breathwork and meditation recordings clients can use anytime they need to reset.

• Website: recenteranywhere.com

• Instagram: @recenter_anywhere

• Podcast Instagram: @highvibedivorce

• Melissa / High Vibe Mediation Instagram: @highvibemediation

• Website: highvibemediation.com

If you’re in the midst of divorce or feeling overwhelmed by life’s transitions, this episode offers gentle, practical tools to help you breathe, pause, and come back to yourself—anytime, anywhere.

Spiritual Insights for Your Divorce Journey with Alexandra Shelly, The Modern Medium

In this deeply soulful and expansive conversation, Melissa is joined by psychic medium and spiritual guide Alexandra Shelly, host of Embody Your Soul and known online as The Modern Medium. Together, they explore how divorce—like death, illness, and other major life transitions—can become a powerful gateway to awakening, alignment, and transformation.

Alexandra demystifies intuition, spirit guides, and “the Clairs,” offering grounded, accessible ways to understand spiritual connection without bypassing the human experience. This episode invites listeners to see divorce not only as an ending, but as an initiation—an opportunity to reconnect with your authentic self, your higher wisdom, and the unseen support that surrounds you.

Whether you’re brand new to spirituality or already walking a conscious path, this episode is a gentle reminder that you are never alone—and that magic is always available if you’re willing to notice it.

• Why divorce, grief, and “dark” seasons often catalyze the greatest spiritual growth

• How Alexandra defines intuition as your most authentic self

• The difference between asking for “signs” and learning to trust your inner knowing

• An introduction to the Clairs (claircognizance, clairvoyance, clairsentience, clairaudience, and more)

• How to begin connecting with your spirit team—even if you’re brand new

• Why intention is the doorway to spiritual connection

• How signs can show up in everyday life (feathers, numbers, songs, synchronicities)

• The power of choosing to see life as magical

• Why grounding, embodiment, and presence are essential during emotional upheaval

• How spirituality can restore trust in yourself during divorce

• Intuition is your North Star. It’s not mystical or elite—it’s your truest self guiding you home.

• Spirit doesn’t take away your autonomy. Your guides illuminate; you steer the ship.

• You don’t need to be “woo” to be connected. Spirituality can be simple, embodied, and human.

• Divorce is an initiation. It’s ego death—and rebirth.

• You are never alone. Support exists beyond what you can see.

• You get to choose magic. You can live as if everything is a miracle.

• Trust builds confidence. Every time you honor a sign, you strengthen your inner knowing.

“You can live as if nothing is a miracle, or you can live as if everything is a miracle.”

Divorce can feel isolating, destabilizing, and overwhelming. But what if it’s also an invitation—to trust yourself, to reconnect with something greater, and to remember who you really are?

Alexandra Shelly is a psychic medium, Reiki practitioner, death doula, tarot reader, and host of the Embody Your Soul podcast. Known as The Modern Medium, Alexandra helps people connect with their spirit team, intuition, and higher self in grounded, empowering ways.

She offers:

• Psychic mediumship sessions

• Remote and in-person Reiki

• Death doula services

• Tarot readings

• Spiritual mentorship

Alexandra is based in Orange County, California and works with clients worldwide.

Find Alexandra:

• Instagram: @themodernmedium_

• Podcast: Embody Your Soul

• Website: themodernmedium.com

• Also on TikTok & Threads

• 🌐 Website: highvibemediation.com

• 📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/highvibedivorce/

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Until next time, Keep the vibes high and the conflict low.

Episode 45 – Attorney Kimberly Keen on Balancing Litigation and Amicable Resolutions in Divorce Guest: Kimberly Keen, Divorce Attorney (San Diego, CA)

In this episode of High Vibe Divorce, Melissa sits down with Southern California divorce attorney Kimberly Keen for a refreshingly honest and grounded conversation about what it really means to practice family law with integrity.

Kim shares her practical, big-picture approach to divorce—one that prioritizes long-term outcomes, emotional wellbeing, and healthy co-parenting over courtroom theatrics. Together, Melissa and Kim explore:

• When litigation is actually necessary

• How court filings can be used strategically without escalating conflict

• Why settlement is almost always the endgame

• The value of mediation paired with consulting attorneys

• How to choose the right divorce attorney

• Red flags to watch for when hiring counsel

• The importance of mental health, support, and joy during divorce

This episode is a must-listen for anyone navigating divorce who wants clarity, empowerment, and a more peaceful path forward.

• Family law isn’t a zero-sum game. Winning a hearing can still cost you years of co-parenting harmony.

• Litigation isn’t the enemy. It can be a strategic tool—used to preserve rights, create leverage, and protect your future.

• Most cases settle. Whether through mediation or negotiation, resolution is usually the destination.

• Mediation works best with support. Having a consulting attorney alongside a skilled mediator leads to stronger, more enforceable agreements.

• Choose an attorney with integrity. Beware of guarantees and “we’ll fight for everything” promises—they often create unrealistic expectations.

• Personality fit matters. You need an attorney you trust to tell you the truth, even when it’s hard.

• Divorce is emotional. Therapy, support systems, nature, and moments of joy are not luxuries—they’re essential.

• You deserve honesty. A great attorney will help you understand risks, not just sell you hope.

• Get support—therapy or a trusted person to talk to

• Spend time in nature

• Try meditation or yoga

• Let yourself have fun

• Make room for joy, even in the middle of hard things

Divorce is stressful, but life doesn’t stop. You’re allowed to laugh, rest, and feel good again.

Kimberly Keen is a divorce attorney based in San Diego, California, known for her practical, empathetic, and settlement-minded approach to family law. She serves clients throughout Southern California, including San Diego, Orange County, Riverside, and San Bernardino.

• TikTok: @kimkdivorcelawyer

• Website: enrightlawapc.com

Melissa Wheeler Farag is a family law mediator and recovering divorce litigator, guiding people through divorce with clarity, compassion, and a belief that this transition can be transformative.

• Website: highvibemediation.com

• Instagram: @HighVibeDivorce and @HighVibeMediation

If this episode resonated with you, please subscribe, leave a review, and share it with someone who might need it. Divorce can be isolating—let’s keep the conversation going.

Until next time: Keep the vibes high and the conflict low. 💛

with Andrew Hatherley, CDFA

Divorce later in life comes with unique financial, emotional, and psychological challenges—and in this episode, we unpack all of them with clarity, compassion, and wisdom.

Melissa is joined by Andrew Hatherley, Certified Divorce Financial Analyst (CDFA), financial advisor, author, and host of the Gray Divorce Podcast. Together, they explore how gray divorce (typically age 50+) requires a more intentional, educated, and team-based approach—especially when retirement, Social Security, healthcare, and long-term financial security are on the line.

Andrew brings both professional expertise and lived experience, having gone through his own gray divorce at age 52. This conversation blends practical financial strategy with emotional resilience, mindfulness, and purpose-driven rebuilding, making it a must-listen for anyone navigating divorce later in life—or supporting someone who is.

• What qualifies as gray divorce and why divorce rates are rising fastest among adults 65+

• Why financial decisions in later-life divorce carry greater long-term impact

• The importance of working with a CDFA alongside a mediator, attorney, and therapist

• How fear (not fairness) often drives poor divorce decisions—and how to interrupt it

• Why older divorcees must understand:

  • Retirement accounts & tax implications

  • Spousal support sustainability

  • Social Security timing

  • Medicare and health insurance planning

• The critical role of budgeting and net-worth tracking after divorce

• Why “your brother-in-law or girlfriends” are not your financial advisors 😉

• How mediation and amicable divorce models reduce fear, cost, and emotional damage

• Why contentment—not constant happiness—is the real post-divorce goal

• Andrew’s personal post-divorce practices:

  • Meditation and mindfulness

  • Physical health and movement

  • Nature, fasting, and sleep hygiene

  • Public speaking and confidence-building through Toastmasters

• How being a helper—and getting out of your own head—can be deeply healing after divorce

• Why a team-based divorce approach is often less expensive than litigation alone

• Gray divorce requires education, intention, and professional support

• Financial clarity creates emotional stability

• Fear thrives in isolation—community and guidance dissolve it

• You can rebuild financially, emotionally, and spiritually at any age

• Divorce can be a powerful catalyst for growth, service, and purpose

Andrew Hatherley is a Certified Divorce Financial Analyst®, financial advisor, author, and the host of the Gray Divorce Podcast. He specializes in helping individuals and couples navigate the financial complexities of divorce later in life, with a focus on long-term security, education, and peace of mind.

Andrew is also a member of the Amicable Divorce Network, a vetted group of settlement-minded professionals committed to reducing conflict and cost in divorce.

• 🌐 Websites:

  • https://wiserdivorcesolutions.com

• 🎧 Podcast:

  • The Gray Divorce Podcast (available on all major platforms)

• 📘 Free Resource:

  • Reach out to Andrew at andrew@wiserdivorcesolutions.com to receive his 12-page white paper on the finances of gray divorce

• 📖 Book Contribution:

  • Divorce Amicably (published by the Amicable Divorce Network)

Melissa Wheeler-Farag is a family law mediator, attorney, and the host of the High Vibe Divorce Podcast. Through mediation, education, and conscious conversation, she helps clients move through divorce with clarity, empowerment, and intention—believing that divorce is not a failure, but an opportunity for transformation.

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Divorce can feel isolating—but it doesn’t have to be. Keep the vibes high and the conflict low.

with Meagan Norris

Divorce doesn’t have to be something you merely survive—it can be the most powerful initiation of your life.

In this expansive and deeply honest conversation, Melissa sits down with former attorney turned wealth, power, and divorce mentor Meagan Norris to explore how divorce can become a strategic power move rather than a breaking point. Together, they dive into emotional mastery, money mindset, authenticity, and the spiritual dimensions of transformation—without bypassing the very real grief and complexity of divorce.

This episode is for anyone who wants to move through divorce with sovereignty, clarity, and self-trust—while building a life that feels aligned, abundant, and true.

• Why divorce can be a vehicle for transformation, not failure

• How to alchemize grief, anger, and fear into emotional power

• The role of authenticity (not positivity) in true healing

• Why suppressing emotions prolongs conflict—legally and energetically

• How mindset and expectations can escalate or de-escalate divorce conflict

• What “sacred selfishness” really means during divorce and parenting

• Quantum leaping, emotional resilience, and collapsing old timelines

• Why women are conditioned to fear money—and why that must change

• Financial sovereignty as a core pillar of post-divorce empowerment

• Letting the old life fall away so something better can emerge

Divorce as Initiation Divorce often brings ego death—and that’s not a failure. It’s the gateway to profound self-knowledge, emotional maturity, and alignment.

Feel to Heal High-vibe doesn’t mean bypassing pain. Feeling grief, anger, and despair—without reactivity—is where real power lives.

Authenticity Is the Highest Vibration You don’t need to “feel good” to heal. You need to feel honest. Authentic emotion is more transformative than forced positivity.

Money Is Neutral—and Powerful Money amplifies who you already are. Financial sovereignty allows women to parent from stability, choice, and abundance—not fear.

Your New Life Will Cost You Your Old One Transformation requires letting go. Divorce asks us to release outdated identities, roles, and beliefs to make room for something new.

• The work and meditations of Joe Dispenza

• The Emotional Guidance Scale and teachings of Abraham Hicks

• Conversations around wealth, philanthropy, and feminine power inspired by figures like Melinda Gates

“The worse it feels, the more okay you’re going to be. This is the process of turning stone into a diamond.”

• 🌐 Website: https://megannorris.com

• 📸 Instagram: @megannorriscoaching

• 🎵 TikTok: @divorcedrichwomen

Melissa Wheeler Farag is a family law mediator, recovering divorce litigator, and host of the High Vibe Divorce Podcast. She believes divorce isn’t a failure—it’s an opportunity for conscious transformation when supported with the right tools, mindset, and guidance.

• 🌐 Website: https://highvibemediation.com

• 📸 Instagram: Links for High Vibe Mediation & High Vibe Divorce are in the show notes

If this episode resonated with you, please subscribe, leave a review, and share it with someone who might need support right now. Divorce can feel isolating—but conversations like this remind us we’re not alone.

✨ Until next time: keep the vibes high and the conflict low. ✨