Pull up a chair — the your family system is on the table.
In this episode of Kitchen Table Sauce, I sit down with Paloma Vieira for a deep, intimate conversation about Systemic Constellation and how she uses it to reveal the invisible dynamics quietly shaping our lives, relationships, and sense of self. We talk about what happens when you stop trying to fix yourself and instead start looking at the systems (family, work, friendships) you were shaped inside of.
Paloma shares how constellation work reveals hidden loyalties, inherited burdens, and unspoken roles — and how right-sizing yourself inside your family system can radically change how you move through the world. We get into the discomfort of letting go of over-functioning, the grief of not being “the capable one,” and the strange relief that comes when you finally stop forcing everything.
Themes from the episode:
🌶️ What Family Constellation actually is (and why it’s not as woo-woo as it sounds — though we’re not scared of the woo).
🌶️ Invisible family dynamics, inherited roles, and why so many women are exhausted from carrying emotional weight that isn’t theirs.
🌶️ Right-sizing yourself inside a system — how stepping out of parentification, over-responsibility, and unconscious loyalty creates real freedom.
🌶️ Why “everyone belongs” (even the people you’ve exiled) — and how inclusion doesn’t mean reconciliation or access.
🌶️ The very real, very human discomfort of choosing new patterns and surviving the moment when someone else gets the recognition.
🌶️ How systems — families, workplaces, cultures — respond when you stop over-giving and start taking up your rightful place.
This is a conversation about capacity, grief, tenderness, power, and choice. About learning to sit in the middle of your own life — not at the edge of someone else’s.
If you’ve ever felt tired of being “the strong one,” confused about why the same dynamics keep repeating, or curious about how much of your life might be shaped by forces you never consciously agreed to — this episode will feel like someone finally telling the truth at the kitchen table.
Stay. Listen slow. Let it land.
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