In my book Healing From Within, I explain how trauma does not live only in memory. It lives in the nervous system.

Rushing, over-explaining, hyper-fixing—these are all survival habits, not evidence of failure.

In Silent Screams, Loud Strength, I share stories of survivors who felt “behind” in healing—who believed something was wrong with them—when actually their bodies were simply alert and protecting them.

Even after immediate danger passes, the body remembers.

In Homeless, Not Defeated, I describe navigating life where every choice could matter for survival. Urgency became second nature. But the harder truth is that the habit of rushing can outlast the danger.

And in The Little Voice That Roared, I talk about the child inside you. She doesn’t need immediate answers or solutions. She needs presence, space, and validation.

Slowing down is how we rewire our system—teaching mind and body that pause is safe, that stillness is not weakness, and that we can respond rather than react.