It's mailbag (malebag?) time! Sam and Grayson open up listener email. Topics include sexy underwear for guys, BateWorld as a good place for bi exploration, how to find a third for an MMF threesome, and bisexual vs. pansexual: which term should you use?

Disclaimer: The hosts aren't medical or mental-health professionals. Nothing here is medical, legal, or psychological advice — speak with a qualified provider about your own health and relationships.

Word of the Week: Edging
Bringing yourself (or a partner) right up to the point of orgasm, then backing off before going over, and repeating to build and prolong the pleasure. It has nothing to do with lawn care or brownie pans.

Glossary

• Gooning: Extended, often porn-fueled edging sessions, sometimes performed on camera. Not the hosts' thing.
• Third: A person invited to join an established couple for a threesome.
• MMF: A threesome with two men and one woman.
• The lifestyle: The swinger community and its apps, sites, and events.
• Pansexual: Attraction regardless of gender. Its flag is pink, yellow, and blue.

Apps and sites mentioned

• BateWorld: Online masturbation community for gay, bi, and straight men
• Feeld: Dating app for couples, singles, and non-monogamous connections
• SLS (SwingLifestyle) and SDC: Swinger sites; which one is busier varies by region
• Doublelist: Personal ads site
• Adult FriendFinder and Tinder: Where some couples also look for thirds

Next episode: Sam and Grayson pick their favorite bisexual characters in media.

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