Episodes

  • What We Saw Backstage at a Megachurch

    What We Saw Backstage at a Megachurch
    Oct 15 2026
    We volunteered at a three day conference at a massive Los Angeles church, working behind the scenes, seating celebrity pastors. We won’t name it. We heard staff yelling at each other through our earpieces during a worship conference. Alexa, eight months pregnant, was sent to move a small church that had shown up on time out of their seats so a bigger church that was late could have them. Carlos offered to walk a well known pastor to her seat and she told him she could read. Over three days, one pastor acknowledged that we were human beings. This is about why we stayed. How to tell the difference between a church that is actually broken and your own hurt looking for somewhere to land. The night Carlos decided he was done with the church we’re at now, and what changed his mind. And the churches that formed us, including one on Maui that fits inside a pickup truck. If someone in a church hurt you, we’re not going to tell you that you caused it. Real abuse is a separate conversation and this isn’t it. But if you gave up on church because of people, come sit with this one. Episodes every Tuesday and Thursday. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    51 mins
  • My Heart Knows You’re Safe. My Body Doesn’t.

    My Heart Knows You’re Safe. My Body Doesn’t.
    Oct 13 2026
    No guest this week. Just us, answering what came in. Alexa talks about the hardest season of our marriage, the year she spent praying over it, and how long it took before she saw anything change. Then she explains something neither of us had ever said out loud: that after a fight her heart and her mind know Carlos is safe, but her body puts a wall up and has to learn to trust him again. We get into why one of us wants to talk it out tonight and the other needs space first. We disagree, on the record, about posting our kids. We agree completely about phones, which is that ours aren’t getting one before 18. Carlos talks about the job he turned down, and whether money changes a person or just reveals them. The last question was what opinion might lose us followers. Alexa answers it. She’s pro-life, and she’s clear that she doesn’t mean pro-birth. She means pro-baby, pro-mama, and taking care of that mama after the baby comes. She also tells the story of a girl who called her, and what came of it. Episodes every Tuesday and Thursday. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    1 hr and 6 mins
  • Gustavo Tells All: The Red Lobster Bonus, Robbing the Set & 8.8 Billion Plays (Ft. Stephen Kramer Glickman)

    Gustavo Tells All: The Red Lobster Bonus, Robbing the Set & 8.8 Billion Plays (Ft. Stephen Kramer Glickman)
    Oct 8 2026
    Stephen Kramer Glickman played Gustavo Rocque on Big Time Rush. During the pandemic he put a cover of "Crazy" on TikTok, it did 8.8 billion plays, it charted on Billboard above Kendrick Lamar, and almost nobody realized it was him. That's how he ended up on the reunion tour, after a phone call that came through while he was sitting in synagogue with his mom. Carlos has known Stephen longer than he's known Alexa, so nothing in this one is off limits. He crashed a Big Time Rush mall show in full Gustavo costume and got pulled out by security. Fans left CDs on his car because they thought he was a real record producer. At the end of season three he rented a truck, backed it onto the soundstage, and took home everything he could fit, and then the show got picked up for a fourth season and somebody asked for it all back. On the final season, everybody got a raise. Stephen got a few hundred dollars. An executive promised him a real check on the last shooting day. What he actually got was an envelope with a $250 gift card to Red Lobster in it. Carlos has the matching story, which involves Louis Vuitton belts and a beach in New Jersey. Also: the book about the show he wants somebody to let him write, why he will never pay for a sandwich at the Jersey Mike's in LAX, the audition that ended his Broadway dream, the first Gustavo who got replaced days before filming started, and the CIA gift shop. Plus the new record deal, and the My Chemical Romance duet he somehow got Adam Pascal to sing on. Stephen's new single, a full-band rock cover of "Driver's License" with Edwin McCain, is out now: https://stephenglickman.lnk.to/driverslicense Episodes every Tuesday and Thursday. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    1 hr and 13 mins
  • Saver vs. Giver: What Money Does to a Marriage (Ft. Colby Gilmore)

    Saver vs. Giver: What Money Does to a Marriage (Ft. Colby Gilmore)
    Oct 6 2026
    Disclaimer: This conversation is for general information and encouragement only. It is not financial, investment, tax, or legal advice, and nothing in it is a recommendation to buy, sell, or hold anything. Colby's comments reflect his own views, not advice for your situation. Talk to a licensed professional who knows your actual circumstances before you make any money decision. One of us saves. One of us gives it all away. Thirteen years of marriage and we are still negotiating it. Colby Gilmore is a wealth manager who works mostly with athletes and entertainers, and who emailed Carlos every month for eight months before we finally agreed to meet. He showed up and led with Jesus and family before he said a word about taxes, and that is pretty much how this conversation goes. Alexa tells the story of asking her mom, at seven or eight years old, how much she was making from a movie. Carlos admits that things, not money, were the idol. We have a real disagreement about debt that nobody in the room wins. Colby does the math on what a tithe actually came to in the Old Testament, which is a bigger number than you think, and then argues the ten percent is the wrong thing to be arguing about anyway. Plus the accounting partner who died a month after he retired, why Colby thinks retirement is made up, and the family he told to turn down millions of dollars. Episodes every Tuesday and Thursday. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    1 hr and 34 mins
  • Lex & Los: Do Your Kids Respect You or Fear You?

    Lex & Los: Do Your Kids Respect You or Fear You?
    Oct 1 2026
    Neither of us parents that way now, and we're still figuring out what to do instead. Four kids in, we talk about how we were raised, the things we swore we'd never repeat and caught ourselves repeating anyway, giving our kids a real seat at the table, what we're feeding them, and the hardest two words in parenting. Plus the line that reframed it for us: there's a difference between a kid who's scared of you and a kid who doesn't want to let you down. Not a how-to. Just what we're trying. Watch on YouTube: https://youtube.com/@LexLos lexlos.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    1 hr and 13 mins
  • Brian Pruett: Stop Trying to Be Liked

    Brian Pruett: Stop Trying to Be Liked
    Sep 29 2026
    Brian Pruett has spent his life in fitness, and he'll be the first to tell you it's temporary. Futile, even. It just opens doors. The former ballplayer and coach talks about what baseball taught him about chasing approval, how his wife Gigi found him because of the fame he was embarrassed by, and why broken isn't an identity. Then our producer Derek drops a reframe near the end that none of us have shaken since: stop trying to be liked, start trying to make people feel loved. Watch on YouTube: https://youtube.com/@LexLos lexlos.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    1 hr and 17 mins
  • Why We Called It Joy Isn't Cancelled

    Why We Called It Joy Isn't Cancelled
    Sep 24 2026
    A bonus episode. We went live on Talk Shop Live to talk about our new book, Joy Isn't Canceled, and sign pre-order copies. Why we wrote it, why that title, and what it actually means to say joy isn't canceled when you're in the middle of something you'd never have chosen. Signed pre-orders and release details at lexlos.com. Joy Isn't Canceled is out November 3. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    54 mins
  • I Didn't Cheat. He Thought I Did Anyway

    I Didn't Cheat. He Thought I Did Anyway
    Sep 24 2026
    She didn't cheat. But for a few days on tour, Los was convinced he'd lost her. We talk about what Hollywood does to a marriage: months apart, kissing scenes, and a job where flirting comes with the territory. The season that hurt the most, the boundaries we set afterward, and why "I'm just a flirty person" isn't a free pass. Not only an actor problem. If you work closely with anyone who isn't your spouse, this one's for you. New episodes every Tuesday and Thursday. Watch on YouTube at youtube.com/LEXLos Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    1 hr and 3 mins