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You're exhausted, but you can't stop. You say yes when you mean no. You override the tightness in your chest and the knot in your stomach because you're supposed to be rational, agreeable, strong. But your body has been trying to tell you something. In this episode, we explore how to read your nervous system's signals, recognize the armor you're wearing, and recalibrate the magnet that keeps pulling in the wrong people. Practical examples included.

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A bite-sized episode on how to actually create change when you're already exhausted. Hint: It starts with one promise.

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Exhausted from setting boundaries that people keep crossing?

The problem isn't them—it's that what you're calling "boundaries" are actually attempts at control. And control never works.

In this episode, we break down the difference between:
- Boundaries** (what you hold up against yourself)
- Sovereignty** (choosing what you will and won't participate in)

You'll discover:

✓ Why "you need to respect my boundaries" isn't actually a boundary
✓ The 4 questions to discern real harm vs. nervous system triggers
✓ How to stop trying to control others and start making conscious choices
✓ Practical scripts you can use today: "I don't stay in conversations where there's yelling"
✓ The "flaky friend" and "critical parent" scenarios—how to set limits without villainizing
✓ The 6-step practice to reframe control impulses into sovereign choices

This episode includes:
- Body-based exercises to feel the difference in your nervous system
- The 3 pillars of sovereignty: self-knowledge, accountability, regulation
- How to know when to leave, when to speak, and when to pause
- A grounding practice to integrate what emerges

For high-functioning professionals exhausted from:
→ People-pleasing patterns
→ Boundaries that don't stick
→ Resentment from unspoken expectations
→ Not knowing if you should stay or go

No therapy-speak shields. No rigid formulas. Just honest tools for real life.

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Mentioned in this episode:
- Boundaries vs. control framework
- The 4 discernment questions
- Harm vs. trigger differentiation
- Sovereignty pillars
- 6-step practice for conscious choice-making

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Trade the noise of ten resolutions for the clarity of one word. We explore how a single intention can act like a compass aligning your goals, calming your nervous system, and making decisions simpler and more honest. Instead of forcing a new identity, we focus on trusting what’s already within you, so progress feels grounded rather than frantic.

I share why my word for 2026 is spacious and how choosing it from embodied knowing changed the way I plan, prioritize, and say no. We walk through a short breath-and-body practice to help you discover your own word, with somatic cues to know it’s right: a soft exhale, a felt yes, a subtle easing in your body. From there, we dive into practical integration, placing your word at the top of your vision board, asking it to guide choices, and using one conscious breath before you act. You’ll hear how this approach engages the vagus nerve and prefrontal cortex, strengthens the gut-heart-head connection, and builds new neural pathways for trust and focus.

We also unpack a key mindset shift: treat intention like a relationship, not a checkbox. When you forget, return. When it challenges you, get curious. Your word becomes a steady companion through messy moments, a way to stay aligned without hustling your nervous system into shutdown. Community matters too, so we invite you to share your word, be witnessed, and borrow the courage of a regulated group to reinforce your practice.

If this conversation resonates, subscribe, share it with a friend who needs a North Star, and leave a review to help others find the show. Want support choosing or integrating your word? For the live class info send email info@liftoneself.com or on social media DM @liftoneself with what’s alive for you this year.

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Forgiveness without access. That single reframe changes how you heal, set boundaries, and stop returning to what hurts.

Most of us were taught forgiveness means reconciliation that if you've truly forgiven someone, they get to come back. But forgiveness is releasing the war with reality, not granting someone access to your life.

Here's why you keep going back: you can't forgive what you haven't grieved. We skip straight to "I forgive you" without letting ourselves feel how devastated, betrayed, or disappointed we are. When you honor grief in your body instead of bypassing it in your head, you stop waiting for apologies and start choosing your freedom.

We explore:

• The difference between naming harm and blaming (so you keep your power)
• Why seeing people as they are not their potential protects your energy
• How to recognize discernment vs. the wound's voice (that "you're being cold" feeling isn't your conscience)
• What to do when nostalgia hits and your nervous system craves the familiar
• Real examples: family pressure to reconcile, friendship harm, co-parenting realities

Conversation can offer clarity, but reconciliation requires evidence of change not just hope. Love can say no. You can forgive, hold a boundary, and keep a soft heart with a strong back.

Healing isn't about being nice; it's about being free.

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Are you settling for crumbs when your life is calling you to the whole meal? We open with a clear look at why so many of us accept scraps of connection and approval texts that trickle in, one-sided friendships, invitations that feel like obligations and why that pattern can feel safer than being alone. The truth is simpler and braver: a worthiness wound trains the nervous system to seek familiar rejection and then uses each disappointment as proof that we aren’t enough. Once you name the ache, the intensity drops, and the loop loses its grip.

We unpack a real-world story that mirrors what many endure: paying to be included in spaces that don’t want us, then calling it community. From there, we map the shift from shedding season to a power season moving from performing for acceptance to honoring our needs in plain view. Think of it as changing your internal contract: stop earning your seat by overgiving and start choosing rooms where your presence is welcomed, not negotiated. Being alone becomes an informed choice, not abandonment, and it signals to your life that you are no longer available for crumbs.

You’ll hear practical guidance for what “eating the whole meal” looks like in everyday life: saying no to draining invitations, taking yourself on dates, investing in your well-being without waiting for permission, and holding a boundary even when it feels unfamiliar. We frame it with three clarifying questions to close out the shedding: what you long for, what wound you’re protecting, and what risk stands between you and release. As we step into 2026 with the energy of the horse: power, movement, momentum... you’ll have language, tools, and courage to run toward what truly wants you and let everything else fall away.

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We reframe shame as a protector and guide you through a simple somatic practice to meet what it guards. We share how negative bias binds your story and how gentle curiosity opens space for change and choice.

• shame functions as a bodyguard, not a villain
• negative bias fuses with identity and narrows choice
• looping personal narratives as a false form of safety
• somatic check-in with hand-on-body to invite expression
• curiosity and gentleness as tools for integration
• reclaiming the whole story to restore freedom
• building nervous system safety to face pain
• evolving awareness to see others with compassion

If you found anything of value in this podcast, I ask you to share it. It may be the medicine that somebody is waiting for. Please like, subscribe, and share. Help build this community.

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What happens when a high school English paper becomes a 911 call that saves a family?

In this deeply vulnerable episode, fractional COO and horsewoman Kallai Plummer takes us through her transformation from survival mode single mother to conscious parent and the therapy journey that made it possible. We open with a grounding breathwork practice before diving into the messy, beautiful work of healing generational trauma.

Kallai reveals how her daughter's cry for help became her own catalyst for change, leading both mother and daughter into parallel therapy journeys with the same therapist. The result? A complete rewiring of their relationship, from angry silence to radical honesty.

In this episode, you'll discover:

• How to recognize your nervous system as a "wild stallion" you can ride, not tame
• The difference between integration and suppression in trauma work
• Why returning to horses after 20 years became narrative alchemy for Kallai
• The parking lot mishap that revealed everything about reparenting
• How to listen without fixing when your child (or anyone) shares pain
• Why generational trauma is really about nervous system replication
• Practical somatic tools for regulation in everyday moments
• How to build a business that doesn't run you (boundaries as nervous system care)

This isn't a quick-fix episode. It's a honest map for the long game of healing complete with therapy hangovers, next-morning lifts, and the courage to show up differently than you were raised. Whether you're a parent, leader, or anyone committed to breaking cycles, Kallai's story offers both permission and practical tools.

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• Instagram: @_kalandco
• Website: www.thekalandco.com/links
• Podcast: That Big CEO Energy

"You have an opportunity to embrace what will happen and what you can make happen, and you have an opportunity to write it differently." - Kallai Plummer

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