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  • Why I Chose to Be Childfree as a Kenyan Man PART 2 | Legally Clueless Ep 362

    Why I Chose to Be Childfree as a Kenyan Man PART 2 | Legally Clueless Ep 362
    Jan 25 2026
    In Episode 362 of the Legally Clueless Podcast, we share Part 2 of William Genga’s story, a Kenyan man who chose to be childfree and eventually underwent a vasectomy at 27, after years of being dismissed, questioned, and denied autonomy over his own body. In Part 1, William spoke about realising early in life that he did not want children, being parentified as a firstborn, navigating pregnancy scares, and the emotional toll of reproductive responsibility.
    In this episode, he takes us deeper, into what happened after he finally acted on that decision.
    William opens up about:
    • Finally accessing a vasectomy after years of refusal
    • The physical procedure and recovery including complications
    • The emotional weight of secrecy, judgement, and silence
    • His mother’s reaction and the grief that comes with unmet expectations
    • The relief of bodily autonomy and living without fear of unintended parenthood
    • Workplace discrimination against childfree people
    • Why he chooses not to disclose his vasectomy publicly
    • Finding community with other childfree Kenyans
    • Challenging the idea that marriage and children are the only paths to fulfillment
    This episode explores vasectomy in Kenya, childfree living, bodily autonomy, male accountability, reproductive choice, and the quiet courage it takes to live outside society’s script. This conversation is not about convincing anyone to be childfree, it’s about respecting choice, asking harder questions, and understanding that raising a child is a lifelong responsibility that should never be entered into by default.

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    37 mins
  • How Kenya’s Constitution Became A Tool for Women’s Power | Difference She Makes

    How Kenya’s Constitution Became A Tool for Women’s Power | Difference She Makes
    Jan 24 2026
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    Kenya’s 2010 Constitution is often praised as one of the most progressive in the world, but a constitution alone does not create justice. People do.

    In this opening episode of Difference She Makes, host Adelle Onyango sits down with Anne Ireri, Executive Director of FIDA Kenya, to explore how women helped shape Kenya’s constitutional journey and the everyday work required to protect those gains.

    Anne reflects on her full-circle journey from intern to leader, the behind-the-scenes resistance women faced during constitutional reform, and why vigilance is essential to prevent gender equality from being watered down by culture, politics, or complacency.

    This conversation goes beyond legal theory to ask a deeper question:
    What does it really take to turn “We the People” into lived reality especially for women and girls?

    In this episode, we explore:
    • What a constitution actually is and why ownership matters
    • How Kenyan women influenced the 2010 Constitution from the inside
    • Why constitutions are not self-executing, people breathe life into them
    • The tension between culture, tradition, and constitutional equality
    • Women’s rights as family rights and societal rights
    • What African countries can learn from Kenya’s constitutional journey

    Join the conversation:
    What’s one lesson from Kenya’s constitutional journey that you could apply in your organisation, advocacy work, or community? Drop your thoughts in the comments.
    Difference She Makes is a six-part docuseries examining how African women are transforming justice systems, institutions, and leadership across the continent not just on paper, but in everyday life.

    Don’t forget to subscribe so you don’t miss the next episode, where we travel to South Africa to examine what happens when equality leaves the constitution and enters the workplace through policy.
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    38 mins
  • When Shame Turns Life Into a Performance | For Mannerless Women

    When Shame Turns Life Into a Performance | For Mannerless Women
    Jan 22 2026
    What happens when shame quietly teaches you to perform instead of be? In this episode of For Mannerless Women, Adelle Onyango sits down with Kenyan comedian, activist, and writer Justine Wanda for a deeply honest conversation about shame, identity, adoption, grief, and unlearning survival modes. Justine shares how growing up adopted shaped her sense of belonging, why humour became a shield, and how much of her early life, from school to university, was spent performing to avoid being questioned or exposed. She reflects on the slow breaking of that performance, and the relief that came with realising that everyone is carrying their own invisible struggles. This episode explores:
    • How shame can turn your entire life into a performance
    • Using humour as protection and survival
    • Identity after adoption and loss
    • Navigating grief, belonging, and chosen family
    • Letting go of who you had to be to survive
    • Learning to be seen without performing
    This is a conversation for women who have ever felt like they had to be funny, fine, or palatable to be accepted, and for anyone learning how to extend grace to themselves while becoming. If this episode resonates, share it with a mannerless woman who needs the reminder that her truth doesn’t need to be edited to be worthy.

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    1 hr and 7 mins
  • The Loneliness After Boundaries | Mid Week Tease

    The Loneliness After Boundaries | Mid Week Tease
    Jan 20 2026
    Setting boundaries is often framed as empowering and it is.
    But what we don’t talk about enough is what comes after.
    The quiet.
    The emotional exhaustion.
    The loneliness that settles in when you stop over-giving, over-explaining, and abandoning yourself for the comfort of others. In this Mid Week Tease episode, Adelle Onyango explores the rarely discussed emotional aftermath of boundaries, especially for women who have spent years being the strong one, the reliable one, the emotionally available one. This conversation is not about “how to set boundaries.”
    It’s about what it feels like to live with them.

    In this episode, we reflect on:
    • Why setting boundaries can feel lonely before it feels freeing
    • The emotional exhaustion that follows when your nervous system finally slows down
    • How boundaries expose relationships built on access and emotional labour
    • Grieving connections that couldn’t meet you at your new level
    • Resisting the urge to undo your growth just to avoid discomfort
    • Learning to sit with space long enough for healthier connections to form
    This episode is for anyone who set boundaries and wondered:
    “Why do I feel so tired?”
    “Why does it feel so quiet?”
    “Did I do something wrong?” You didn’t. You’re in transition.

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    16 mins
  • Why I Chose to Be Childfree as a Kenyan Man PART 1 | Legally Clueless Ep 361

    Why I Chose to Be Childfree as a Kenyan Man PART 1 | Legally Clueless Ep 361
    Jan 18 2026
    In Episode 361 of the Legally Clueless Podcast, we share Part 1 of William Genga’s story, a Kenyan man who made the decision to be childfree at a very young age and spent years defending that choice in a society that insists everyone must eventually become a parent. Born and raised in Kericho, William reflects on growing up parentified as the firstborn, constantly caring for younger relatives, and how those early experiences shaped his relationship with responsibility, autonomy, and choice. In this deeply honest episode, William opens up about:
    • Why he decided he never wanted children, as early as primary school
    • Being repeatedly told he was “too young” to know what he wanted
    • Navigating sexual relationships while being firmly childfree
    • Pregnancy scares and the emotional weight of reproductive responsibility
    • The double standards around family planning for men versus women
    • Doctors refusing to take his decision seriously
    • How regret, accountability, and bodily autonomy intersect
    This episode explores childfree living in Kenya, reproductive choice, male responsibility, and the often unspoken emotional labour that comes with navigating intimacy when your life choices go against the norm. This is Part 1 of William’s story. In Part 2, he goes deeper into the consequences of these choices, family reactions, and the turning point that changed everything.

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    33 mins
  • Becoming a Shame-Free Woman: Desire, Pleasure & Personal Liberation | For Mannerless Women

    Becoming a Shame-Free Woman: Desire, Pleasure & Personal Liberation | For Mannerless Women
    Jan 15 2026
    In this episode of For Mannerless Women, Adelle Onyango sits down with writer, filmmaker, and cultural commentator Abigail Arunga for an expansive, deeply honest conversation about shame, desire, pleasure, and what it truly means to arrive as a liberated woman. Together, they explore how women are socialised to shrink themselves, emotionally, physically, sensually and what it takes to begin unlearning that conditioning. From confronting internalised shame to reclaiming pleasure, body autonomy, and self-trust, this episode invites listeners to reflect on their own relationship with desire and personal freedom. This conversation also weaves in:
    • Why pleasure is often framed as “frivolous” for women
    • How religion, culture, and colonial history shape sexual shame
    • The difference between sexuality, sensuality, and embodiment
    • Why personal liberation is inseparable from collective freedom
    • Learning to listen to your body without guilt or apology
    This episode is thoughtful, reflective, and empowering, a must-listen for women on a journey of self-knowledge, healing, and unapologetic self-expression.

    Listener discretion advised: Mature themes are discussed.

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    48 mins
  • Choosing A Life Others Didn’t Imagine For You: Being Childfree | Mid Week Tease

    Choosing A Life Others Didn’t Imagine For You: Being Childfree | Mid Week Tease
    Jan 13 2026
    What does it mean to choose a life that doesn’t come with a ready-made script? In this episode of Mid Week Tease, we sit with the quiet, complex reality of being childfree, not as a debate, not as a defence, but as a lived truth.

    Inspired by Part Two of Hekaya’s story in Episode 360 of Legally Clueless, this conversation explores what it really means to opt out of motherhood in a world that assumes it is every woman’s destiny. We talk about the grief that can coexist with certainty, the identity work that begins when womanhood is no longer anchored to caregiving, and the ways relationships shift when your life doesn’t follow the expected path. This episode is for women who:
    • Are childfree by choice and navigating misunderstanding or pressure
    • Are questioning the assumption that motherhood is inevitable
    • Have grieved imagined futures without regretting their real lives
    • Are redefining legacy, care, and belonging beyond parenting
    This is not an episode about convincing anyone. It’s an episode about witnessing and reminding you that you are not incomplete for choosing differently. In this episode, we explore:
    • Choosing to be childfree in a culture that assumes motherhood
    • Why grief doesn’t mean regret
    • Untangling womanhood from motherhood
    • The myth that childfree women live “carefree” lives
    • How friendships, dating, and family dynamics change
    • Building chosen family and alternative forms of legacy
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    16 mins
  • Family, Shame, and Becoming Yourself Part 2 | Legally Clueless Ep360

    Family, Shame, and Becoming Yourself Part 2 | Legally Clueless Ep360
    Jan 11 2026
    In Part Two of Hekaya’s story, the conversation deepens into reproductive choice, healing, and what it means to consciously choose a childfree life. Hekaya reflects on getting pregnant while in university, choosing to terminate the pregnancy, and navigating the experience largely in silence. She speaks candidly about relief, guilt, and the shame that followed and how she continued with life before she had the language or space to process what had happened.

    This episode also explores Hekaya's journey toward identifying as childfree, not as a reaction, not as fear, but as clarity. She unpacks the societal pressure placed on women to justify not wanting children, the erasure of women’s identities within motherhood, and why choosing not to have children can be a deeply intentional and loving decision. Hekaya shares how healing came later through slowing down, therapy, inner work, unlearning religious conditioning, reconnecting with her body, and finding community that allowed her to feel seen and understood.

    This is a conversation about choice, autonomy, and trusting yourself, even when your decisions are misunderstood. If you’ve ever questioned whether your desires are “valid enough,” felt silenced around reproductive choice, or needed permission to define fulfillment on your own terms, this episode is for you.

    KEY THEMES
    • Reproductive choice and bodily autonomy
    • Terminating a pregnancy and navigating shame
    • Being childfree vs childless
    • Identity, motherhood, and self-preservation
    • Healing after trauma and delayed processing
    • Therapy, inner work, and unlearning conditioning
    • Choosing community and chosen family
    THIS EPISODE IS FOR YOU IF:
    • You’ve felt pressure to want motherhood
    • You’ve made reproductive choices in silence
    • You’re childfree or questioning motherhood
    • You’re doing the work of healing and self-understanding
    • You want stories that center women’s agency without judgment
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    If this episode resonated, please share it with someone who might need to hear it, and leave us a review, it helps more African women find stories that remind them they are not alone.

    Your body.
    Your life.
    Your choice.
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    55 mins