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Legally Clueless

Legally Clueless

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 Legally Clueless is a weekly podcast by Kenyan media personality & social activist: Adelle Onyango!! Here, she documents her raw human journey as an evolving unapologetically African woman. The podcast is a space where people get to know just how okay it is to not know or not have it all figured out. It is also a space where Africans share stories from their lives; stories that teach, make us cry, make us laugh - real, authentic African stories. The #LegallyClueless hotline is +254768628790Copyright Legally Clueless Social Sciences
Episodes
  • When Shame Turns Life Into a Performance | For Mannerless Women

    When Shame Turns Life Into a Performance | For Mannerless Women
    Jan 22 2026
    What happens when shame quietly teaches you to perform instead of be? In this episode of For Mannerless Women, Adelle Onyango sits down with Kenyan comedian, activist, and writer Justine Wanda for a deeply honest conversation about shame, identity, adoption, grief, and unlearning survival modes. Justine shares how growing up adopted shaped her sense of belonging, why humour became a shield, and how much of her early life, from school to university, was spent performing to avoid being questioned or exposed. She reflects on the slow breaking of that performance, and the relief that came with realising that everyone is carrying their own invisible struggles. This episode explores:
    • How shame can turn your entire life into a performance
    • Using humour as protection and survival
    • Identity after adoption and loss
    • Navigating grief, belonging, and chosen family
    • Letting go of who you had to be to survive
    • Learning to be seen without performing
    This is a conversation for women who have ever felt like they had to be funny, fine, or palatable to be accepted, and for anyone learning how to extend grace to themselves while becoming. If this episode resonates, share it with a mannerless woman who needs the reminder that her truth doesn’t need to be edited to be worthy.

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    1 hr and 7 mins
  • The Loneliness After Boundaries | Mid Week Tease

    The Loneliness After Boundaries | Mid Week Tease
    Jan 20 2026
    Setting boundaries is often framed as empowering and it is.
    But what we don’t talk about enough is what comes after.
    The quiet.
    The emotional exhaustion.
    The loneliness that settles in when you stop over-giving, over-explaining, and abandoning yourself for the comfort of others. In this Mid Week Tease episode, Adelle Onyango explores the rarely discussed emotional aftermath of boundaries, especially for women who have spent years being the strong one, the reliable one, the emotionally available one. This conversation is not about “how to set boundaries.”
    It’s about what it feels like to live with them.

    In this episode, we reflect on:
    • Why setting boundaries can feel lonely before it feels freeing
    • The emotional exhaustion that follows when your nervous system finally slows down
    • How boundaries expose relationships built on access and emotional labour
    • Grieving connections that couldn’t meet you at your new level
    • Resisting the urge to undo your growth just to avoid discomfort
    • Learning to sit with space long enough for healthier connections to form
    This episode is for anyone who set boundaries and wondered:
    “Why do I feel so tired?”
    “Why does it feel so quiet?”
    “Did I do something wrong?” You didn’t. You’re in transition.

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    16 mins
  • Why I Chose to Be Childfree as a Kenyan Man PART 1 | Legally Clueless Ep 361

    Why I Chose to Be Childfree as a Kenyan Man PART 1 | Legally Clueless Ep 361
    Jan 18 2026
    In Episode 361 of the Legally Clueless Podcast, we share Part 1 of William Genga’s story, a Kenyan man who made the decision to be childfree at a very young age and spent years defending that choice in a society that insists everyone must eventually become a parent. Born and raised in Kericho, William reflects on growing up parentified as the firstborn, constantly caring for younger relatives, and how those early experiences shaped his relationship with responsibility, autonomy, and choice. In this deeply honest episode, William opens up about:
    • Why he decided he never wanted children, as early as primary school
    • Being repeatedly told he was “too young” to know what he wanted
    • Navigating sexual relationships while being firmly childfree
    • Pregnancy scares and the emotional weight of reproductive responsibility
    • The double standards around family planning for men versus women
    • Doctors refusing to take his decision seriously
    • How regret, accountability, and bodily autonomy intersect
    This episode explores childfree living in Kenya, reproductive choice, male responsibility, and the often unspoken emotional labour that comes with navigating intimacy when your life choices go against the norm. This is Part 1 of William’s story. In Part 2, he goes deeper into the consequences of these choices, family reactions, and the turning point that changed everything.

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    33 mins
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