Everything is fine until it isn't. The moment when you start noticing the twinge in your stomach, and you can't ignore it anymore, marks the threshold of an awakening to what may be the reality of toxic relationships in your life. Codependents are those who sacrifice the self for a toxic one way relationship, whereas a narcissist sacrifices the relationship for the sake of their ego. When a codependent, highly empathic individual begins to awaken, they cannot unsee what they now see: the passive aggressiveness, the stonewalling, disrespect, and minimization.

Many adult children of toxic family systems, are programmed to deny, ignore, and never feel their true feelings. They learned early that connecting with their painful inner reality threatened their connections to others, which triggered a sense of fear and abandonment. Although this is a subconscious pathway, it is possible to awaken from the faulty negative, subconscious childhood programs that are rooted in the fear of abandonment and the experience of emotional neglect.

In this episode, Lisa A. Romano unpacks the subconscious programming behind why so many trauma survivors and codependent personalities stay loyal to people who repeatedly hurt them. From passive-aggressive group chats to unspoken exclusion, emotional manipulation often hides behind denial and "that's just how they are" thinking.

But here's the truth:

You weren't born to tolerate disrespect — you were programmed to.

In this episode, you'll learn:

✨ Why your brain links saying no to abandonment and danger
🧠 How early rejection creates lifelong tolerance for BS
🎭 The difference between overt narcissists and covert "poor me" manipulators
⚔️ Why the first boundary is the hardest step — and how to push through it
🦋 How to reclaim your self-respect and rise above emotional slavery

This episode is for you if:

✔️ You make excuses for people who repeatedly disappoint you
✔️ You second-guess your instincts and minimize your own pain
✔️ You feel guilty for cutting people off — even when they hurt you
✔️ You're finally ready to stop walking on eggshells and start walking in truth

If you're ready to interrupt the subconscious patterns that keep you stuck in people-pleasing and emotional slavery, Lisa's 12 Week Breakthrough Program will guide you step by step into emotional freedom.

👉 Start here: 50% Off the 12 Week Breakthrough Method

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Do you leave certain conversations feeling drained, anxious, or foggy? Do you notice that some people you speak to have a way of causing you to feel dread? If so, you may have just encountered an energy vampire, someone who literally survives through controlling your consciousness through language, tone, body movements, innuendos, and comments that cause you to wonder what their true intentions are.

In this deep and practical episode, Lisa A. Romano, trauma-informed life coach and codependency recovery expert, reveals how to recognize, neutralize, and heal from energetic drain in relationships.

You'll learn how energy vampires operate, how trauma wires your nervous system to attract them, and—most importantly—how to stop giving your energy away. Lisa also explores the shadow side of codependency, showing how even caring, selfless people can unknowingly drain others when they haven't healed their inner wounds.

In this episode, you'll discover:
⚡ The 6 main types of energy vampires — from emotional dumpers to subtle saboteurs
💔 Why unresolved trauma makes you vulnerable to energetic hijacking
🧠 The neuroscience of emotional contagion and why boundaries protect your nervous system
🪞 How to tell if you're the one draining others—and how to stop
🌿 Practical energy-clearing tools: the "psychological condom," breath resets, and somatic boundaries
✨ The balance between compassion and discernment—loving others without abandoning yourself

This episode is for you if:
✔️ You feel exhausted or irritable after helping others
✔️ You struggle to say no without guilt
✔️ You're healing from toxic, narcissistic, or draining relationships
✔️ You're ready to reclaim your emotional sovereignty and peace

Begin Your Breakthrough
Lisa's 12 Week Breakthrough Program offers the neuroscience-based roadmap to reprogram subconscious people-pleasing patterns, strengthen emotional boundaries, and reconnect with your authentic self.
👉 Start your healing journey: here

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When you are an adult child of emotional neglect, or were raised in an alcoholic, narcissistic, or unpredictable home, you are not aware of how your brain wires the nervous system to be locked in survival mode. Daughters and sons of toxic parents learned to survive through hypervigilance, scanning the faces, moods, and body movements of those around them. This type of scanning, codes the brain for survival and fear anticipation.

The problem is, adult children from abusive, neglectful or toxic homes do not know this has occurred. From within the ego system, the little self assumes that what it feels, anticipates and experiences is all there is. This is why so many well meaning, and fully committed adult children who seek inner growth, personal development and healing, are baffled by why they feel so stuck.

Being prepared saves your brain energy, but when you are emotionally wounded in childhood, you do not know how your brain keeps you stuck in survival, and unable to escape, thereby locking you into loops of self sabotaging behaviors regardless of how often you hear your conscious mind screaming for something new and improved.

You'll learn:
• Why trauma trains the brain to predict danger (and pick the same partners/jobs)
• How insecure attachment, fawning & people-pleasing sabotage manifestation
• The role of the default mode network, metacognition & observer consciousness
• Practical tools to down-regulate, update your "inner algorithm," and choose new codes
• How to trust divine intuition without bypassing the science

Next step
Start healing your inner child today with Lisa's 12 Week Breakthrough Program.

Not sure where to begin?

Take the free quiz and see your best path.→ visit

Email coach@lisaaromano.com

You are enough.

Namaste.

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If you were raised in a dysfunctional, toxic home, and you struggle today with codependency, self-worth, and relationships, it is easy to lose a sense of meaning and purpose in life. Childhood trauma arrests the mind in a state of hypervigilance, worry, and fear. And although that is not your fault, if this is your experience, until we stop, look within, and take the time to integrate the past with the now, our future becomes a copy of the past, like it or not.

There is great hope for the one willing to go within.

Lisa A. Romano gently unpacks why so many of us feel stuck chasing something outside ourselves—while the real answer lives in the now. Through neuroscience, psychology, and spiritual wisdom, she shows how trauma wires the brain to equate authenticity with danger, creating the illusion of separation from your highest self— and how to integrate, regulate, and come home to who you truly are.

You'll learn:
• Why the brain's prediction machine keeps you looping old stories
• How the ego clings to identities (both "I'm great" and "I'm broken") to feel safe
• Using mindfulness & metacognition to quiet the default mode network
• Practical ways to down-regulate the nervous system and end the inner war
• The first veil to break: "I am separate from my true self"
• How integration (not perfection) creates purpose, peace, and presence

Chapters
00:00 Welcome – If meaning feels out of reach
02:12 Trauma, neurology & the illusion of self
06:45 The first veil: separation from the higher self
10:18 Why your brain resists authenticity (safety vs. unfamiliar)
14:30 Ego identities on both ends of the spectrum
18:40 Mindfulness, observer mode & metacognition
22:55 Integration over fragmentation: ending the inner war
27:40 Rewiring shame & reclaiming self-worth
32:10 Unity, love-consciousness & true purpose in the now
36:50 Your next steps + resources

Take the next step
Ready for a map to rewire your mind and reconnect to your true self? Join Lisa's 12 Week Breakthrough Program to heal at the subconscious level, regulate your nervous system, and integrate your higher self into daily life.

👉 Start here: here
Need guidance on which program fits you best?

Email coach@lisaaromano.com.

You are enough!

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Why do we get stuck on the path of healing—even when we know what to do? In this profound and spiritually charged episode, Lisa A. Romano explores what it truly means to break through the veil—the illusion of the false self that trauma and programming have built around our consciousness.

Lisa reveals how trauma rewires the brain to associate authenticity with danger, causing us to abandon our true selves and live from the ego's illusion of safety. Through the lens of neuroscience, psychology, and spirituality, she helps listeners understand why healing requires more than insight—it requires reprogramming the mind and meeting the shadow self head-on.

In this episode, you'll learn:
✨ How trauma wires the brain for survival over truth and authenticity
🧠 Why the brain mistakes the unfamiliar (like love or peace) as unsafe
💫 What "breaking the mirror of self" means on a neurological and spiritual level
🪞 How to detach from false identity—"I'm not my thoughts, not my fears, not my name"
🌌 Why ego death is necessary for spiritual rebirth and emotional freedom
⚡ How to move from survival into thriving through conscious awareness and metacognition

This episode is for you if:
✔️ You feel spiritually stuck even after years of self-work
✔️ You struggle to let go of people, habits, or beliefs that no longer serve you
✔️ You crave emotional freedom and want to understand why your brain resists change
✔️ You're ready to see beyond the illusion of self and live as an extension of consciousness

Begin Your Breakthrough
Lisa's 12 Week Breakthrough Program gives you the neuroscience-based roadmap to rewire your subconscious mind, calm your nervous system, and reconnect with your true self beyond trauma and illusion.
👉 Start your journey today: https://www.lisaaromano.com/12-wbcp

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Why do so many high-functioning adults secretly feel "something's wrong"—even when life looks fine on paper? In this empowering episode, Lisa A. Romano uncovers the ACOA blind spot: the predictable patterns that form when alcoholism (or "dry" alcoholism) and emotional neglect shape a family system. You'll learn the five core patterns that keep adult children and grandchildren of alcoholics stuck—and the practical roadmap for getting your power, clarity, and self-respect back.

The 5 patterns you'll recognize:

1. Reality Denied — Gaslighting and minimization train you to distrust your own signals

2. Feelings Weren't Safe — Emotions got linked to danger, so you muted your inner compass

3. Survival Roles = Identity — Caretaker/hero/scapegoat/lost child replace authentic selfhood

4. Wired for Chaos — The brain's predictive coding + hypervigilance keep you on high alert

5. Internalized Shame — The hidden "I'm the problem" lens that sabotages love and worth

You'll also learn:

• How to bring the prefrontal cortex online and soothe Amy the amygdala & Harry the hippocampus

• Journaling and mindfulness practices that reorganize the mind and rebuild self-trust

• Language to spot covert denial, dry alcoholism, and narcissistic dynamics—fast

This episode is for you if:

• No one in your family talks about addiction, yet dysfunction is obvious

• You're praised for being "strong," but feel unseen, anxious, or chronically not enough

• You keep tolerating disrespect or pick partners who exploit your caretaking

• You're ready to identify the hole in the wall—and finally fix it

Begin Your Breakthrough
Lisa's 12 Week Breakthrough Program gives you a step-by-step, neuroscience-based path to calm your nervous system, reprogram subconscious patterns, and rebuild a self-concept rooted in worthiness.
👉 Start your journey: https://www.lisaaromano.com/12-wbcp

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Codependents, people-pleasers, those who fawn, seek approval, and external validation, do not consciously understand why they are so frustrated and unhappy. Codependency and fawning are trauma responses that all lead to anger, and resentment. Oftentimes, those who are struggling with emotional and mental health issues, who seek help, are misunderstood when they are codependent. Their symptoms are vague, yet incredibly disruptive and tormenting. When a codependent seeks help, they complain about others, because they have been programmed to believe that someone or something outside of them is the cure for their ills.

In this episode, Lisa A. Romano reveals how knowledge helps us organize the mind. Taking an objective look at our family of origin history helps unlock the secrets to why we do what we do, think what we think, and feel what we feel. When Lisa was finally diagnosed with codependency, and her therapist helped her investigate her family history, feeling stuck, angry, and resentful all began making sense.

Today you will learn about:

🌱 Family history and why it matters if you feel stuck.

🌱 Why anxiety is a symptom of a lack of self-knowledge.

🌱 How learning to embrace inner child and codependency recovery work helps you repair those early stages of emotional development that went awry

🌱How your grandparents alcoholism effected the way your parents parent you

🌱 Why all adult children of alcoholics, narcissists and dysfunctional parents pass along unhealed trauma

Lisa's 12 Week Breakthrough Program is a neuroscience-based roadmap to help you gently rewire subconscious patterns, regulate your nervous system, and return home to your authentic self.

👉 Begin your journey: https://www.lisaaromano.com/12-wbcp

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Have you ever been accused of being a problem simply because you brought up a problem? In healthy relationships, it is essential that couples feel safe and are on the same page. It is normal to want your relationship to grow, and to wonder where the line is when it comes to bringing things to your partner's attention that you would like to change. However, there are red flags you need to be aware of particularly if you struggle with fawning, people pleasing, insecure attachment and tend to be the codependent partner in relationships.

In this episode, Lisa A. Romano Codependency Expert and Breakthrough Life Coach, helps us get clear about some communication guidelines that can help us make clear, logical, and fair decsions about our relationships.

• Does your partner accuse you of being the only problem simply because you want to talk about a problem?
• Are they passive-aggressive, and do they punish you for bringing up an issue you'd like to work out?
• Do they deny a problem exists at all, making it impossible for you to experience any movement forward in your relationship or resolution?
• Are you being gaslit, devalued, or ignored for talking about a real issue?

Consider these red flags, and also ask yourself:

• Does my partner have the willingness to listen?
• Are they capable of real change?
• Do they want to work on the relationship?

Before walking away or making any major life decisions, getting clear about your partner's behaviors, intentions, and level of willingness to discuss, change, or work on marital issues, allows you to act on your own behalf with confidence rather than codependently.

Ready to Conquer the Inner Child Wounds that Keep You Repeating Codependency?

Click below to learn more about The 12 Week Breakthrough Coaching Program—a trauma-informed, neuroscience-based coaching program created specifically for adult children of narcissistic, neglectful, or emotionally immature caregivers, who are ready to ascend the chains of the past.

Inside the program, you'll be guided through:

• Brain retraining techniques rooted in neuroscience
• Inner child healing and self-concept reorganization
• Neuroscience Backed Journaling prompts and assessments to increase self-awareness
• Tools to stop subconscious self-abandonment and start living from your true self
• Embrace shadow work from a higher state of consciousness to experience integration

This method has helped thousands heal from complex trauma and break toxic generational patterns, with tools to rewire limiting beliefs and build authentic self-worth.

👉 Learn more: here

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